Why is my mother always treating me like I'm a freaking 5 year old? I want to strangle her?

Question

I just came home from work today and I was looking in the fridge... no food. I asked my mother why she didn't go shopping (not for food, I was talking about something completely unrelated to food) and she started going on her bitchy route. She was screaming at me like I asked her something offensive... (like why does she rape little children or something, she doesn't, she acted like I stabbed her in her heart). She does this all the freaking time, and I'm tired of it. I just turned 18 a few days ago, I do not do drugs, alcohol, I am graduating from HS early (Halloween), and I have a good job. I'm so proud of my accomplishments, but she makes me feel like I'm nothing and that I'll mount to nothing. I just do not know where to go. California is expensive, but the schools here are cheap and they have this good program for me. Everyone else on my family lives on the other side of the country.

I thought about saving up for an apartment (roomies) next year... idk.

She makes me miserable and I feel happier when I'm not around her. She mocks me all day long, etc. Yea, I know. Stop complaining. I'm just venting and because I have no one to talk to. I do not want people to know that I despise my mother. When I found her on the floor two weeks ago, I was actually hoping that she would die. :/

... I never ask that witch for anything; I have paid for everything that belongs to me since I was 15 years old.

LOL, TALK TO HER? LAST TIME I DID THAT, SHE WENT PSYCHO ON ME.

Even my mother's bipolar friend would say to my mother: "Don't talk you your daughter like that, why do you talk to her like that?"

Answer 1

its very normal to feel this way..just move yourself..change your situation..you will be fine..

Answer 2

Well those are some harsh words!

From a mother's perspective... It is hard for a mother when she realizes that her baby is an adult, is about ready to graduate from high school, has a job and is becomming independent. Not all mothers handle this very well and they begin to act stupid towards the child.
Asking a question about shopping could have struck a chord with your mother if she was tired, or if she works or has been busy and just did not have the chance to get to the store. My daughter use to ask me if I would like her to go to the store for me because she knew that I worked all day long and sometimes I just simply did not get the chance to get to the store. A majority of the time, I would give her the money and tell her yes!!!

Have you tried talking to your mother in a normal tone and discuss the recent happenings? I know that I would be in the state of shock if one of my kids wanted to just "talk"... Usually kids are always asking for things and that is the only time that they talk to their parents... especially teenagers!
Moving into your own place is not quite as easy as you make it out to be. Finding good roommates is not all that easy too, especially in California... There are a lot of weirdos in CA.... and this is coming from someone that was born, raised, and still living in Cali. You need to be careful and do some serious thinking before you make a rash decision about moving out on your own, it is not as easy as some think it is.

Answer 3

listen i am 25 and my entire family treats me like i'mturning 5 so i know what you are definitly talking about well ask her too her face why does she hate you so much what did i ever do wrong if she can't look you in the face then she will never give you the right answer for two reasons and this can be all speculation because i don't know you or your family history if (1) she might treat you this way because you might resemble your father that might of left the family and she hates everything about him and to look or deal with you infuriates her to noend and no fault of your own drives her to act this way
(2)maybe shes jealous of you because you probably are doing things she could never do at your age because of the way her family treated her at your age because if you are a good person and do what you are supposed to do at home and in public then there should be no reason for her to act this way
so confront her like i mentioned earlier and see what happens also use what i have written see if it helps i hated my mother for so long because of the way she was physically abusive and verbally abusive even if i did extremely well in school she could of cared less her soap operas were more important than her own son now its a little different becausei'm much older and her old tactics don't work also the fact that i'm dying has allot to do with her overall attitude because the fact that i look exactly like the one she hated no longer matters and because of my situation like i said in the past i live with her now 25yrs old and she treats me like i was 5 well to an extent lol and like i told you hand in there one day you'll realize that moms approval mean s#!t

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Get a roommate now and move out. Just because people reproduce does not make them parents and so called "mothers" like yours don't have to be tolerated. You are already doing everything yourself, simply advertise for a roommate or look for someone who needs one and move out. Good luck to you, you can break the cycle.

Answer 6

shes sounds like she could be jealous and hateful, reason because of your accomplishments. you are just going to have to get out of there and you should never say things like you wish she was dead not good at all sweetie move on you are doing great dont let her ruin that for you