my bf loves me and wanted to ask me to marry him. he needed a friend to tlk to and his friends wouldnt listen, so he tlked to this girl. they started tlkin about it and eventually became friends, she pushed herself on him. and he resisted. one time he didnt and he let her kiss him but he pushed her away. then it happened again and he pushed her away and pulled her back and then pushed her away again. this time he told her off n never talked to her again. we have been together for 3 years and he didnt mean to hurt me. this girl has a rep for trying to split up couples, and now she brags and says she accomplished what she wanted. i cant quit picturing them kissing. only when i picture it he is enjoying it. he didnt really enjoy it. he hated it. he stopped it himself, and hes really truly sorry. when wil this sick feeling go away? when will i get over it? plz help. i love him to death....he didnt mean to hurt me...HOW can i get over this?
2007-10-14 15:22:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
.....he didnt tell me he thought it would just go away. i know he didnt mean it bc HE DIDNT MEAN TO. it was truly an accident. and he changed out of the class....and changed his cell number...he absolutely wants nothing to do with the backstabbing *****...
2007-10-14 15:31:47 · update #1
your boyfriend didn't have to continue spending time around this girl after her FIRST attempt at kissing, did he?
why are you letting this situation bother you if he isn't going to be talking to her. your self-esteem is suffering if you are taking this seriously. the girl is cruel and stupid... you aren't. remember it!!!
2007-10-14 15:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
OK... now, I think you need to stop lying to yourself! If my math is right, this kiss thing happened 3 times. Correct me if I'm wrong. Now let's recap:
He needed a friend to talk to: (where were you?) he turned to her! (mistake 1)
1 time he let her kiss him, but pushed her away! HAHAHA...stop lying to yourself (you are so much smarter then you let on)
Then it happened again! now, let's look at this for a minute... if the first time he pushed her away, then that would mean A SECOND TIME should NEVER happen! NEVER! How could it? He shouldn't have kept in contact with her, right?
THIS TIME? Number 3? Wow...how does a girl get away with stealing kisses 3 times...
Have you thought about that? And you wonder why you keep imagining your boyfriend enjoying it? Well, he did! Believe me... 3rd time was the charm and you are foolish enough to blame it all on this girl...
I know you love him to death because you are sitting here tricking yourself into believing he loves you just as much and that it was all this girl.
What's going to happen when it happens a 4th time? Or what will happen when a new girl is in the picture doing the same thing? Eventually you need to wake up! The way to get over this is to get over him. I know you don't want to hear that, but he's going to continue hurting you. And now he sees you are dumb enough to stick around!
2007-10-14 15:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but if he REALLY didn't want to kiss her, he wouldn't keep putting himself in situations where he was going to wind up kissing her. Just know that. After that, it's up to you whether or not you trust him enough to keep being in a relationship with him. Sure he didn't mean to hurt you. No one WANTS to hurt their girlfriend in these situations. But that doesn't change the fact that he did, and he needs to hold himself accountable for his actions. It takes two people to share a kiss, and it takes a dishonest boyfriend to put himself in a situation for that to happen on three seperate occasions. So you're either going to just have to suck it up and forgive and forget; or you're better off cutting your losses and letting this die. In the grand scheme of things, I think a kiss can be forgiven. It's not like he screwed her or anything. But I, personally, don't trust him when he says he didn't want it/didn't like it. And you should be weary of that. Good luck.
2007-10-14 15:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mister Platinum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a really hard thing to get over, but once someone cheats or even as little as kiss another person, you never truely get over it. You can say you forgive him but it will always be in the back of your mind. And if you really cant get over it, you may not realize it but there must be a part of you that does not trust him, and if theres not trust in a relationship, theres not a relationship there to begin with.
Good Luck.
2007-10-14 15:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're making excuses for him. If a guy truly doesn't want the attention of another girl, he can say no the first, second, third........But he didn't. He gave her every reason to think that he wanted more of the same. There's a saying that if they will do it once, it'll happen again and again. Don't play head games with yourself.
2007-10-14 15:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't get over the feeling if you keep picturing it. Be strong and continue to be with him. If he didn't mean it, trust him. Picture this.... YOU are the one with him, YOU are the one he confided it. It is your relationship. If it worth being in, it is worth working at. Maybe the tramp thinks she won but she didn't, you have always been the winner, he is your boyfriend. Just picture the two of you. It isn't easy but you can do it!
2007-10-14 15:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by butterfin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is really the case that he pushed her off and didn't enjoy it, you should be so glad he told you the truth!!! maybe you need to just forget it and i know it might be hard, but wash his lips and then kiss him a billion times!!! eve though it might not make up for what happened, time will eventually make the "kiss" slip out of your mind, and if it doesn't you jsut have to get past it. he is the one for you and you guys will always love eachother, weather or not this SLUT is trying to break you guys up.. go kiss him NOWW!!! =]]
2007-10-14 15:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
"he didnt really enjoy it. he hated it. "
That is a bold faced flat out lie. He kept a relationship up with a woman he knew had the hots for him and then kissed her not once, not twice, but THREE times. Get a clue. He is a cheater.
edit- An accident?! What did he trip and fall on her lips?! Stop fooling yourself.
2007-10-14 15:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
If he told you what happened and it never happened again, then I don't see what you're tripping about. He loves you, you love him, that's all that matters. What good is it that she is bragging if he is with you and not with her? He rejected her!!!
stop poisoning your relationship with these ugly thoughts. If you decided to forgive him for what he did, then forgive, forget and go on with your life.
2007-10-14 15:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mandibulin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's definitely going to be hard to forget. You need to make sure your boyfriend no longer talks to that girl- if he continues to talk to her against your request then obviously he really likes her.
Also, after they kissed the first time- he continued to spend time with her so obviously something was up. I wouldn't trust him.
2007-10-14 15:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by Madison 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well... i would say, go talk to him about it until there is nothing left to say and you feel better, he says he loves you, and should therefore have no problem in reassuring you that he didnt want it to happen. just talk to him, talking can clear up everything.
2007-10-14 15:27:33 · answer #11 · answered by Schecter18 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋