Family & Relationships - 8 October 2007

I know, I know....I shouldn't be messing around with a married man, but truthfully didn't know he was, til late in the game. I want to be with him, full time, and he claims he wants the same...yet sometimes I have this horrible feeling, when we're making love, that he has just done the same with someone else...(someone else, meaning his wife). He swears on his life, etc, that he hasn't had intimate relations with her since BEFORE we met and started having sex allllllll the time. Of course I want to believe him, what a nice form of flaugtery, yet I'm a realist and know that the odds are stacked against me...Soooo, how do you know if what he says is true...? How could I find out from her, or a friend of his???Any suggestions?

2007-10-08 18:17:50 · 19 answers · asked by 2much_luvin' 1 in Singles & Dating

I just feel like my life has no meaning, like I have nothing to live for. I mean I am 21 and I have no bf, and just about everyone at this college is black and very rude or unapprochable, and it doesn't help that I have mild autism and can't drive or find any guys who can understand me and not make fun of or try to take advantage of me. So I feel that the only reason I have to live is if I can make myself feel good by doing or learning things. But when I don't do that I just start to feel bad again, like I let myself down. And my mother met an extremely crazy bipolar woman named Crystal from Troy, NY online, and in May 2006 Crystal came to our house in Maryland and we had to pack whatever we could into a moving van all in 1 day while my father was out of the house because my mother wanted to move to Troy, NY and live with Crystal without telling my father.

2007-10-08 18:15:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I'm 30, My Mom is 75 now, she had me when she was older, everyone always thought she was 10 years younger but this year I have noticed her old age show. Shes slower, less full of life, etc. She always walked faster than me but now she slows down and at times its hard for her.. Makes me feel sad...
We went to an exhibit, i was parking my car and the attendent asked her if she wanted to wait at the front because the parking space was far, She felt so bad, she was almost in tears and told me " i guess im a little old lady"
I said no, he just wants older people to be safe.

So im not sure how to cheer her up? What do i do? what do I say?

2007-10-08 18:14:49 · 7 answers · asked by Jetglam 1 in Family

I've posted this before, would like to get more insight. Please read..I've filed for child support and am deciding even though I told him to file since it's what he wanted to maybe take the initiative to file because he hasn't handled his business in the past...made other wives file so all he had to do was sign. We were married in California a community property state. I want to try to get the house and at least half of everything...me and the kids have a right to it. He thinks he can just do whatever, I need to let him know I am not playing games.

read this
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhwpalEnl5AQLytEgpP4k4rty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20070915154159AAtaHQY

Mature and serious answers please. This is a very crucial and important decision I have to make, Dec. 9 is when I'll be able to file. I would love to have my marriage completely restored, and I will pray that if it's not God's will for this divorce to go through he will intervene.

2007-10-08 18:14:47 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I've casually dated a girl for about a month now. Not really BF/GF, but have gotten physical.

From the get go, i thought she was cool, and i was attracted to her, but it wasn't one of those butterfly in your stomach type of deals....

Ok, now a couple nights ago...I was going to meet her at a nightclub where she was with a friend, and I brought a friend along too...so at the club now...her friend that i meet, who i heard of (and liked) through my sorta GF is basically this bombshell....perfect girl of my dreams type..personality...everything....like everything i look for in a person..she didn't end up liking my friend either

I have thoughts of leaving this girl regardless of whether i hook up with her friend or not, if i could get some different insight posting this question here, i would appreciate it

I guess what i want to know is, would it be wrong of me to pursue the friend?? And Girls, would you date someone who dated a friend of yours?(if he respectfully ended with GF)

2007-10-08 18:12:12 · 27 answers · asked by topmanga 1 in Singles & Dating

I keep flirting with the idea that he never will. I gave him a few ultimatiums, but he always has excuses. Yet when we're together, its like he and I are the only 2 on the planet. Nothing else matters and I lose myself in him....I can tell it's just as intense for him, yet I want committment...Will I get it anytime soon???

2007-10-08 18:10:11 · 32 answers · asked by 2much_luvin' 1 in Marriage & Divorce

CLOSE friends for 3 yrs and he's secretly liked me but he never went for it b/c he thought the chances of being w. me were slim only to find out that after all this time, I felt the same way back - I was the first girl he fell in love with (both in our 20's and gave him his first kiss; no sex just kisses) BUT we decided to be friends and not to rush (i would be his first girlfriend and said he wanted somethinf more "real, long lasting" with me - "shy guy type") When things were getting normal, "life challenges" (death) and rumors/assumptions from friends made us drift apart (he pushed me away) and it created tension BUT rather than giving up or seeking revenge, we worked it out and everything is starting to be better than before, the relationship grew (this happened in a 9 month span)

Now i feel that he's changed, i don't know if it's pain he's felt when he lost his friend (or something else) and this is going to take years (or jut time in general) for him to be that normal guy i met. I know people change but it's not "growth" - he's different. He used to be this fun-loving guy and now he's so serious about things. He's not as open and vulnerable and would say certain things to put up a front and "seem" like he doesn't care (although i KNOW he does) i feel that we're starting over from the very beginning from when we first met. He was sooo unusually quiet with me and normal and outgoing with everyone else. He's closed up and seems to not care AS MUCH and has these defense mechanisms... Everything is okay with us agaiin but everytime we get close (in general) like before, he'll step back - WHY? What do i do? Do i leave him alone completely so he'll know that he can't take people for granted? Or just swallow my pride and work hard for it? Do shy guys close up when they experience tragedy?

2007-10-08 18:08:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

but we arnt going to have sex...wat are some other good things we can do sexually without actually having sex....and how...showerin

2007-10-08 18:07:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am going to be a father in about 7 months, it was unexpected and the women is so mad that I am not going to marry her, but I don't want to get married with her. I am going to be there for the baby, I just can't marry her just because she is pregnant.She thinks I am the worst person in the world for not doing it and I don't want to argue with her because she is going through a lot right now.Am I a bad person for not marrying her?

2007-10-08 18:00:38 · 17 answers · asked by Polar Bear 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I've learned more than I wanted to know about some of my old friends through myspace

2007-10-08 17:58:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

my father and i were never close. he had a bad drug/alcohol addiction. he left when i was a baby i remember a visit w/ him wheni was 6 i had so much fun w/ him i (then he freaked out and started coming down from his high and scared the hell out of me) i never relaly saw him afte4r that. i always felt abandoned and unwanted. then he got sick his gf (who new about me) didnt tell the hospital of any relatives he was only 46 his kidney and liver were failing and he was on life support as soon as the hospital found out they called. (this was on sept 28th) somehow thru my name they got my aunt (his sister) she then contacted me i todl her i dint want to make any choices i iddnt feel it was my place to i didnt no him like she did. she chose to take him off life support bc he was never happy (he was the cause for an aaciddent that killed my uncle when they were teens thus making for a very difficult guilty life for my dad)he was in north carlina in a hospital i (and his family) r in pennsylva

2007-10-08 17:53:00 · 8 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family

i need get away! away from everything! where should i go?

2007-10-08 17:51:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I ask cause my family is on my back about me leaving my wife. Telling me i will loose Gods blessings and that i will be on my way to hell and that i will ruin my kids lives.

So yea, can God (Jesus) bless a second marriage?

2007-10-08 17:51:20 · 11 answers · asked by Jason F 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I feel like im so ugly and fat i think im stupid and that ill never get the boy i like to like me back.I want to be better all around.My mom tells me im perfect the way iam but why do i think soo little of my self?Sometimes i cry at night i feel so awful i also wish my dad was a better person and not always drunk so i could at least see him(my parents are divorced)plus my friends recently started to call me a ******* and a ***** i feel so lame.what is this that im feeling and what should i do about it?

2007-10-08 17:51:16 · 8 answers · asked by Liv 3 in Family

I have been having some financial problems lately. While I can afford to pay for my bills and rent I don't have any money left over for anything other then bills. Well a friend of mine is also having financial problems and they have a 3 bedroom home with just them there they offered me a room in their home and we split all the bills. The problem is I am not sure if its a good idea for me to move in with them. They are a couple and I am use to being independent. What would you do. Do you think it would be smart for me to move in with a couple and would you consider doing something like this as a way to save money?

2007-10-08 17:50:37 · 4 answers · asked by <Carol> 5 in Friends

I need to move out because husband and I are divorcing, but I don't have a car, I don't have a job, I live in a city so walking everywhere is an issue obviously, and I have a baby, so I need a good enough paying job to take care of her and I. I don't have any friends that can help me out, and my family lives far away and disagrees with my choice to divorce hubby.

What would you do? I need a car to get a job, and I need a job to get a place.. just a little frustrated. Any suggestions?!

2007-10-08 17:46:16 · 6 answers · asked by In over my head 2 in Marriage & Divorce

and what do they do

2007-10-08 17:46:10 · 4 answers · asked by coookiesssss 1 in Singles & Dating

My crush's birthday is coming up, and I want to kiss him. What's the best way to do it in a surprising way? (We're both 29.)

2007-10-08 17:45:53 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've never had the typical "father" you can go to - the one that gets sensitive and protective with his daughters...don't know if it's a cultural thing but he's been more of an army general than a dad - rather than giving advice he'll lecture for hours, we don't hug or kiss - no affection

He's been unemployed for more than 10 yrs and took care of me and my sibling; "mr. mom" while our mom went to work. He's introverted, possessive, controlling, bossy, drama queen, insecure, and paranoid - he can never deal with stress AT ALL and is never calm...

i'm sick of his drama and i just keep telling myself, when i'm done with school, i'll leave home...i know he's my dad and that's who he is, but i'm just sick of his crap...it sucks i never got to have a real dad...

2007-10-08 17:45:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We all have tendencies to be complacent, to be relaxed when we are with someone and feel loved so much. We tend to take our relationship in stride thinking that its okay, nothing bad will happen until it's too late.

2007-10-08 17:45:32 · 1 answers · asked by Samantha L 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-08 17:45:17 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i think that's kinda weird. and he will not have physical contact with me unless he is nice and clean. so many rules. anyway, i been trying to compromise with him but its kinda tiring really. i have to be the one who keeps things fresh not him. do you think i am keener than him?

2007-10-08 17:44:49 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I know a guy in my apartment building and I bump into him often. We always say hi and sometimes talk a bit. He seems basically a lot like my other buddies so I'd like to get to know him better. I'm just worried if I suggest we get coffee or hang out it'll come off as gay. Does this sound gay to you because I don't want to offend him needlessly. By the way, I'm not gay.

2007-10-08 17:38:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I posted this question before in the past, and I do apologize for deleting the the question. I was very upset when I invited a girl I met online on a trip and she refused to be my date. Deep in the bottom of my heart, I am VERY sorry to everyone on the board for my abrupt behavior. I may be quiet, but I'm hardworking, decent and have a lot of bright things going for me. I'm sure there has to be at least one out of hundreds of billions out there who is sweet, loving, and very caring. Will you be willing to help me?

2007-10-08 17:38:32 · 13 answers · asked by lalapunk 1 in Singles & Dating

Do men mind if their wifes masterbate when they are not home? My spouse does not mind if I do it in front of him but gets mad if I do it when he is not at home. What do you think?

2007-10-08 17:37:32 · 18 answers · asked by Jennifer M 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Recently I got back in touch with a friend I went to high school with. I hadn't spoken to her since we graduated, 5 years ago. Well I have been invited to her wedding which is next weekend and I have no idea what to get her. Her soon to be husband and her have their own home and having been living together for a few years, so for the most part they have everything. I have looked threw all of the gift registries in the area and most of what they want is WAY over my budget. I am curious as what I should get her that isn't going to break my husband and I....Any suggestions would be wonderful..

2007-10-08 17:37:30 · 5 answers · asked by Jessica 6 in Weddings

Where is the sexy womans are?

2007-10-08 17:34:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-08 17:32:47 · 29 answers · asked by Jade S 1 in Singles & Dating

He is just plain dirty now. He has body odor and he doesnt care. He wants to make love, but he is not fresh, and its a turn off. I am wondering what I can do or how I can be more tactful telling him to wash it or get away from me. Any suggestions.
He came to my bed in the same shirt he wore to a ball game on Sunday. The temp was 90 degrees outside and I cannot believe he didnt shower or clean up. Then he was all over me trying to have sex. Do some men not realize they stink?
How can I get the point across or are all men this way?

2007-10-08 17:31:55 · 17 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Singles & Dating

And why?

2007-10-08 17:28:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce