I like my girlfriends friend!! What to do???!!!?

Question

I've casually dated a girl for about a month now. Not really BF/GF, but have gotten physical.

From the get go, i thought she was cool, and i was attracted to her, but it wasn't one of those butterfly in your stomach type of deals....

Ok, now a couple nights ago...I was going to meet her at a nightclub where she was with a friend, and I brought a friend along too...so at the club now...her friend that i meet, who i heard of (and liked) through my sorta GF is basically this bombshell....perfect girl of my dreams type..personality...everything....like everything i look for in a person..she didn't end up liking my friend either

I have thoughts of leaving this girl regardless of whether i hook up with her friend or not, if i could get some different insight posting this question here, i would appreciate it

I guess what i want to know is, would it be wrong of me to pursue the friend?? And Girls, would you date someone who dated a friend of yours?(if he respectfully ended with GF)

Thank you for all your responses.

Ok, yes, i plan to tell this girl my true feelings (current GF). But, part of the attraction to her friend is this. The current GF always talks about the friend as if it's a chore to hang out with her... and that she's boring, she talks too much...blah blah blah...and then when i finally meet the friend, she's nothing like that...in fact, i found her more interesting that my GF....

So really they're not "best-friends"...more like 'old friends'.

I can't help feeling kinda asshole-ish but the friend is a person who i could consider seriously for the long haul, and would love to have an opportunity at.

Here's a little twist to the story. The girl i'm currently dating...used to date an 'old friend' of mine who i really dislike, and so does she. The getting physical on part for both of us, to degree, was almost out of spite.

Thanks in advance for your time to respond!

Answer 1

Your young, and unmarried, be with whom you wish to be with if you want your gf's friend more then be with her, if you like your gf better stay with her, its simple no need to stress over this. If hurting your gf is what worries you, take the fact love is selfless and breaking up with her and being with her friend will show her true colors of weather or not she loves you or just wanted you for attention. believe it or not don't stress.

Answer 2

Girlfriends Friend

Answer 3

I wouldn't date a guy who dated a friend unless that friend was okay with it.
I think you need to tell your sorta g/f that you're not really into dating her anymore.
Don't lead her on, it's one of the worst things you can do. She'll end up hurting worse in the end if you don't tell her right away. I'm sure you don't want to hurt anyone.
Be honest and ask her if yous can still be friends or at least have no hard feelings.

Good Luck

Answer 4

I think it would be tacky to do that. It could cause the girlfriends to be angry at each other. Do you really even know the other girl? Or just going by how she looks. Try to find someone else if at all possible. If you simply must, then give it a considerable amount of time after breaking up with the first girl, before you start up with the other girl, so you don't
hurt her feelings real bad.

Answer 5

damn - tight pickle here. That's a big gamble. Normally, if you try to date a g/f's friend, the friend will see you as her friend does. What makes her think that you won't leave her for someone else? Then again, if you have an extremely understanding g/f, then she won't put up much of a fight - then again...you could ruin a friendship. You have to determine if that is really worth the gamble. Many possibilities, here - so make sure you know what you're doing.

Answer 6

I would not recommend this course of action. It usually ends poorly no matter how "respectfully" a guy ends it with his current girlfriend in order to date her friend. Also, you met this person at a club? How can you know if she is this perfect girl? How can you get to know someone in that noisy place. Besides, last time I checked (which is quite often), there are thousands of beautiful women on this planet. Conveniently, most of them don't know your current girlfriend.

Answer 7

You have heard the saying "bros before Hos" and this is the same situation. I have never and will never share a man or take one that has been with a friend. Too many complications and some women will lose friendships over a guy. Do you wanna be the guy in the middle? DRAMA!!!!!!!

Answer 8

majority of girls will not date somebody that once dated one of their girlfriends. It will put a strain on the relationship with their gf, however, u do not seem to have any obligations with this girl, and if there is a chance this other girl is interested, and if u dont care about the relation between her and her gf, then go for it

Answer 9

Sounds simple, huh? Didn't work out with one girl, and the girl's friend is perfect, so why not jump from one 'ship' to the other.

One word: DISASTER

I've never seen this work out without someone getting really ticked off. Here's what will happen if you make the jump:
1. Your first girlfriend and her friend will stop speaking to one another, and her friend will eventually feel that her friendship with her friend is more important than going with someone like you ("you dissed my friend, you'll dis me") OR,
2. You will strike out with the friend and they will both end up hating you.

Give this idea up. If you don't hit it off with the one you're with now, move on. Don't ever break "sisters" up. You'll lose every time. Trust me.

Answer 10

unfortunately for all of the male species, the friend switch is not up to you. Jesus made it so that when a man dates a woman in a certain social circle, he is off-limits to the other women in that circle forever. Unless you can get girl #2 to leave the circle, don't waste your time. Find another circle.