Why do i feel so lame,dumb, and sad ?

Question

I feel like im so ugly and fat i think im stupid and that ill never get the boy i like to like me back.I want to be better all around.My mom tells me im perfect the way iam but why do i think soo little of my self?Sometimes i cry at night i feel so awful i also wish my dad was a better person and not always drunk so i could at least see him(my parents are divorced)plus my friends recently started to call me a ******* and a ***** i feel so lame.what is this that im feeling and what should i do about it?

Answer 1

You bring back a lot of memories I wish I didn't have... I was 4'11 and 180 lbs in 7 grade... and almost flunked 7th grade. My mom bet me I couldn't get on the honor roll in 8th grade ( a trip to Disney World was on the line!) so I did...I remember the cruelty of my 'friends'.... and I remember the kindness of my real friends.

I'm now 51 years old... I have wonderful friends, a masters degree, and I love myself... faults and all. Everyday I meditate... and I have a little mantra all my own... 'I'm perfect, I live in a warm, loving, caring, supportive environment, I'm loved".... I say it 3 -5 times a day.... whenever I'm feeling down...

I have found (the absolute hardest way possible) that the only way to have a good day .... is to make it so. Smile. Be positive. Ignore negative people. and I mean Ignore Them.. if someone is nasty... ask them why... if they continue.. ignore them.. take them out of your environment. You don't need that.

The more you practice being positive... the more positive energy you'll draw toward you.

Good luck.
NC

Answer 2

You know, sometimes i get this feeling too.

I can tell you, you don't need friends who will just contribute to putting yourself down. Try making new friends or join another group. The only people who came off lame to me during this question were your so called friends being anything but friends to you.

This is kind of a hard question to answer, because it sounds like you're asking for more like uplifting than advice. You didn't really specify as to why you feel ugly/fat/stupid. I can tell you... that if you continue feeling this way you'll end up becoming more depressed and you'll either own up to what you really did say and become obese or loose weight. Let's NOT do that.

I would also like to point out, that coming from your spelling, you don't come off stupid. You're not like a lot of people on here who consistantely use "u" or "y" give yourself a pat on the back, at least you can use the fact you can spell against your feelings of being stupid. It says "hey, i'm going to school and i've learned how to use correct grammar." Stupid people don't learn.

As to if you're ugly or not, i can't give you any help there. If you have the ability to make friends, then obviously you're not that disgustingly hideous. Plus~ any girl you get in a relationship with should be able to look past your imperfections and love you for who you are. Don't worry, she'll come along.

I agree with Cindy, if you feel ugly why not go workout or get a hair cut. Something that might make you feel better about yourself. Treat yourself to a little something something.

Remember, we all have flaws. Look at yourself from a different angle, things could be worse!

Answer 3

You have a lot of different things going on all at once.
The hormonal surges of being a teen are miserable to begin with. Being in high school is miserable. Having to deal with all the teenage gossips and drama queens only adds to the misery.
Your friends would not call you those names... call them out on it. They are worthless jerks and you should not waste any time on them. Look at each person and what they "bring to the table"... back-stabbers, drama queens, freeloaders and the like need to be shown the door, so you can then spend your time with more positive people that bring nice things to the table.
You just focus on getting through school, and see if maybe you can meet some nice friends through some extracurricular activities.
When you feel depressed, try going for a long walk... the exercise will help with any little weight issue as well as release the good endorphins to make you feel better.

Very often, our parents are the first hurdle we must overcome. All you can do is try to offer emotional support to both of your parents and tell them you love them. They grew apart and needed to move on. Don't blame them.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Trust me, it's truly just a phase in your life that will eventually get better. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, you have to do something about it. If you feel fat, try to lose some weight. Start exercising. If you feel ugly, buy yourself a new outfit that makes you feel good. I'm not sure if you are a male or female since you mentioned that you don't think you'lll get the boy you like, but then that people are calling you a *** and a ***? Whichever the case, don't worry about what other people think. What matters is what you think, and you need to start loving yourself! Set some goals, and you will have something to look forward to. If you have a social worker available at your school, stop and talk to her/him. Hang in there.

Answer 5

Well, the obvious thing is to do some self improvement. I know losing weight is hard, but maybe give it a try. Others will notice and it's good for your health to take off the weight. Also, perhaps, see a doctor and try an anti-depressent. Part of being attractive is feeling self-worth. There are some good anti-depressents that are non-addictive. Maybe you could go to a support group for the kids of alcoholics. Everyone there will understand what your going through and you could offer support to someone who has it even worse than you.. Good luck.

Answer 6

well that way see this you think thing like that because of you parents are divorced an the reason i know this is cause i so what think that to but you have to pull yourself together an say that you is that s*** an do worry about what people say about you cause there are people that going to talk about as long as you life

Answer 7

furst of all if you hate tha way you look maybe you should do something to make you feel better im allwayz cryin bout tha way i look i have a lisp and i hate it but you know when i feel ugly i just workout and when i feel ugly i comb my hair in a purdy way ....

your dad probably wont chane unless you tell him how u fell i know its hard but if you really want to see him ull t alk to him ,,,,

and if yur "so called friends...are talkin down on u maybe they arent ur friends!

Answer 8

i had low self esteem, after changing my eye color i feel so much prettier now. The website of the surgery is newcoloriris.com