I know a guy in my apartment building and I bump into him often. We always say hi and sometimes talk a bit. He seems basically a lot like my other buddies so I'd like to get to know him better. I'm just worried if I suggest we get coffee or hang out it'll come off as gay. Does this sound gay to you because I don't want to offend him needlessly. By the way, I'm not gay.
2007-10-08 17:38:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No, it does not sound gay!
2007-10-08 18:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try asking him to hang out with you and some of your other buddies? Like, we're all going to wherever to watch the game tonight, want to come? I think coffee does sound a little gay, no offense, but an actual activity might be perceived better, like watching a game or doing something.
2007-10-09 00:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by brass in pocket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you just slip it in during the course of conversation? Like if you see him as you are leaving the apartment and the coffee place is within walking distance say "Hey, I was on my way to get a coffee at Starbucks - wanna come along?" - make it seem really casual. Or say - "hey, a couple of my buddies are going to Roxy's - why don't you join us - they've got pool and darts" (Ok - maybe this isn't the best example, but you get the idea).
2007-10-09 00:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it doesn't. It sounds like you are genuinely sincere and the best way to ask them for coffee is by timing and interest. What do I mean? Time it in such a way that he can't resist. If you invite near lunch or dinner, he may say no so go for breakfast or snack or evening after dinner. The easiest way is when you bump into him, see what he is wearing and start from there. If he is into sports, ask him about the sport he's in and pretend you are interested to know more. If he is in business attire, ask him what he does and pretend to be interested. The key is, if you seem interested in what he does and not with him, he will be more open to a chat with you.
2007-10-09 00:47:42 · answer #4 · answered by Storm Shadow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something where the focus isn't on you two socializing but something on which the focus is diverted towards something else, like a sport, a television show...etc. And bringing along friends is a lot better because then it's not really "gay" and he'll see it more of as a nice thing than as a "gay" thing.
2007-10-09 00:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by dragoninator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good option would be to ask him to join you and your group of friends for some event or outing. It will seem more casual and you yourself will feel less weird about it being gay. (Which, if you're already worried about that, means that you'll probably project that worry and make for a rather awkward coffee break.)
2007-10-09 00:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by Karolina B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Football night at Hooters with some of your friends. It's not a gay hang out or anything. And rather than actually asking him to go just say your going cuz it's cool and he should check it out.
2007-10-09 00:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Put your hand on his crotch
2. Say would you like to go for coffee sometime
3. Wink at him
4. Tell him you are not gay
2007-10-09 00:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well dont invite him out for coffee maybe some time when you go out with your other buddies ask him to join you
2007-10-09 00:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe mentiona place you often have coffee or something with your friends and ask he would like to go sometime.
2007-10-09 00:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by natsuko1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE if you want coffee with a guy you are gay or a mama's boy.
2007-10-09 00:42:08 · answer #11 · answered by earl c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋