Family & Relationships - 8 October 2007

My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years, we have 2 children together and are at risk for losing it all for various reasons..... 1st and foremost I believe it is a trust issue, we have both been through some troubling times with possible infidelity (talking to other people while we were still married), we were separated but got back together and tried making it work. We have been at this for a little over 5 years now & things always come up with him again constantly reminding me of what happened.... Now the latest issue is the fact that he discovered how much money we owe in credit card debt & totally freaked out. I have always been the one to handle the finances in the realtionship & I never really told him we owed 5,000 + dollars in a credit card and he just recently found out, he now feels deceived & I could understand that to a certain point, he knows what all the charges are from he just feels left out in the dark by not knowing our finances, please see other post

2007-10-08 01:29:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

State both figure (or the number of weddings you have attended, and the number of the couples which remain married).

While at this, how long after the wedding, did those others separate (and eventually get divorced)?

2007-10-08 01:29:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i had been suffering with my health for a while and it messed my head in i neglected my role as a wife and my husband and in that time my husband befriended another married woman,problem is the messages i have seen are too intimate to be just friends, and i confronted them both and they say they are just friends. he told me twice that he was going out with his friends and i found out he was spending 6hrs with her in her house. messages included i love you, miss you want you, from her and my husband and that he had a secret mobile phone to text her. we are trying to get over it as they both say i am reading to much into it. she has added him as a HOT FRIEND on facebook. I just cant get it out my mind that he was saying these things to her and spending that time with her he wont stop seeing or messaging her and it is killing me, i also think he doesnt realise how hurtful it is to me, i am his wife i give him everything i have and more i just cant stand this woman being in his life.

2007-10-08 01:27:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Like my boss for example.He's always walking around saying " I've been trying to lose 140lbs. for the longest time,and it's my wife."
I just don't understand this attitude at all.

2007-10-08 01:26:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

but I just found out that he has posted two different adds for 'discreet encounters' on two different sites...we don't live in the same town right now, but have been together for seven years (six of those years we lived together)...I am away at school, but only a few hours away...we had some problems right before I went to school (he was hanging out with a friends girlfriend, and made out with her a couple of times when they were wasted)...i thought that was behind us and now we are supposed to be planning our future..are these 'discreet encounters' something I should be worried about? should I just call off the engagement? I want him to know why if I do, so how do I tell him I was spying on his email and found out about these postings?

2007-10-08 01:20:59 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

A 17-year old named Russell asked a question last month about his being suicidal. I tried to find him in my list of answered questions, but he must've deleted his question. I'd really like to get in touch with him. Anyone have any knowledge of this guy? I'd sure appreciate your help on this.

2007-10-08 01:17:30 · 2 answers · asked by Phoebe 5 in Friends

2007-10-08 01:13:11 · 14 answers · asked by Tambo 1 in Weddings

My ex-bf is going out with my best friend but I heard from one of his friends that hes going out with her to get me jealous and that its all an act!!!!
I think this is horrible but I want to make sure I'm 100% correct that its all an act!
and his "gf" is my absolute best friend but like as soon as they started to go out she began to completely forget about
me! and my other best friend is going out with another one of my ex's and I still love him!

we only went out for a day and he broke it off because he knew that when we broke up he'd treat me like sh*t and he doesn't want to ruin our friendship but idk how long I can stand all of this!!

I'm thinking of possibly dumping them all! but there all some of my clostest friends that I can tell ANYTHING to them!

and now my two best friends -listed above- are ignoring me because they always seem to run to their bf's with out even acknowlegeing me!
and it really hurts me!

2007-10-08 01:06:55 · 13 answers · asked by April Agnostic™ 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-08 01:05:26 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

we broke up 8 months ago because he was cheating on me ,i have a wonderful man in my life now and he knows this but he still wants to keep comming around and i still love him and so i keep seeing him ,he says he still loves me too ,but he needs more time and he says the only reason he sees her is because he still owes her money he borrow from her and she keeps buying him more stuff .what should i do?we have been together for three years .....i need some advise,please help me here ......

2007-10-08 01:00:21 · 9 answers · asked by jah54nc 1 in Singles & Dating

my aunt aged about 55 caught me muster.....and she took me to her room being very upset amd made me stand bare as she...........made me..................i could not say no.....what to do as she makes me sleep in her room at nights also and...............i am shy aged 25.................no experience.........:(

2007-10-08 00:50:47 · 5 answers · asked by johnmays2007 1 in Family

I feel that my wife spends only 25% with me. I am not comfortable with in laws too. I feel I need another wife while I do not want to divorce my first family. If any woman is willing to be my second wife, is there a legal solution in India?

2007-10-08 00:49:58 · 18 answers · asked by kumar 2 in Marriage & Divorce

For years his ex has been trying to break us up, trying to turn his children against us and she is always comming up with some new thing to interfer. Friday when he went to pick up the kids, she told him in the music store where one of the kids was taking lessons that she was taking him back to court for child support and for her car. He is one month ahead on support, and she was supposed to refinance her car according to the divorce decree and didn't, she makes payments 3 months late affecting his credit and he let it slide. The blow up happended when he asked if she was going to meet us half way on Sunday. Saturday at one of the kids games she kept bashing him to the kids at one of their football games and smiling at me when she was doing it. Yesterday when she met us to exchange the children her car wouldn't start. He ran over to her car and helped her, she yelled at him that she knew he had jumper cables, they were in the other car, the second time she said this, I said to her

2007-10-08 00:49:02 · 16 answers · asked by Rein 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Have this pinay GF for almost 3 years- she happen to be married and say will seperate her husband and live w me - husband is mad, but she seems to get stuck up in the middle of the sandwich - i feel need to make decision soon cause we are matured people around our 50 years both - she say her plan to dump him and be w me many times now, but seems only in words, i love her madly - whats best, wait another 3 years or give her up now-

2007-10-08 00:48:49 · 4 answers · asked by unggoydk 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Im 18. Im in college.There's this girl in my class.She's hot. She stares at me.While having an exam,and after she's done with the paper..She'll just stare. Sometimes,I just freak out.I look away. She'll continue to stare even when I catch her staring. She stares a lot.And also, If you don't like someone, will you keep staring at him/her? or you will just look away when you see him/her? (implying to the girl) could she stare because she hates me?
Its an intense stare. not smiling, but not frowning or scowling either. just normal facial gestures.But she doesn't stop staring,she continues. Why me? could she hate me or something? and no,I check there's nothing wrong with my face or anything. So why the heck is she staring? She stares straight in my eyes. Could it be an intense stare? Girls & guys would you stare at someone at a far away distance becuase you think they're so ugly. She gives me a lot of eye contact,but I look away.So,does she stare because she thinks that I'm ugly. When she's near she wont look my way

2007-10-08 00:38:15 · 16 answers · asked by samantha g 1 in Singles & Dating

I want to get closer to her, but she is clearly uninterested. She adores her father which puzzles me. You would think she would be happy that her Dad has found someone that loves and cares for him. We have been married for 10 years and my step-daughter is 30. Any predictions on whether the relationship has a chance of growing or will I always be an outsider to her? I heard sometimes stepkids come around when they have their own families.

2007-10-08 00:35:15 · 11 answers · asked by me 1 in Marriage & Divorce

in seneca falls ny courts they dont care if your kids father kills his self or not he still see his kids i am trying to fight it but i dont know how yet how can father get a way with everything and us woman get in trouble when we dont do nothing

2007-10-08 00:32:25 · 1 answers · asked by prettywoman2313021 1 in Family

ive been with my bf for 7months and we have been on the verge of breaking up twice, he is 23 and ive just turned 18, ive been the main person of the near breakups because he just got a bit to serious for me but i love him so much that we talked about it and gt bk together, but 2day i went to his and he said he wants a serious relationship and we finished it, i love him soooo much and i havent stoped crying all night, he has been texting me all night saying how sorry he is for hurting me and he realises that its nt what he wants.
i told him that we should sleep on it and have a good talk tomorrow

what do you think, would you get back together

2007-10-08 00:31:42 · 15 answers · asked by LoveDrunk 3 in Singles & Dating

so my mom is addicted to online gaming and chatting to people on the internet. it all started when she bought herself a laptop. she would stay online for countless hours and sleep all day, my dad confronted her about it and she stopped for a while. then about three months ago she started again, she goes 3 sometimes 4 days with only an hour of sleep a day. she pays absolutely no attention to us(her family) including my grandma(her mom) who has recenctly been put in a nursing home. she completely ignores her friends. her and my dad fight constantly over this, she lives on the couch with her laptop. she'll go days without brushing her teeth or a shower. if someone tries to talk to her she replies "i'm busy". my dad is hardly ever here(he's a director). my sister moved out. so its usually my mom and i. I always try to talk to her about this but all she does is yell and say hurtful things i'm worried. she has completely let herself go. my dad and i have no clue what to do. PLEASE HELP ASAP

2007-10-08 00:25:12 · 9 answers · asked by Texas~Baby 2 in Family

he lived with his mother for 3 yrs. then his father and my daughter got him. she treated him horribly. put him in closets,never gave him attetion,etc. now that hes in school hes in trouble all the time. they have taken him to therapy,taken things away,tried standing him in a corner and nothings helps him to learn to not punch kids at school,even bitting. when a kid bumps into him he shoved him and bit him on the bus.he denied it until they talked to bus driver. next week something at school. 6 reports on his bulling in the short time school has been started back up this year.... need help....

2007-10-08 00:10:47 · 2 answers · asked by marilynfsmgm 5 in Family

2007-10-08 00:01:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships