we broke up 8 months ago because he was cheating on me ,i have a wonderful man in my life now and he knows this but he still wants to keep comming around and i still love him and so i keep seeing him ,he says he still loves me too ,but he needs more time and he says the only reason he sees her is because he still owes her money he borrow from her and she keeps buying him more stuff .what should i do?we have been together for three years .....i need some advise,please help me here ......
2007-10-08 01:00:21 · 9 answers · asked by jah54nc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This situation has all the characteristics of being a "mess", so before I venture forth with an "opinion" let me first ensure that I have all of the requisite facts straight. (8) months ago you broke up with this guy because he was cheating; you've both more or less moved on...you have a "wonderful man" in your life, and he (your ex) has this woman he's seeing only because he "still owes her money". And, your question is therefore, should you pursue this thing with your ex any further? Well, a few things occur to me that seem to be incongruities, and maybe if I understood them better I could give a more qualified answer. (1) You broke up with this guy because he was cheating, and 3 year history aside, there's no guarantee that if you rekindled your romance with each other this wouldn't happen again, in fact, since you already know of someone else being in the picture, it seems very likely that it will. (2) Breaking up with someone for cheating implies that you don't like that kind of behavior, yet you almost seem willing to cheat on this other guy you described as being a"wonderful man" with a guy of dubious character....that makes no sense to me. (Note: Wonderful men cease being "wonderful" once a woman they trust has dragged them by cheating on them, and they make the next woman they deal with pay dearly.) So the obvious question here is, do you dislike the behavior (cheating) on principle, or do you just dislike that it happened to you? (3) Philosophical question: If I sleep with a woman (or keep seeing her) just because I owe her money, what does that make me?
I have a feeling that once you answer these questions to your own satisfaction, you won't really need anyone else's input. The proper course of action will be obvious. Good luck to you.
2007-10-08 01:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 19:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way , once a cheater always a cheater, and he wants his cake and eat it too, that oweing money crap is a excuse to have both of you. move on girl
2007-10-08 01:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by angeldeebra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your crazy for even thinking about it... look at the picture in the frame... he cheated... now hes using... and still saying crap to his ex grilfriend. you should have hired someone to beat his *** up in the first place... broken knees and bruised eyes... makes him think again before he acts!
2007-10-08 01:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Chad F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. ask him to stop getting things from her and ask his attention with you. realtionship is important not things... ask him to manage his life wihtout these things, or take another job as well
man once cheated will cheat again.caution.
2007-10-08 01:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is playing you big time. he is a liar, cheater & heart breaker. don't do something you will regrete later. he doesn't deserve you
2007-10-08 01:08:49 · answer #6 · answered by lucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No You should not
2007-10-08 01:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple answer ... no stop seeing him
2007-10-08 01:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely no
2007-10-08 01:04:32 · answer #9 · answered by cat r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋