my 5 year old step grandson in trouble at school for hitting.?

Question

he lived with his mother for 3 yrs. then his father and my daughter got him. she treated him horribly. put him in closets,never gave him attetion,etc. now that hes in school hes in trouble all the time. they have taken him to therapy,taken things away,tried standing him in a corner and nothings helps him to learn to not punch kids at school,even bitting. when a kid bumps into him he shoved him and bit him on the bus.he denied it until they talked to bus driver. next week something at school. 6 reports on his bulling in the short time school has been started back up this year.... need help....

Answer 1

I am a 38 yr old Christian single male but I will try my best to help.

Children as they are growing up are fragile in their thinking and their perspective of things around them. they will need to be guided during this important times of their infant stages to young adults.

What they see and hear around them, they will register it into their brain. They will do what they see their parents do or say. they do not know what is right or wrong yet at this stage of their growing life.

Parents are the foundation for teaching their children what is right and wrong at this time. As it is said somwhere, "Education starts at the home."
We as parents are responsible for the consequences which have come about with the child's behaviour. You teach the right things, you will see good fruit produced. You teach the wrong things directly or indireclty you will bear bad fruits. It is not the child's fault. it is how he was brought up that causes him to act the way he does.
You can change him only if you change yourself. i.e your behaviour, your attitude and you character toward him.
talk with him, laugh with him, cry with him, be silent with him, read a book with him, play with him, hug him, praise him, but most of all love him unconditionally no matter what he has done or said and amazing transformaion can and will happen.

your new friend,

Pious Kerepia
Papua New Guinea

Answer 2

Obviously the counseling isn't working, talk to his pediatrician and get a different counselor. The whole family should be going, this child is a timebomb. Remember, its not his fault, this child was severely abused. He cannot be among other children right now, at his age, home schooling might need to be an option.