worried about my mom(please help)?

Question

so my mom is addicted to online gaming and chatting to people on the internet. it all started when she bought herself a laptop. she would stay online for countless hours and sleep all day, my dad confronted her about it and she stopped for a while. then about three months ago she started again, she goes 3 sometimes 4 days with only an hour of sleep a day. she pays absolutely no attention to us(her family) including my grandma(her mom) who has recenctly been put in a nursing home. she completely ignores her friends. her and my dad fight constantly over this, she lives on the couch with her laptop. she'll go days without brushing her teeth or a shower. if someone tries to talk to her she replies "i'm busy". my dad is hardly ever here(he's a director). my sister moved out. so its usually my mom and i. I always try to talk to her about this but all she does is yell and say hurtful things i'm worried. she has completely let herself go. my dad and i have no clue what to do. PLEASE HELP ASAP

alcohol is also a factor tonight she drank half of a bottle of tequila and a lot of vodka. its really hard to talk to her because she denies everything.

Answer 1

I am so sorry for what you have to deal with. Your Mom has many addictions and, as I am sure you know, addictive behavior is an illness. She is not ready to get help because she doesn't think she has a problem. The world around her doesn't seem to matter because she is so lost in her own world. This is so sad. I know that you are worried and probably angry, as you have a right to be. Your Dad isn't there most of the time and seems to be unavailable so that makes it worse and the burden falls on those who are there. Your sister has chosen to leave. Your Mom is not capable of communicating; she is drinking and cannot make sense anyway. I would suggest that you speak with a counsellor to help you. I would also suggest that you go to some Alanon meetings in your area to help you cope with this very troublesome problem. This will help you more than anything. It is a shame that people get so involved in behaviors that are so destructive (alcohol and substance abuse and gambling addictions). Your Mom finds it easier to escape through these means from whatever is troubling to her in her life. She deperately needs help. You may also need to consider an intervention to force your mother into a rehab in order to save her life. (Alanon can help with that, also.) My thoughts and prayers are with you. This is such a difficult problem and you need some professional advice.

Answer 2

Its addiction she has got .Better u consult psycologist n get her treated. When a person gets addicted to something like this there is a possibility of a problem which she avoids to confront by such addiction this gives a kind of easy rescue. If u say that she is a mom n when u can write this means her age is not less that 40/50 woman of this age hav many problems which they cant discuss with children (possibly relationship problems with husband or any other frustrations) so better try to improve atmosphere at home consult psycologist to find out what problem is n then work on it. Goin to psycologist or psychiatrist doesnt mean that she is mad. U will hav to convince her for this. Do ur best. Wish u all the best
Take Care
Bye
Raj

Answer 3

Oh my gosh...I am so sorry...there are lots of things you can do to stop this, or at least try...one thing you can do is pray. Praying is powerful, and God will answer your prayers. You have GOT to get her off that laptop! Somehow...talk to your dad or your sister if you can to figure out something. Tell your mom to come to the mall with you or something. Take the laptop away if you must! Get the alcohol our of your house immediately. That is probably the source of all the arguing. I am so sorry and I hope everything works out soon!

Answer 4

first, cut off the internet and cable. have your dad call and make sure it can't be turned back on. then try to get her to a gambler's annoymous meeting. if she is an alcoholic, also she needs to get help with that. you and your father might want to take her to family counseling so you can all talk to her in a neutral environment.

maybe after you get the internet turned off, you could ask her to go for a walk with you, or help you with cooking, homework, etc...

it will be a long road to recovery, and take much patience on the family's part, but hopefully, you can get your mom back. i wish you much luck.. i know you miss the old her...

Answer 5

I hassle 24/7 some days I cant even think of quickly because of the fact all i can do is hassle approximately issues. Like if I stated something to somebody, I hassle that i'd desire to have harm them, even however i did not say something hurtful, I nonetheless hassle.

Answer 6

tell your dad to get rid of that laptop and make sure she has no way to get another one. And he needs to talk to a mental health counseler to get her some help you need to take these steps to make her better there is some problems she needs to deal with good luck my dear

Answer 7

Time for an intervention. Your dad needs to take away the computer and get her into treatment.

Answer 8

Pray hard only herself could save her. You must find a way to cut the net

Answer 9

sounds like an addiction... i think she needs professional help... try to contact someone who can help you with it. im sure she'll get mad when she finds out but she needs it now or else it will consume her. try to tell your dad about it.