I need to move out because husband and I are divorcing, but I don't have a car, I don't have a job, I live in a city so walking everywhere is an issue obviously, and I have a baby, so I need a good enough paying job to take care of her and I. I don't have any friends that can help me out, and my family lives far away and disagrees with my choice to divorce hubby.
What would you do? I need a car to get a job, and I need a job to get a place.. just a little frustrated. Any suggestions?!
2007-10-08 17:46:16 · 6 answers · asked by In over my head 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take baby steps and handle whatever you can as you can.
It's certainly easier to get around with a car, however, you don't neet a car to get a job. Especially if you are in the City.
I would recommend looking into getting an education. i.e. a career field. Depending on the state you are in , there may be programs that would be great for your situation.
- check it out, and good luck.
2007-10-08 18:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure why you are divorcing your husband. How is it that you are going to support your baby if you don't have a job or a car? You will make it hard for you and your baby by not having a good job. You might have to seek a homeless shelter or apply for emergency assistance.
Just a note, if you are divorcing your husband just because you want to and for no reason at all, then you are making a huge mistake. You will suffer if you leave, but mainly, your child will suffer the most. So, you need to think it out first before making a rational decision. Don't leave your husband for the wrong reasons, do the right thing for your baby.
Consider reading "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands."
You married your husband for many reasons. Don't take the easy way out by divorcing him. Stay to fix the problems together. Do what ever it takes to make your marriage work even if it takes for him to work a second job just so he can support you. He needs your support.
2007-10-09 01:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any friends that can help you? You say you don't, but do you know anyone that can give you a place to stay while you find a job. An extra car you can use to find a job. Something. Don't feel bad asking. Maybe you feel you don't have any friends you can ask this, but friends never mind helping.
Or what if you moved back home while you got back on your feet? Would your family actually kick you out? They might not agree with your choices, but if they let you live there, who cares what they say? I'm sorry. Good luck. Pray for answers. They're out there.
2007-10-09 01:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by trapeze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a child, then don't divorce!!! Unless there are issues of adultery, addiction or abuse, you should work on your marriage! I think children's lives are damages when parents divorce and the husband and wife only think about what is best for themself. I have a relative who did what you are doing with a child -- everyone was against her divorcing. She is having a miserable time now, her child is not eating, emotionally stressed out, has stomach ached all the time...Now the lady has changed her mind about divorcing, but the husband does not want her back! Get some books on marriage therapy. What helped me a lot in my marriage was the book "The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands". THere was a shift in my behavior towards my husband which caused a shift in his behavior towards me. I keep the book by my bed and refer to it like once amonth or so. It was a lot of help. Good Luck!
2007-10-09 01:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by Bubble Yum 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look up some local organizations that help women in your shoes. There are usually quite a few in towns. Good luck!
2007-10-09 00:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by dude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a shelter
2007-10-09 15:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋