Family & Relationships - 6 October 2007

hi my husband and have being married for 2 yrs and we have 9month old baby. I work full time during the week and I go to school online, so I like to go on Sat for a few hrs to get body message, get my nails done, get my hair done and colored just to have a change. However, my husband says that i'm cheating on him with someone there is no way i will be spend a few hours doning all that. I let him go to the gym go wherver he wants i never call him to ask him where he is i turst so i have no worries. But me if i'm gone for a couple hrs he goes crazy says mean things and we get into a big fight i have no idea with to do I love him I hope we could solve our issue. I told him may be we need to go counsling about his trust issue which is from now where, he said ok and than changed his mind tha last min. I never gave a reason not to trust me

2007-10-06 08:20:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend threatens to leave me. He says the only way to make him stay is sex, and although I say no, he pressures me into having sex. Is is rape?

2007-10-06 08:17:34 · 53 answers · asked by Poetic Jezebel 3 in Singles & Dating

I am 5 mos pregnant and also have a 2 year old from a lying, deceiving loser. My family, his family, including him find it shocking that I would leave him now at a time like this, especially since I'm 5 mos pregnant. I feel so sorry for my 2 year old and the baby in my womb that they won't have their dad around everyday. I know that leaving a man while you are pregnant is wrong to some, but I can not take any more lies and deceit from him. People tell me that I am crazy to leave him being pregnant especially since our daughter is only 2 and not to mention the unborn child. He told me if the kids ask when they grow up why he is not with me, he said he'll tell them that I left him while I was pregnant and it's my fault. This man lies too much, makes promises and never keep them. He do a lot of talking and less action. He hides things from me. Just because I am pregnant from a loser doesn't mean I should keep him. I feel bad for my kids because I grew up and was raised by both parents.

2007-10-06 08:10:10 · 15 answers · asked by Alexis 1 in Family

I have been married for 2 months now and it has been hell. I dont get along with my husband at all. We dont have fun together and it seems to me that he is more concerned about himself than anyone else. He always wants to go out and drink and even when I do go with and try to have fun we end up fighting. He is mean when he drinks and last night it escalated to him telling me he was going to punch me if I didnt give him the keys so he could drive away drunk. He also threatened to kill my birds. He never touches me and when I ask him to talk to me he says he has better things to do. I ask him how his day was and he says fine. I ask him if he is going to ask me about my day and he says if I have something to say say it and stop wasting his time. I have talked to him alot about trying to fix things and he never has solutions. His only solution so far has been to make a calender with daily things on it like hug her, cuddle her, kiss her, tell her she is pretty. Not working

2007-10-06 08:09:50 · 21 answers · asked by nickii3049578 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, so about three years ago I went through a HORRIBLE break up. He was an absolute Jack *A*... and for a while, I couldn't talk to him, stand the sight or thought of him (mainly because I wasn't over him)...

I've moved on to someone TEN TIMES better than my ex was, but I was browsing myspace (yes, I know myspace'll get ya) and I stumbled across my Ex's page. Now I'm uber tempted to send him a message just to say "hey" and see how he's been.

I have NO INTEREST whatsoever in getting back with him, it's just that time has healed old wounds...

So should I write him, or just leave it be? And could I PLEASE have a reason for either answer???

THANKS A BUNCH!!!

2007-10-06 08:03:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

this guy at school is real sweet but not that hot and he's my bestfriend brother! i like him alot and he really likes me to the point of embarresment but he doesn't quite know for sure i like him i want to tell him but i don't know what to say! both our parents are completly aganst dating maybe cause were 12 ! what do i do and say ps i save him seats in class and he shares candy!

(sorry about spelling)

2007-10-06 08:02:07 · 11 answers · asked by madaloopa 1 in Singles & Dating

Alright this is how everything started...My date asked me to go with him as his date but like as friends. he said that he isnt going to dance with other girls and stuff. Then he asked my best friend if she thought it would be okay if he goes and dances with all of his friends and dances with me a couple times. Now I understand that he wants to hang with his friends but theyre all girls!! AND I understand that if we are just friends I shouldnt over react but i'm feeling kinda sad that he wants to dance with all of his friends.How would you react.Would it be wrong to go with someone else?

2007-10-06 08:00:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-06 07:59:37 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok im sure alot of these questions appear, but none of them appear to be similar to my case.

ok so anyway, there is this boy i like. im in 7th grade, and i have liked him since 6th grade. his name is cruz, we are both mexican. anyway last year when i liked him, he never talked to me, never looked at me or anything. this year he started talking to me all of a sudden. and about 2 days ago we were walking back from lunch, and me and him were walking together,
nd he was teasing me about being a lesbian, and we were just laughing about it, and then he said "you can tell me anything im ur best friend" nd i was like "oh really? haha" nd we just started laughing, then he asked me who i liked, and i said that i wasnt going to tell him, nd he was trying to guess. but he never did guess that it was him.
and everytime i see him he will look at me then try to shake my hand and ill go for it, then he moves his hand out of the way, and he just smiles and then i laugh.

2007-10-06 07:55:16 · 2 answers · asked by ╚»|ƒ|α|м|σ|υ|ѕ|☆! 3 in Singles & Dating

I had a boyfriend five years ago.. hes always been "the one that got away". Most people have one- the one that they never really stop thinking about that deeply impacted their life. We went through alot in our relationship and he has always been very hard to get over.

I NEVER thought id find anyone to make me happy after him- and then a year ago i met an awesome man. He is my everything and i love him to death. He makes me happier then ive ever been in my life and i cant wait until i marry him.

Problem is.. that ex is always in the back of my mind. i would NEVER leave my current for him or put myself in a bad position of being around him.. but he still crosses my mind.

Im ashamed to say last night it got worse.. i saw him out.. and text him that i didnt think id ever be truly completely over him. I am ashamed to even tell random strangers this b/c i know how messed up it is. I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND!

Anyone ever been in this situation? How do i stop? Am i a horrible person?

2007-10-06 07:55:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-06 07:52:38 · 5 answers · asked by Dezzy Madden 1 in Singles & Dating

please only if there is answer me..

i don't need opinions of the people who haven't been into this situation..the prists doersn't allow me to divorce..except a priest who is friend ..with me..(just friends with his whole family)since we were students.. at the university .

i really don't want to hear the opinions of those who havent been called''idiot, cow, stupid or....brainwashed by church..etc.

it is enough that a psychiatrist told me one thing..that made my life a nightmare..i think a teacher of literature would give me a better advice..

2007-10-06 07:52:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I don't know how to say this but I think I done something silly , this boy loved me for me and I ask him out but at the time I was only making fun out of him and then I went out with this guy name chris and we used to wait for him outside his home in front of his door waiting for him to come out or come back from school we all was same ages and me and my BF used to french kiss each other ever day for 2 full years so he can see it and then we cost him 1 year of his school cause he wanted to get his own back of what we was doing to him , anyway it went to court and he won us. 7 years later I saw him and we both looked into each others eyes and he still look hurted but same time he still look so mad at me. after all this time why can't he just drop it ! and if I see him again what should I say cause it wasn't just me ! I looked into his eyes after 7 years and I saw him being so mad but same time he given me abit of soft look but before all of that 7 years ago I called his mother a fat cow and I got onto all his family and made fun out of them all in front of him

2007-10-06 07:50:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My wife and I separated and she got an apartment in August. She had cheated and lied and maxed out our home equity account. However, we had been getting along fine and were trying to make the relationship work until a couple of weeks ago. We got into an argument and she tried to kill me. She went to jail and faces a felony charge. I also got a restraining order on my attorney's advice. She filed for divorce a few days later. I don't believe she wants the divorce, but is doing it to get even for going to jail. We had discussed divorce and were both against it. Now we are facing a court battle that will be ugly and expensive. I know she has done terrible things but I believe she is mentally ill. Her bizarre behavior is not typical. I know most people will say get over it and move on. But we are a good couple that has unresolved issues. 99% of the time we get along really well. I still love her and miss her, but because of the restraining order can't call her. What should I do?

2007-10-06 07:47:53 · 16 answers · asked by sunshinesky89 1 in Marriage & Divorce

this guy called joshua drake has asked me out and i dont even know him. its only my 4th week running in dat skool ive just moved from another skool and i dot know what to say!!!
HELP ME OUT!!!!!!!!!

2007-10-06 07:47:35 · 25 answers · asked by Sana A 1 in Singles & Dating

I am a 19 year old young lady and my boyfriend is 16. He looks and acts like he is in his 20's. And i've neer heard anyone guess his age right. Were starting to develop strong feelings for each other, which is already making it go further than we wanted. His mom, as far as i know of, has no problem with me and even lets me stay the night with him. But the rest of his family and my family are all over our asses about the age difference but i really like him and he really likes me. So my question is....is it wrong that were happily together or should will it never work? Should we listen to our family's opinions or ignore them? Thanks to whomever answers this.

2007-10-06 07:45:20 · 4 answers · asked by armesia_combs 2 in Singles & Dating

My father has asked me to be best "women" at his wedding.
anyone have any speech ideas?

2007-10-06 07:44:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Everytime I tell my mom something about my son (her grandson) .. she instantly compares him to her cat! (my son is 2.5 months old)
Like today, I said my baby pooped and fell back to sleep and I didn't want to wake him to change him -- and she said how she won't wake her cat when he is sleeping. Then I told her to STOP COMPARING MY SON TO HER CAT -- THERE IS A BIG DIFFERENCE (because she does it ALL the time).
She said there is NO difference.. and that she cares as much about her cat as her grandson .. and by the end of the conversation, she said the cat comes first!
I don't know what to do! My mom and I are extremely close (her and my dad divorced when I was 2, and my mom raised me .. and I'm an only child)
It's just so frustrating because this happens on a daily basis. Whenever I ask my mom to help me with the baby (when running errands) she always makes me rush around so she can get home to her cat. And now (over the phone) she just admitted the cat comes first!
What do I do?

2007-10-06 07:41:53 · 9 answers · asked by Mommy of One 4 in Family

she will probably get angry and or cry FOREVER because she is like that and she really loves this guy and I want to know how to tell her gently.HELP ME SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-10-06 07:38:23 · 7 answers · asked by chickey 2 in Singles & Dating

Been seeing a lovely guy for three months, not sure where it is going still. Had the chance for a one night, no strings, with an ex that pressed all the right buttons. Would you risk it or not?

2007-10-06 07:36:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, i dated him over the summer, longest relationship I've ever had. I was convinced he felt the same way about me. But when his parents told him to dump me, and he did, i realized taht he didn't really love me. But the problem is, i still love him and whenever i try to talk to him he just yells at me and tells me to get over him. Well heres another problem, i had my first kiss with him. I know i love him because whenever i think about him i get the most wonderful feeling. For awhile i hated him because he dumped me 3 days after my great grandma died, when i really needed him. I know that i'm only 13 and ppl may say that i don't know what love feels like but i do. And usually after i break up with someone or they break up with me i'm over them in about 1 minute, well he broke up with me in july and i'm still not over him, i haven't had another boyfriend since, thinkig that he may want to get bak together with me, so i stay open and ready. help, i'm about to quit life.

2007-10-06 07:36:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

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2007-10-06 07:35:37 · 23 answers · asked by Cybernaut 1 in Singles & Dating

okay so-
(this really isnt that long)

me and one of my guy friends are really close. we do lots of stuff together. well i know for a fact he still likes his ex-girlfriend and i think she still likes him too. well for the past 3 months everytime i go over to his house we will always flirt alot. and during this time period he has kissed me repeatedly on the cheek multiple times and almost kissed me for real but his 12 year old brother walked in. (the 12yr old is in like love with me) but then he goes around and starts to really like his ex again. then when ever i come back to see him he will act like he really likes me. im really confused if he is just using me or if he likes me or what. and i do like him but i dont want to if that makes sense...

i have no idea please help me

P.S.- im 13 and he is 14

2007-10-06 07:32:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My brother that I thought was close with me stopped dealing with me over a year ago over something very petty. It really hurt me, particularly since I had just given him $1,600.00 of money that I could've benifited from by keeping. He's married and has a family while I'm single with no kids. I was there for him with the cash because I thought that we had a bond that was special. When he stopped speaking to me suddenly for unkown reasons, I tried to find out what the problem was and what could be done. My Mother and other brother claim to know what the probnlem is but they wont say. I feel they are co-signing the situation by not stepping in to say enough is enough and encouraging my brother to resolve whatever his feelings are and to contact me. I can't contact him since he has moved, but he knows how to contact me. I haven't done anything to deserve this, and I'm certain of this. I feel my mother has always been happier taking sides with my brothers as long as it hurts me. Help!

2007-10-06 07:26:54 · 3 answers · asked by sustasue 7 in Friends

I am a freshmen in HS this year and have never had a boyfriend...ONLY crushes. I have never been kissed and never been on a date..... I am kinda a shy person but I thought that I would have a bf by now. All of the guys I like are preppy and popular and I am neither of that. Did anyone else not date much in high school but later on found some one?? I want to grow up and get married but based on middle school and part of high school...I will probably be an old maid. And I highly doubt I will get a bf in the rest of my hs years cuz i live in a small town and all the people in my grade, i am not interested in cuz i have grown up with them since elementary school. Everyone I know has had a boyfriend....and i haven't. I am scared some people will start to think I am a lesbo even though I am NOT! I know that there are some guys that like me but I don't have the same feelings for them that they do for me......is that okay???? Someone....can you please give me advice? Thanks

2007-10-06 07:25:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i've had my boyfriend for a week & i used to like him a lot but now for some reason i dont anymore & i realized i'm destined to be single(great for me-i was a lot happier being single than i am now) but i cant break up with him!! no way!! all our friends know about it & everyone is loving us together...& if i dump him i'll feel even worse & everyone will be saying im a b**** because the relationship barely started...but i hate being fake & pretending to love the relationship...
help please i'm so lost & i feel like crap. i didnt expect this.

i feel like my freedom got taken away..i loved being single but now i just feel..well...NOT FREE! :-s

2007-10-06 07:23:54 · 12 answers · asked by cloud16 4 in Singles & Dating

I don't know how to say this but I think I done something silly , this boy loved me for me and I ask him out but at the time I was only making fun out of him and then I went out with this guy name chris and we used to wait for him outside his home in front of his door waiting for him to come out or come back from school we all was same ages and me and my BF used to french kiss each other ever day for 2 full years so he can see it and then we cost him 1 year of his school cause he wanted to get his own back of what we was doing to him , anyway it went to court and he won us. 7 years later I saw him and we both looked into each others eyes and he still look hurted but same time he still look so mad at me. after all this time why can't he just drop it ! and if I see him again what should I say cause it wasn't just me ! I looked into his eyes after 7 years and I saw him being so mad but same time he given me abit of soft look but before all of that 7 years ago I called his mother a fat cow and I got onto all his family and made fun out of them all in front of him

2007-10-06 07:23:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My boyf proposed years back and I said no because it didnt feel right at the time. Now the times right I would love to marry him but he now says he doesnt believe in it and he doesnt need a piece of paper to show his love. I am gutted to say the least. He was all for it and now he s changed his mind just like that. Could it be he hasnt forgiven me for saying no the first time?

2007-10-06 07:14:19 · 5 answers · asked by Grace 2 in Singles & Dating

I been with my baby dad for 3 years althought he lied to talked to other girl and lied about that stayed out late @ nite, some times didnt come home til 7 or 10 am always has to hang out with his friends i catch him talking to girls and he denies i even listen to his vmail and a girl wanted to meet him and hang out he doesnt work, he gets mad when i dont have money to give him for weed, which i hoped he stops, why am i so sad hes leaving me? i love him so much hes the only person i been with? now i feel like falling apart and slowly dying! I feel bad cause i told him go ahead and leave when we were fighting i didnt mean it! i feel like it my fault!

2007-10-06 07:13:27 · 5 answers · asked by Confused 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-06 07:09:20 · 24 answers · asked by Cody 3 in Weddings