I been with my baby dad for 3 years althought he lied to talked to other girl and lied about that stayed out late @ nite, some times didnt come home til 7 or 10 am always has to hang out with his friends i catch him talking to girls and he denies i even listen to his vmail and a girl wanted to meet him and hang out he doesnt work, he gets mad when i dont have money to give him for weed, which i hoped he stops, why am i so sad hes leaving me? i love him so much hes the only person i been with? now i feel like falling apart and slowly dying! I feel bad cause i told him go ahead and leave when we were fighting i didnt mean it! i feel like it my fault!
2007-10-06 07:13:27 · 5 answers · asked by Confused 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are sad that he is leaving because he has been a part of your life and he is the only person that you have been with so you have nothing to compare him to. Once you meet other guys who treat you like you should be treated, you will wish you had thrown him out sooner. the fact that you feel it is your fault is just part of the guilt trip he is trying to lay on you so don't go for that.
Remember the Gestalt Prayer:
I am I and you are you
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations
And you are not in this world to live up to mine
If by chance we meet, it is beautiful
If not, it can't be helped.
He wants you to live up to his expectations: work so that he has money for weed and other girls, and such, but if you care for your child at all, remember that he is not a good role model for anyone and you need to lose him to find the other half of yourself, the person who will be a good role model and love you for who you are while he offers you a person that you can love and depend upon at the same time. If you list on a piece of paper his good faults and his bad, you will see the bad outweighs the good and it may be easier to let him go.
Good luck!!
2007-10-06 07:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl pull urself together, he sounds like a jerk no offense but u could probably do way better and find someone that actually loves u, thats pretty pathetic that u hae to give him money sounds like he just uses u, I think u should let him go and find someone better here is a song and video u should go listen too,http://www.placevideo.com/t/toby_mac/gone.html
anyways clearly he doesn't care about u, and u need yo get rid of him and find someone better and get on with ur life but I know what u mean about being heartbroken, this wk my bf flirted with another girl then told me about it he said sorry and I am still waiting to see what I should do, but in ur situation he just doesn't sound like he cares for u or loves u, just let him go and move one go out and meet new guys see if u can find someone better that will love and treat u better.. Mr. Right is out their somewhere just look for him. Good Luck and God bless u.
2007-10-06 07:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not yr fault, he wanted to leave u, im sorry to be so honest but judging by the way hes treated u, dont u think u deserve better, u may love him and i know its hard, but time is the greatest healer.
2007-10-06 07:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by tracy b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you tell him to leave and move on, its not youre fault
2007-10-06 08:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by stephanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, tell him you didnt really mean what you said.
if he thinks you're full of **** then slowly explain.
hopefully, he will understand.
good luck! :)
2007-10-06 07:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by xo lawuhh. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋