hi my husband and have being married for 2 yrs and we have 9month old baby. I work full time during the week and I go to school online, so I like to go on Sat for a few hrs to get body message, get my nails done, get my hair done and colored just to have a change. However, my husband says that i'm cheating on him with someone there is no way i will be spend a few hours doning all that. I let him go to the gym go wherver he wants i never call him to ask him where he is i turst so i have no worries. But me if i'm gone for a couple hrs he goes crazy says mean things and we get into a big fight i have no idea with to do I love him I hope we could solve our issue. I told him may be we need to go counsling about his trust issue which is from now where, he said ok and than changed his mind tha last min. I never gave a reason not to trust me
2007-10-06 08:20:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is jelious.He knows he has a beautiful woman and he doesnt wont anyone else having you.Over time maybe he will get better.He sounds insercure..Ask him when you go to get your hair and nails done if he wants to tag along.Maybe he will stop it then.
2007-10-06 08:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by lady bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is he who has cheated or has thought about it. Tell him that you are going to counseling with or without him. Let him know that the crap will not be put up with. You have had the same routine for a while now and if he would like to join you while you get your nails done then he may so that he can see how long it takes. You also need to let him know that you married your husband not your father and that if your hair and nails take 2 hours then so be it. You are a grown woman and are entitled to look good for yourself. It is not you that he doesn't trust, it is guys out there that are like him that he doesn't trust.
2007-10-06 15:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs counseling to deal with his insecurities regarding you but if he won't go you may have to go yourself just to talk to someone about this. Tell him that you are going and if he distrusts you he may go just to keep an eye on you. this has the potential for domestic violence if the issue is not solved now and he can not get over his mistrust.
He may also be envious that you are going to school online to become better and he is not and that also has the potential for future violence on his part. The fact that the wife had more potential than her husband and a better job was basically the reason for Tara Grant being killed by her husband.
good luck to you!!
2007-10-06 15:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally sympathize with you. My husband is also jealous & controlling. When our baby was 2 weeks old, his xwife dropped off their 5 & 3 year old daughters. I have never minded taking them, but he accuses me of having men over in the morning (iget up @ 5, get us 4 ready & am gone by 7
:15 so i can b at work by 8) I have took my husband to counseling - hasn't worked yet
2007-10-06 15:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by dmoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad...I think you have a SERIOUS problem.
Make the appointment for counseling and do everything in your power to make it easy for him to attend, If he doesn't, then you can still go by yourself. It is still helpful to discuss your marriage with a counselor, even if he isn't there. Perhaps he will eventually attend, if he thinks he is missing out on something.
In the meantime, understand that he is VERY insecure, and call him frequently to let him know where and what you are up to. It beats having to argue about it later.
2007-10-06 15:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by kdbpresents 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess the thing to do is kind of trick him into going to a counselor. tell him your going somewhere else, and drive to the place, and make him go. it will be better for u both. but if he doesn't seem to be the kind to take that lightly: start yelling and threaten to jump out of the car, etc. then just don't do it. have a nice long talk with him, and explain how when he does things you don't call him and accuse him of stuff, and plus, you could always show him your receipt from the salon, make sure it has a date on it, and all that.
2007-10-06 15:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by ariesgem84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is insecure. Tell him that he can stay and believe you, or leave. Being untrusted, especially when its because of no wrong doing, is a horrible thing to go through. And it will only get worse. Maybe he's the cheater. They say that one of the signs is when they blame the same thing on their spouse. Good Luck.
2007-10-06 15:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has problems and it won't get any better over time. He indeed needs counselling to figure out why he doesn't trust you. It won't get any better and in fact in most cases many men like your husband become abusive over time with this kind of attitude. He was to get help and crack his head open to figure out what his problem is.
He is scarily insecure and this is NOT a good thing.
2007-10-06 15:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men who act this way has something to hide themselves and he needs to grow up and stop trying to control you .
2007-10-06 15:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by Jai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds insecure and controlling.. tell him he is welcome to watch you get a massage, your nails done and your hair cut and coloured... i bet after watching one nail painted he will get bored and stop acting like a controlling and juvenile husband
2007-10-06 15:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by cristelle R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋