My brother that I thought was close with me stopped dealing with me over a year ago over something very petty. It really hurt me, particularly since I had just given him $1,600.00 of money that I could've benifited from by keeping. He's married and has a family while I'm single with no kids. I was there for him with the cash because I thought that we had a bond that was special. When he stopped speaking to me suddenly for unkown reasons, I tried to find out what the problem was and what could be done. My Mother and other brother claim to know what the probnlem is but they wont say. I feel they are co-signing the situation by not stepping in to say enough is enough and encouraging my brother to resolve whatever his feelings are and to contact me. I can't contact him since he has moved, but he knows how to contact me. I haven't done anything to deserve this, and I'm certain of this. I feel my mother has always been happier taking sides with my brothers as long as it hurts me. Help!
2007-10-06 07:26:54 · 3 answers · asked by sustasue 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
As a result, I don't think that I'd be comfortable around the rest of the family with my brother being there since no one will help straighten out this situation. I don't really feel that I need to go and pretend that all is well, when I feel that my family is wrong and hurting me but acting like it doesn't matter.
2007-10-06 07:28:23 · update #1
I'm also certain that my mother wont permit me to air this situation at her homw where the family gathers for holidays. I can't be with my brother until he tells me why he needed to cut me off for over a year when we never even quarelled. It makes no sense to me what so ever, but it hurts. My other friends feel that it's ridiculous and they feel it's typical of my mother who I have always had problems with to be happy to let me stay on the outs with my brothers so she can have them to herself.
2007-10-06 07:33:46 · update #2
I would just sit back and wait to see what happens. Sounds like your mother had something to do with it.
Sometimes the wives of close brothers get a little bit jealous and say and do things that cause problems. This may be the problem and he doesn't dare say anything as it would cause a rift between him and his wife. Trust him for now and things will all come out in the wash eventually. He is without a doubt in just as much pain as you are since you were so close.
You will find out, wait and see.
I would not go to the holiday get together until everything was cleared up.
2007-10-06 14:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by mary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your family has some issues. I bet that's hard not knowing why your bro cut u out of his life. I don't think u should try to talk to him at a family gathering though. U should go see himat his house just show up one day or go to his work. Confront him and ask. If your mom isnt willing to help you figure it out then she's being pretty selfish. i mean if it's some huge secret then u got the right to know ur his sister.
2007-10-06 14:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha1029 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go if you feel uncomfortable. These gatherings can be tougher than having teeth pulled when there is a conflict...I can attest to that.
2007-10-06 21:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋