My boyfriend threatens to leave me. He says the only way to make him stay is sex, and although I say no, he pressures me into having sex. Is is rape?
2007-10-06 08:17:34 · 53 answers · asked by Poetic Jezebel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the fact that you are pressured, yes it can be considered rape, because you are not doing it by free will.
That's one, # 2, sincerely friend...what are you doing with this looser?, how did you end up with this?, don't you love yourself enough to stand for yourself?, please, do domething about it and get a better level of life....guys like this one, are not worth a peanut! and you are keeping him?. please don'r dissapoint us!! us girls!! do something, don't become a victim! kick his *** and kiss him goodbye!! you deserve much better.....unless you are not worth either....but I doubt it, you are a girl!!! fight friend, fight! and leave him!!!!!please!
Threat you, threat you?????????? tell him not to make you laugh like that!!! he is soooo using you.
2007-10-06 08:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he were to take what he wanted then it would be rape. You need to let him go. You should never, ever be pressured into doing something that you are not ready for. If he loved you then he would wait and understand. It sounds like the only thing that he wants from you is your virginity and once he has that he will leave anyway. Don't put up with it. Find someone who cares about you and what you stand for. He's a loser.
2007-10-06 08:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making you have sex when you don't want to? Sounds like rape to me. Maybe he doesn't force you to but by pressuring you and threatening to leave you without sex then if not rape it is at least abusive. Dump his sorry a** and find a real man.
2007-10-06 08:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by troythom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rape is when someone takes another individual sexually by physical force. He's pressuring you, and while that's not the same thing, it certainly can't be pleasant and if you give in to it, I can guarantee that it wont be an enjoyable experience. You don't need that. You have a decision to make. Just make the one that's right an doesn't compromise you an who you are. That's no way to have a relationship with anyone and you can't trust a man who behaves that in that way.
2007-10-06 08:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its coercion. Rape is when you say no, and he does it anyway.
Dont go looking for a way to entrap him. He is being a jerk, but to try to entrap is just plain evil.
If he is going to blackmail you with that then you never had a relationship. How you feel and what you do with yourself is yours and only yours.
You deserve better. You should know that and pursue that. What kind of damage makes you say "I can take this, and where it leads". That guy is evil, get the heck out of there. Leave him and stay gone.
If he can use a sick ploy like that, how is he going to treat your kids? Is he going to have an affair? You cant trust him with yourself, with your relationship, or with your children. Do you really have a future?
2007-10-06 08:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Rape is enforced sex and or sexual intercourse not done willingly or without proper consent. Anyone forced to have sex, either being held up, threatened, and or blackmailed are grounds for rape and sexual harrassment. Your boyfriend just wants you for his lustful gratification. He doesn't truly love you... by threatening you that way he only loves the sex. You deserve someone way better. God bless!
2007-10-06 08:25:39 · answer #6 · answered by LG Kaks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!!!!!! If you said "NO!" He's pressuring you. You have sex against your will. It's still rape!
Dump the bastard.He's not worth anybody's time if he's willing to pressure somebody into satisfying His needs and cannot accept NO to be No.
You had sex after he pressured you into it and if he did not use physical force, it probably would not stand up in a court of law.
But to your spirit it is rape if you said NO and was pressured into having sex.
2007-10-06 08:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is a cad and user. I'm sorry sweetheart but you would be better off without him.
If you eventually say yes, then no it's not rape. It would be rape if you say no all the time and he forces himself on you.
Call his bluff and let him walk if that is the only reason he stays with you, you don't need that kind of grief.
2007-10-06 08:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called manipulation. Obviously he doesn't care what you think or feel. Basically he is telling you that you as a person are not worthy of his companionship and the only thing you have that could possibly get him to stay is sex. WRONG!! You are worth way more than that. Tell him to take a hike & find someone who appreciates you for your mind, body, and soul. Believe me, this guy is not the only guy in the world.
2007-10-06 08:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is no means no,you would be better without him,you cant be any worse off if he thought anything of you he wouldnt do it,i think you should get rid of him before it is to late the longer you leave it the harder it will be,he is only using you,next time say no and mean it,dont let him get away with it anymore ,if he threatens you go to the police,it sounds as though you think a lot of him,he dosnt of you nothing good will come out of this relationship nothing!
hope you can be strong enough to go through with it,
all the best
2007-10-06 08:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by meg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not rape, but it is mental bullying and emotional extortion. Tell him to be on his way. You don't need a jerk like this in your life. Next time he threatens, say "Oh, please do me a great favor and leave." This is actually your issue to deal with. You need to have the strength to be alone and not be willing to do whatever it takes to have a boyfriend.
2007-10-06 08:22:37 · answer #11 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋