Please..Is there a woman like whose husband calls her ''idiot'' ,''cow'' or trows with objects?

Question

please only if there is answer me..

i don't need opinions of the people who haven't been into this situation..the prists doersn't allow me to divorce..except a priest who is friend ..with me..(just friends with his whole family)since we were students.. at the university .

i really don't want to hear the opinions of those who havent been called''idiot, cow, stupid or....brainwashed by church..etc.

it is enough that a psychiatrist told me one thing..that made my life a nightmare..i think a teacher of literature would give me a better advice..

Answer 1

Well, we don't have to tell you that this is abusive, I think you already know that. But there is hope if that's what you are looking for. I'm also in an abusive relationship of sorts. My husband used to call me a lot worse then what you put up there and we have hit each other on very rare occasions. But we've been in marriage counseling for over a year and are finally starting to see that we are happier in our marriage. The abuse has stopped both verbally and physically. What you need to know though is that in order to make a marriage like this turn around, both parties need to take responsibility for their actions. You both need to be willing to face a little bit of humility in facing what has been done wrong, and you both need to work actively at changing your behavior towards each other. Good luck.

Answer 2

Hey, calm yourself down. And don't tell the public all the do's and don'ts that you don't want to hear because you will hear it whether you like it or not.

You are in an abusive relationship! Clear and simple. How long more do you want to be called an idiot? Don't listen to the priest - he is not in the same position as you are. He is only in his belief that's all. You are the one that's emotionally beaten. I'm wondering if there still self steem left on you. What about your self confidence - do have any left? Do you love yourself or do you just leave for him?

Do you know any husband and wife that doesn't have your problem? Ask them and see how they act. Do you know a married woman that doesn't have your problem - how does she feel about herself and how does she carry herself? Compare to you - you will see the difference.

If a person, who ever that may be, call you stupid or any names, you will be that. If you tell him he is the stupid one, will he slap you in your face?

No psychiatrist or priest will make this better - this has been going on for a long time now (I'm sure). There is no more respect from him to you - and you are not as important to him compare when he is still pursuing you. You are the one that is in the situation - you are the one that is hurting and suffering - you are the only one knows what is wrong and what is right for yourself. Get out of there (this is what I will do if I am in your situation) or be firm to him to stop the abusive treatment to you. I believe you cook his food, you do his laundry, you are the one who go to the store to buy food, you clean the house, and other things you do for the family - so therefore, you have equal right to this marriage. It is not a sin or disrespectful for the man you love to correct him if this will contribute to more functional marriage or family. OK? Fight back. If he hurt you physically - get out as soon as you can. Don't worry about your clothes - because there will be worse coming next to that. That's for sure. If you have the right to watch movie - rent the movie "Enough" - Jennifer Lopez and learn from that movie.

Sometimes the reason the man abuse their wife or girlfriend, is because we or they let them. They will try to push this botton and if we let them, they will push each button until we're no more and it will be too late to remedy - on both sides. Remember - equal right all the time. And start saving some physical money just in case you have to run. OK?

Answer 3

that is called domestic violence although it is emotional and not physical from what I can tell from what you said. The church may not let you divorce but I am not sure that the church always speaks for God since Christ said not to lay your treasures upon earth and yet the Vatican is richer than many nations in the world. I personally think a talk with God personally in a moment of prayer is better than any visit to a church which stores treasures in the Vatican while allowing its schools to close because of lack of money. you need to contact a local domestic violence group if there is one anywhere near you and speak with them since you will find others there perhaps who went through what you are facing now. You should not have to put up with that and i am sure God himself would tell you a divorce from an abuser is permitted by him.

Answer 4

It's NOT true that priests won't allow divorce. If you are talking about the Catholic Church you can get an annulment - a Catholic divorce. You have to get the legal divorce first and then work through your regional marriage tribunal and canon law experts to get the annulment. If your husband is not respecting the laws of the church - and he MOST definitely is NOT by not respecting his wife... you most certainly CAN leave and get BOT a divorce and an annulment.
Your husband is a bully and a coward and doesn't deserve to be married. and shame on the priest who is lying to you.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

You may not have permission to get a divorce but you could just move out. The husband is supposed to love his wife and family like God loves the church. Name calling and abuse are not love.

Answer 7

yeah sweety thats verbal abuse and when he starts throwing stuff that physical abuse. your in an abuse relationship, trust me i know. and i know how you feel. if you can't divorce make him want to leave you or something i dont know.but its not right that you have to stay in an abusive relationship just because of your religion. people who tell you that to be a good wife you can't leave no matter what the situation is and that god don't want you to get a divorce is bull. because god don't like violence so what can justify those actions? religion? i think not

Answer 8

um I am not sure if I really understand your question, but if you are in an abusive relationship (which it sounds like you are..physically and emotionally)- then GET OUT! Ignore the church's rules on this one, God will still love you and I really don't think he wants you to stay in an abusive relationship!!! This person will never change- get out while you still can!

Answer 9

If your that unhappy and you cant get a divorce just run away. Pack your stuff and get the hell out of there. Far far away . . . .. Life is so short. You could drop dead at any minute. . . . Dont you want to be happy. And isnt this God of yours supposed to be forgiving?

Answer 10

i have been in the same spot as you just 1 and 1/2 years ago. i left him one day while he was at work . but i know that if i didn't i would end up dead . you need to get out while you still can before something bad happens to you or death