My mom keeps comparing my son (her grandson) to her cat! and it's driving me crazy .. what do I do??

Question

Everytime I tell my mom something about my son (her grandson) .. she instantly compares him to her cat! (my son is 2.5 months old)
Like today, I said my baby pooped and fell back to sleep and I didn't want to wake him to change him -- and she said how she won't wake her cat when he is sleeping. Then I told her to STOP COMPARING MY SON TO HER CAT -- THERE IS A BIG DIFFERENCE (because she does it ALL the time).
She said there is NO difference.. and that she cares as much about her cat as her grandson .. and by the end of the conversation, she said the cat comes first!
I don't know what to do! My mom and I are extremely close (her and my dad divorced when I was 2, and my mom raised me .. and I'm an only child)
It's just so frustrating because this happens on a daily basis. Whenever I ask my mom to help me with the baby (when running errands) she always makes me rush around so she can get home to her cat. And now (over the phone) she just admitted the cat comes first!
What do I do?

My mom is a single woman (56 years old) .. and has had that cat for 4 years. In fact, I'm the one who gave her the cat! It was given to me and I lived in an apt. at the time and couldn't keep it.

I'm just at my wits end! The day I went into labor my mom wouldn't even come to the hospital because she didn't want to leave her cat!

*I'm married and my mom said I have a husband and a baby - and she has her cat! And that the cat is the most important thing in her life because the cat NEEDS her and I don't

Answer 1

O.K> Mom needs a reality check, cats basically look after them selves, babies on the other hand need humans to look after them,
Perhaps now that she doesn't have you to care about, and no hubby to care for, she has tuned all the love to the cat, which in my opinion is just crazy.
Is your Mom jealous that you have your own life now?and you own baby?
Mommy needs some professional help.
If I were you I would stop talking to her about the baby and see what happens? I know we want and need Mom in our lives when we have a new baby, but it sound like Mom isn't going to be there to give you advice and help with your babe, Is there an other adult that could help out?
If you need advice you can e/m me I have 4 grown children and 10 grand children, I could help you out in the advice department.
Your Mom is missing such a beautiful time, that first grand child to me was the best thing God had ever given to me, he's 15 now and I still have a bound with him that I don't have with the others. I love them all, but #1 has my heart like no other.
I,m going to pray for you dear, please ask mom to go to concealing,
God bless dear,

Answer 2

You can't change how your mom feels about her cat.

She's alone and her cat is her only companion.

Yes, she's taking it to a nutty extreme, but then again, you're sort of pushing her into it by making it an issue.

Maybe you can find another mom near you that you can exchange baby-watching with, so you can do your errands.

In a way it's sad; in another way, it's kinda funny.

But you know the cat is really important to her; when one is alone and all they have is an animal, that animal can be all the world to them.

So, try to see the humor; find somone else to watch your baby when you need to go out; and make it up to your mom. She's really lonely without you with her.

Edit for afterthought: Why don't you leave your son at her house? That way, she's not leaving the cat alone while you do your stuff. Without the pressure of feeling she's neglecting her buddy, she may become more attached.

Also, she feels sad that, whereas she had sole responsibility of you, you have a husband. Although not ideal, it's understandable. That must have been really hard for her, and now you're on your own.

Consider what your life would be like if you didn't have your husband with you.

Cut her some slack.

Answer 3

Do not talk to her about your son. Call and talk to her, about everything but your family. Let her talk about her cat and listen to what she has to say, and don't take offense. She is feeling all alone and letting you know that she is lonely. If you can afford it hire a babysitter while you do your running, or take your son with you, a lot of people do, and then she will not have to leave the cat. She will find out that her grandson, is not the same as a cat, but you will have to teach her that. If she volunteers, tell her you could not ask her to leave the cat, and go about your business. It might take a few times, but the fact will get across to her, that a cat is not as important as family.

Answer 4

Does she have many friends her very own age? i'm guessing by all her solutions which you have presented that she is lonely and the cat has replace into her significant other. I had 2 cats for ten years up till this 3 hundred and sixty 5 days and that i regarded at them as my infants. i does not say they have been extra important than my family participants yet she must be announcing that to vex you via fact which you have been arguing. no one pushes our buttons like those we like. i think of in an weird and wonderful experience, she is making an attempt to % out with what you're dealing with by concerning it to her dating to the cat. it fairly is been an prolonged time via fact that she had an toddler and that looks some distance away for her however the cat is doing stuff daily. And to be truthful, you ought to confess that youngsters and pets are extraordinarily comparable till the youngsters commence speaking. They the two make messes, they the two will act as much as get your interest, they the two require your interest and love. My suggestion is to no longer take her speaking with regards to the cat as an offense against your son. i do no longer think of she is fairly which skill to come back throughout that way. attempt to decrease her some slack, she's been by a good purchase and as we become older, it does not get extra handy, fairly the different. carry in there and purely love her and shop experiencing her grandson along with her. i think of the extra you hold her in touch with him, the less she will have the potential to sense based on the cat for her convenience. via fact the Beatles suggested, "love is all we prefer".

Answer 5

be sure never to leave ur son with her alone for like 2 hrs+
cuz what if somethign happens to ur son and her cat at the same time?
like ur son falls down the stairs with the cat.....
she might rush to the cat and take it to the hospital and just grab the baby and go to a vet hospital first....
i mean comon, its her grandson she's saying comes after a cat.

Answer 6

Grandma hasn't had time to bond with your son (2.5mo)

Four yrs is a long time with her pampered pet, which
probably took YOUR place in her empty life.

Bonding is the key here. Give her opportunity to find
the joy you've experienced with your precious baby

Some Grandmothers take longer to bond, but it will
happen if she's around the baby more. No feline can
compare to a grandchild, but Baby & the Kitty would
look great in photos together! (MawMaw)

Answer 7

She needs to feel needed and the cat is giving that to her. Don't just ask for her to sit with the baby, tell her that you need her to help you.

Tell her that she can bring the cat with her when she babysits. Better help her to break it now or she'll turn into the CAT LADY:(

Answer 8

welcome to the real world my mother is 82 and she has a pit bull my grandson is 7 and she do us the same way just learn to hear what you want tune out the rest it dont get no better

Answer 9

she loves her grandchild. she is lonely. just love her.. and be there to support her when the cat dies. becuz she will really need your support.