Family & Relationships - 6 October 2007

I'm 22 years old, I've been married for 7 months. He's in the army, we live in Colorado, originally from Indiana. For the past 3 months (on and off), things have been rocky and I have considered leaving. We didnt date before we got married, we went from best friends to engaged and a month later to being married. I have never really felt married, we don't have a good sex life and its not getting any better. We have no money ever. We're not romantic. When we are being friends then things are fun and laughing and good, but when it comes time to be a married couple (sex, money, kids etc.) there is friction between us, and thats when stress and doubts come in. I have been open with him about how I have been feeling and have repeatly said "Maybe we're just meant to be friends" "If we do break up, I want us to be friends, I don't want to get to the point we hate each other". and he has agreed. His birthday is coming up and the holidays....should i stay until those are over?

2007-10-06 04:45:01 · 6 answers · asked by rachel 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-06 04:41:28 · 25 answers · asked by Sara S 1 in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend has lost a bet to me, i am thinking of him clean for a day and also to write lines!
what shall i get him to write? also how many lines shall i get him to write?
can you think how i can make this punishment worse??

:)
x

2007-10-06 04:41:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There's this women I like at work who is in her mid/late 30's and I'm only in my early 20's. She has a stable job etc.. and Im only a student. Weve known eachother for a few months now (from work) and weve gotten to know eachother quite well etc... we talk alot when we see one another and I know that we both feel comfortable around eachother as weve both broken that physical contact barrier of letting eachother touch one another and playing around etc...Weve often flirted at times...I guess you can say weve both become good work friends.
The only problem is that I plucked up the courage to ask her out the other day to go out sometime and she said that I was a nice guy and that she liked me but I was too young. (Bear in mind the age gap I guess).
After asking her out we both got on and behaved like nothing had happened - as in we were both smiling and talking to eachother like we did before as friends etc..

2007-10-06 04:40:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My grandfather mentaly abuses my grandmother... this is not something i should be asking for advice on but I cant sit back and watch my grandmother suffer like this, My grandfather has a anger issue and he likes to start fights over anything and everything... My grandmother cleans,cooks, slaves at this house for him and all he does is fight and yell at her, he doesnt hit her but he throws things in her direction not at her but towards her... I cant sit around and watch this if someone could please give me advice on what to do I feel like the law is pointless they will just make things worse...... I live in Florida

2007-10-06 04:34:56 · 12 answers · asked by xhelrazerx . 2 in Family

If a person grew up in a home where one of their parents was a habitual cheater, is that person more likely to cheat when he/she is married/in a relationship? What if the child never knew that the parent was a cheater until he/she was grown or never found out at all? What if the child hated that the parent cheated and swore he/she would never do that to someone he/she loved?

If you think so, do you think it's something in the genes, or is it a learned behavior from childhood?

If you don't think so, please tell me why.

2007-10-06 04:33:41 · 22 answers · asked by ncgirl 3 in Marriage & Divorce

An old friend stops by and asks you if he can stay a couple days.while you are gone at work you find out later that he was watching porn in your room while your wife is there.The evidence looks as if she was in the same room because there are no cig buts in any other rooms.Your wife tells you she was in a differant room and acts like its no big deal. How would you respond to this.

2007-10-06 04:33:28 · 4 answers · asked by unmovingasp 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I have a friend that was molested at 13, and now that she 24, she say she's have flash back in the middle of the night. I stayed over here house one night for support. And, I've see here fighting in the middle of night. It's really not a good sight at all! I was tell her that see should confront that person, if he is still around. (Which he was own family member!!) I don't if that might help of make the situation worse. should I tell her?

Child abuse, its common, and there seems to be not much help until is too late.

2007-10-06 04:30:06 · 15 answers · asked by Need to know... 1 in Family

There is a 27 year difference in the ages. She is quite younger. But she has expressed her desire, in more ways than one, of her attatchment and satisfaction of having a more experienced and wealthy companion.

But I worry. Is she simply using her beauty and younger body as a lure to get monetary returns?

I care deeply for my best friend. Ole Ernie is getting on in years and that poodle down the street seems to have wrapped him around her little paw. Should I keep her away and encourage him to "love up" the fence post as a substitute?

I don't want him to be hurt by false and contrived "love".

2007-10-06 04:22:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am a bit angry right now; just don't know whether I should show it.
My friend was abroad for 2 months because of her course. Before that we were really good mates and would meet once a week at least for one of our chats. She's been back for 2 weeks now and she hardly returns my txts and keeps saying she's busy. Anyway I will see her tonight because she's going to a party of a common friend. Am I right to be annoyed or am I being b i t c hy? Should I do the whole "I don’t even care" thing or just be nice and friendly like it never happened?

2007-10-06 04:21:20 · 6 answers · asked by baby jesus 2 in Friends

You could be involved with the loose ends from a lingering relationship drama, yet you are ready to handle the situation. Your dream of ideal love may be confronted by the pressures of the real world and the sooner you face the facts, the better it will be for everyone involved. Even if it's difficult to overcome your inertia, you'll feel more relaxed once you do.

2007-10-06 04:20:06 · 9 answers · asked by N!cky 5 in Singles & Dating

my mom and dad left about 3 hours ago, driving to see my sister at college. the drive takes about 3, 4 hours so they left early and my parents told me to call them when i woke up this morning. about an hour ago, i did, and no one has answered. i have since called them each many times, and left voice mail messages. i even have called my sister and asked her if they were there yet, and they aren't. what should i do? when my parents drive, they ALWAYS have their cell phones in their pockets or right in front of them, and theyre set to ring loudly. i know theyd call me right back if for some reason they couldnt answer when i called, especially my mom who isn't driving. it's been over an hour and i'm really worried about this, what should i do? :/

2007-10-06 04:19:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

She knows about some of the abuse my dad did but not all I haven't told her all because I don't want her to feel responsible and like it's her fault! How do I tell her tha part of the reason I don't hear very well in my right ear is because he backhanded me there when I was a lot younger? He abused mom and my half bros too ok they are now divorced she associates it with

2007-10-06 04:14:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I am in love with my best freind. and we have talked about like what if we got married, and she was the one who brought it up. We have also said what we would name our kids and stuff like that. but i want to hint her somehow that i want to marry her.. i just dont know how!!! HELP!!

and she also said to me, " You would be the one person i wouldnt divorce"

2007-10-06 04:12:05 · 8 answers · asked by oprahmax 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay my husband and I just got married last June and since then its been very rocky...We are both very young.. I am 20 and he is 24 and his step father killed himself last Nov. his mother has been heavily on drugs before his step father killed himself but she got even worse after his death... She was on crack and cocaine... shes made my life a living hell... Shes in rehab right now and we are stuck raising her 15 year old son... We just bought a house together and I pictured this little fairy tale like everyone does... But the little brother is so bad... he curses us out and he seems to have so much anger inside... I try to set the punishment for him to actually learn and husband never follows through with the punishment... Mother in law always needs something from us... we had to move all of her stuff into our house and its full of her stuff and I am scared shes going to try to move in once she gets out... Husband keeps telling me shes not... I live in fear and I am tired of dealing..

2007-10-06 04:11:24 · 20 answers · asked by JessieA 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am an 86 year old man and my girlfriend is just 22. Although our sex life is great and we have some pretty wild games of chess, I'm beginning to get a little tired of her increasingly odd behaviour. Last week she used her fur lined handcuffs to tie me to my Zimmer frame and now she's talking about wanting a threesome with me and another of her girlfriends. I think this is going too far and I'm worried that she is just using me for sex. Am I being unreasonable?

2007-10-06 04:09:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend and I have been talking about marriage - which led to an argument that has been ongoing. I really love this man, and I know that he loves me. However, I wanted to get married in 2009, he wants to get married asap. I want us to be around each other for a year going to marriage counseling and spending time together before we marry. He said he compromised for December of 08, but didn't mention that until we broke up. Then he wanted to move to washington after marriage. I have tried to compromise with him in many ways - he feels i'm not compromising, and I feel he's become different - he's really pushing his ideas and opinions - so I broke it off because I couldn't imagine saying yes with him being like this - I still love him, where do we go from here?

2007-10-06 04:00:44 · 10 answers · asked by CandiApple 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Do woman enjoy any advantages because of their gender ?

Is marriage more advantageous to a man or a woman ?

2007-10-06 03:58:49 · 15 answers · asked by Pramod R 4 in Marriage & Divorce

is youngg love truee?

2007-10-06 03:46:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

well i've been married for 5 years now my husband has an anger management problem he is 6 feet tall and looks like a fooball player so it is pretty intimidatingwhen he gets mad over little things even if i ask what they saying in the news he will snap but this is being growing with time he wa better before but it seems that he is always strees out about anything and everything he has an streessing job that i understand but dont take it out on me that how i feel then he blames me for everything that goes wrong in our life its just i have to much guilt all the time my best friend tell me i can live the rest of my life this way but is soooooo hard to divorce because i love him even more than my self i worry about hes feelings a lot and i know he loves me a lot so bottom line is dont know what todo cause he says hes going to change but then goes back to old wayshes done a lot a thing to me but cheating he is very lawful to me he always home when hes not working .

2007-10-06 03:44:53 · 8 answers · asked by kat 1 in Marriage & Divorce

he is hard to deal with but he is very reliable (she got an operation in her brain ,he stayed supported and took care of her for a whole year of therapy and still taking care as she cant walk, talk or use her hand correctly , now she left him after he helped her buying new appartment and took all her furniture with ,I turned to hate her as i was all my life dont like him upon her talks on him - they supported me and my sister all our life and gave us good education and fully supported me in my marriage which i chose basically to stay beside her and give her grandchildren that she always dreamed of.. i feel like she destroyed us and forcing him to find another wife which in turn is frustrating for me ,i feel like she stapped me in my back as i stayed close to her ,married and worked a regular job just for her to be happy,and i gave up all my ambitions in traveling , building my own career and life.on the contrary my older sis that traveled & worked abroad that was very painful for her

2007-10-06 03:44:19 · 7 answers · asked by fady h 1 in Marriage & Divorce

But after an hour of showing her card tricks and rabbits coming out of a hat, she left with an angry look on her face and a few harsh words. Why?

2007-10-06 03:39:27 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Looking for input. A guy friend of mine was telling me about his ex-girlfriend, who broke it off with him about a year ago and immediately hooked up with another guy. She got engaged shortly thereafter and was just married a few months ago to this guy. She has never stopped calling my friend over the past year. Numerous times, she has told my friend she still has feelings for him. Just this past week, she told him in a lengthy discussion that she still loves him, misses him, and even thinks of him as her soulmate. Maybe she's just jerking my friend around and telling him this stuff because she knows he likes to hear it. For better or worse, he still has feelings for her too.

This seems pretty weird to me. But, maybe I'm old fashioned and things are different today. I'm older and the girl I'm talking about is much younger, so maybe it's OK today to be married, but still have strong emotions for a previous boyfriend. Am I missing something?

2007-10-06 03:38:48 · 9 answers · asked by Tiger 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Do you have to keep your distance or even avoid certain friends because they drink too much alcohol and smoke way too much?

2007-10-06 03:33:11 · 14 answers · asked by Allergic To Eggs 6 in Friends

Me and my faince' r so in love and been engaged for a very long time (but we were in two different countries so the engagement was mostly phone calls and internet)

Problem is .. the "honeymoon" sweet talks , beautiful feelings, calling each other sweet names, romantic stuff .. etc .. are disappearing one by one and it's time to be logic and serious and plan a life together .. I just can't get over it .. i feel i still want more "honeymoon" days .. sometimes i try to bring them back but it seems to be when it's over .. IT'S OVER and it's time to get real

I did talk to him and told him that i miss those days and had a long conversation but as a conclusion his reply was simply "u know i love u"

I dont wanna keep talking to him about it cuz i dont want to sound like an immature girl who still wants to live her fairytale .. or am i ?

Help .. how did u get over the fact that the "honeymoon" period is over ??

2007-10-06 03:31:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-06 03:13:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Finding it difficult to let go and still thinking about what I should do to get by. I still love her but as someone said shes toxxic. But shes my favorite mistake. Trying to dissapate the loneliness any suggestions?

2007-10-06 03:09:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Senior night at step-daughter's sports game where parents walk out with their daughters and are announced. I found out when I got to the HS that she did not put my name in and my husband (her dad) and his ex-wife (her mom) would be the ones announced. The other senior had her mom and dad and their respective spouses (her step-parents) announced. I was crushed. I thought my step-daughter and I had a good relationship over the years and to find out she doesn't want me in her life by not including me in this event really hurt me deeply. And, in front of people I know who are probably wondering what kind of bad step-mother I am that she isn't proud to say I'm her step-mom. My husband hasn't said anything to her yet. He thinks I should talk to her too. Will it do any good or will I get a bunch of lies? I have no desire to go where I'm not wanted so I feel that I should just stay away from future events since it's clear that she doesn't want me around. How should I handle this?

2007-10-06 02:58:56 · 10 answers · asked by Danushka 1 in Family

like we were at a parrty and watching THE OTHERS and im like really easily scared so i was holding him the enitre time,, and i kept like burrying my face in his lap exceter... and i noticed that he had a *****.. andim not complaning i just was wondering if other guys get that from jjust touching a girl

2007-10-06 02:55:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-06 02:54:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating