I am an 86 year old man and my girlfriend is just 22. Although our sex life is great and we have some pretty wild games of chess, I'm beginning to get a little tired of her increasingly odd behaviour. Last week she used her fur lined handcuffs to tie me to my Zimmer frame and now she's talking about wanting a threesome with me and another of her girlfriends. I think this is going too far and I'm worried that she is just using me for sex. Am I being unreasonable?
2007-10-06 04:09:30 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for all your answers. I can't stay long because my colostomy bag is full, but I love you all! (and I havent laughed so much in ages!)
2007-10-06 04:25:37 · update #1
Latest - she now says she has bought a rabbit that is rampant and is keeping it under the bed. Is this some kind of myxamatosis? If so, it sounds very unhealthy. Should I get some lettuce for it?
2007-10-06 22:04:56 · update #2
In posting this utter twaddle yes you are being unreasonable. - bet you don't know any 86 year old men anyway, as for the 22yr old girl? god you have given me a headache now, not to say your a real pain in the neck - but you are!
and I can't believe some people are treating it as a serious question - Heaven help us!
2007-10-06 04:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your out-of-the-ordinary situation will make people think you're making this up. I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt.
Regardless of age, some people just have more adventurous sexual appetites than others; that being said, it sounds like you've definitely got an adventurer on your hands! Here's the thing; if it makes you uncomfortable, say it. Gently bring it up and emphasize that you care about her and hope she'll understand. Maybe offer a compromise; something like, "The handcuffs were okay, but I think bringing someone else in the bedroom is just out of my comfort zone," etc. If she cares, she'll understand and should less pressure on you about it. If she doesn't understand, and it becomes a major issue, then I'd let her go. Even if she isn't using you for sex, you two are just not sexually compatible, and that can lead to some very unhappy times. It sounds like you're living it up, so don't let someone bring you down, man! Keep on keepin' on!
2007-10-06 11:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by nickel259 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
86 vs 22 years old is something i wouldn't consider a normal relationship. it's hard to tell what she is using you for. maybe it's a real relationship, maybe kinky sex is her thing. whatever her reasons are, it's best to protect yourself by asking what she can possible get or benefit from you.
it will be hard for me to give you a concrete advice because not enough information is given about both of your personalities and economic backgrounds.
but it's good to consider some things so you'll have some kind of idea of her real intentions. do you give her money? did you put up some kind of trust in her name? does she or you mind when you go out and seen by people (despite the big disparity in your age)? are you confident that she is totally true and loyal to you? or does she have a boyfriend and is it possible that they are fleecing you?
i don't think you are being unreasonable by being worried about her attitude. you have every reason to feel that way. more so because of the age gap.
good luck, take care, and most of all, have fun you lucky old man :)
2007-10-06 11:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by joebert 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being unreasonable. There are many ways to be compatible with a person; and it just may be that you all aren't sexually compatible. It's great that you guys get along and all, but it kind of sounds like you and her have different views on whats okay to do and not to do, and it's not that she's wrong for wanting to be adventurous, but you aren't wrong either. Hopefully you will either find a happy medium or go your separate ways. Good luck either way!
2007-10-06 11:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by rose_2620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought it over before.May be she is watching TV a lot.Just ask her politely why she wants to do this kind of things.Because of your age gap,It's not vise to be tough to her.22 is the beginning of fun years.somehow she must be,in some way,not fully satisfied with you,I mean not sexually,May be you are the best in bed,Like I said best thing is to talk it over.
2007-10-06 11:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by anjelniki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the situation makes you uncomfortable, then it is not normal for you and you should not go along with anything that you are not comfortable with. I don't think you're being unreasonable refusing to do something that doesn't set well with your feelings.
2007-10-06 11:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by marty47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on grandad go for it, most men would love to have a threesome with another girl LOL
2007-10-06 11:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being very unreasonable young man.
By Jingo remember variety is the spice of life!
2007-10-06 11:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by the gunners 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAHAHA...yes, you are being TOTALLY unreasonable...most guys would be wishing they were in the same position as you (no pun intended)...next time you see her spank her really hard to know that you are up for her games...I'm sure that she would love to be "paddled" just a bit :-)
2007-10-06 11:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by Believe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U shud spend the rest of the days that u are going to live not for sex ......it is time to say goodbye...leave with grace ....
2007-10-06 11:58:20 · answer #10 · answered by jimmy_00r0pq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋