Family & Relationships - 5 September 2007

i also wanted to know why does everyone try to influence a brides decision on how the wedding should be?

2007-09-05 18:12:45 · 27 answers · asked by krissie o 1 in Weddings

dying alone... etc. I'm an attractive woman but I never date. Always alone... it's starting to worry me now. Anyone else? How do you deal?

2007-09-05 18:12:10 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This girl wrote a note on my hand sayin " I Heart You"
she sits beside me all the time and scoots very close and leans on me.
Does she like me or what?

2007-09-05 18:11:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Me and my boyfriend have less than 2 months going out. He wants to have sex but i think is too quick for that. Am i right?

2007-09-05 18:08:45 · 32 answers · asked by karaotica 1 in Singles & Dating

I am devastated and torn. How can I keep this from happening again? How could I have thought he was so wonderful when it was not even me he really wanted to be with? I truly thought he was happy with me, he said it and he acted like it. He spoke of how this ex had done him wrong a few times and we talked about what we wanted different in terms of our relationship. Things were great so I thought and I got my heart broken. He is happy having her and could care less. This is what makes people feel they are not good enough.

2007-09-05 18:07:17 · 15 answers · asked by Callie B 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Me and my bf is together 4 almost 2 yrs. I love him so much that i give him everything. He cheated on me so many times that i catch him w/ the other girls and his lame xplanation is that he just want to play but i am the only 1 that he really love.He call me foul words everytime he's angry and fight w/me when i call the girls to ask the real score and he even beat me cos of it.I try to go away from him but he does'nt want to stop calling me and ask for my forgiveness.I forgive him and again just to found out that he have a new girl w/him.He keep lying and fighting w/me. And if i go away he keep chasing me..Why he is like that.He even ask money from me for a food and just discover that he use the money to bring the girl to the hotel.He promise me so many times that he will change but every two months he will do it again.Please advice me why he behave like that and keep saying that he reallly love me only. What does he want from me?

2007-09-05 18:06:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a best friend that I have been with for four or five years. I met her through my now demon ex girlfriend and we became friends and stayed that way after. So she went through a guy she was with for 2 years and he hurt her so that was that. Then she was with another guy for another year in which we didn't talk. He beat her, verbally and physically, and raped her all the time. She called me, I helped her, a year later she's closed to accomplishing her career than ever. Not much detail but hey. So we did stuff you know but within our friendship not relationship. Agree or not, it helped us get over our pasts. Then after this long, she does something to me so unbelievably horrible, it makes me question to ever see her, talk to her, be there for her, or take care care of her again. Things will not be the same, but what would you do, put yourself in a situation of your own details no matter how different and try to feel the same way. I need advice (Ex; do I stick with her?)

2007-09-05 18:05:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Has anyone done this? Any unique suggestions on what to do? We want to renew our vowels and celebrate with our kids and family. We've not only been married over 30 years, but we dated for almost 9 before marrying! I want to make this not only special to us, but for our kids and their spouses and to be a role model. Thank you very much.

2007-09-05 18:04:19 · 7 answers · asked by Pilot ~ canine son! 6 in Marriage & Divorce

I am 19...(well, I will be in 12 days) and I have already found the love of my life.
I am not a dorky girl that is in Puppy love with some jerk that she thinks is the best guy alive.
He is fantastic and so wonderful. We have our differences and we have fights not often at all, but we are practically perfect for eachother.

My mother thinks I am stupid. She called me a slut and said there was NO way I could no what love is at 19. She said I have to be 35 at least, until I know what love is.

Why do parents think its impossible for a teenager to really love someone.
My best freind found love when she was 16...And her parents said it was puppy love.
She has been with him for 3 years, he is a really kool guy and they are getting married.

Sometimes I feel like telling people:
Just because its taken you forever to even finda person that LIKES you, doesn't mean we all have that problem!!!
(But I cant say that to my mom, cause she would freak out, lmao)

2007-09-05 18:04:16 · 19 answers · asked by Megan 3 in Family

usually taking my top off, a guy making me give him a ******** who i dont even like, and 3 guys feeling me up. i dont really care but i know that is not the person i want to be. is it bad or is it okay?

2007-09-05 18:02:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been seeing a girl for a little over a year. She seems to have all the qualities I want but I'm a little hesitant to move too far forward. A lot of my friends have gotten married and divorced in recent years but I've never been engaged. I have had some letdowns though. How can I tell if it's time to take things to another level?

2007-09-05 18:01:31 · 3 answers · asked by Average Joe 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

are enjoying your lives as suppose to?

2007-09-05 17:55:02 · 2 answers · asked by nanna 5 in Singles & Dating

my mom never leaves me alone help me

2007-09-05 17:53:48 · 8 answers · asked by mikeylikesit 1 in Family

He is on the birth certificate, but NJ welfare did not go after him for child support, (he was abusive) and he only sees him a couple times a year -has never had a real relationship with him, the state gives me 162 a month for my son, not me. His father married and lives very near, but has never stepped up to the plate about child support/custody arraingments, wich I would be happy to work out with him now.
Any advise or suggestions would be appreciated.
I would think, I have both sole and legal custody. But I am not sure. I never went to court for it. I heard even if he did pay, I would only get 50.00 a month, the rest would all go to the state.

2007-09-05 17:52:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

haha - I am, and I do. I'm a little on the weird side though. I mean, I so don't hold full length conversations with myself (I might be weird, but I'm not crazy) , but yeah, i'll just be thinking out loud, or talking to myself . . . . it's pretty funny. Embarrassing too, if there is someone near you, and they're like "Um, sorry, what did you say?" I'm always like, "Yeah, sorry. I was kind of talking to myself. yeah." . . . . . I am alwas running into things or people, or tripping up the stairs (haha - all the time in high school), or tripping over my feet. I think it's okay to be a little clumsy. I think that everyone is clumsy, at least a little.

2007-09-05 17:51:09 · 11 answers · asked by 21dahlly 1 in Friends

My boyfriend is the biggest baby on the planet. I just started birth control, not for sex, but because I have irregular hormones and it helps regulate them so I don't get odd periods during the months. He automatically thinks that means no condoms during sex, which I've announced many times that birth control is not 100% safe and I want to be as safe as possible. After hearing that he went into whine mode and said that he caves in everything I want and why can't I just let him "have me the way he wants" I still am sticking my ground as I want to be safe, but he clearly isn't having it and it's beginning to piss me off. He's ranting, raving and cursing at me about it and it's not like using condoms will deflate how I feel about him, so what's the big deal? I seriously don't know what I should do anymore. HELP!

2007-09-05 17:45:24 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been dating (FWB) a man for five months that is going thru a divorce. He had his big meeting today and got everything settled on dividing the money and custody. They have court mid Sept.

My question is: how long do I wait before I can expect for him to have a relationship/commitment with me?

He had been so overwhelmed by the divorce, money, kids, etc... it kind of consumed him. I could tell in his voice today - JOY! And I was the first one he called after he walked outt he doors. So I can be patient... but I don't want to wait around for a year for him to decide. Just not me...

Help me out here...

2007-09-05 17:40:26 · 13 answers · asked by Mitch 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Hey people, My boyfriend of 6 months and I have been doing great, but we see each other just on weekend, which isn't bad, the weeks go by fast for us. He use to go out partying/dancing at bars in his town and we met and he hasn't been doing much of that, since he was working so much this summer. One of his friends who he partied with a lot before, is moving to the same town, same apartment building. Now I'm just worried his friend will want him to go out to bars on week nights when I'm not there. They use to go to college type bars and go dancing and drinking with girls before, I'm just sick to my stomach even thinking about my bf starting this up... I don't know what to do:( He knows I don't like him doing that, but I don't tell him he can't, i'm not controlling or nething, I'd just rather he not..It just makes me so nervous.. any opinions? Please nothing rude, I'm just pretty nervous about this situation...thanks!

2007-09-05 17:38:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

im the youngest of three. my parents dotes my siblings most.
whenever they wants, they gets. whenever i want, i get a scolding in the end . since i've no maid , my mom pushes me to do all the chores , my siblings and i always had a little quarrel as in pushing each other to do that work. about my sister , she's a spoilt brat , she often came home late , even those days weren't her schooling or working days, she had a baby when she's 16, yeah you know teenagers . even she had the baby , she and her boyfriend doesn't seems to take care of the baby . only my parents and her boyfriend parents only willing to take care. sigh. about my brother , he just sleep all around , wakes up and on his laptop and at night he would go out. im always being lingered in this kind of situation.
i had always have thoughts of running away or even suicide.
am i just useless to them. all i can turn to is my friends, well some of them. they would asked me to talk to them, but im scared. -sigh.

2007-09-05 17:37:06 · 6 answers · asked by Elriowiel 2 in Family

Hi my dear friends,

This time I am here on behalf of my life-friend. My friend is 23 years old and she is very calm girl. Yesterday night (05.09.2007), she over-heard the coverstion between her grandmother and aunty. During the conversation, the grandmother commented the my friend is not the original daughter of her parents. She had been taken from some orphanage. This made her heart-broken. As she entered the room they stopped the conversation, making her to believe that what grandmother had said is true. She is very very upset and she says she wants to meet her original parents. She lives far away from me (nearly six hours of travel). Through phone I convinced her at the most but she is not ready to hear all those things. But she is saying she will not ask this thing to her current parents. I even said it may not be true but she is going out of my hands. Now I fear, whether she will do something negative... Please advice me how can I bring her to normal.

NO JOKES PLEASE...

2007-09-05 17:35:51 · 3 answers · asked by Shinoj Kumar 3 in Family

just started a new job, and this guy that works with me, works in another room, and when he passes by , he always looks in the room,(but I guess that might not really mean anything) and everytime he passes by he always come in and chit chats, and he'll ask me what I'm doing(even though there are two people in the room) and he'll sit in my desk, and look at my computer, and ask ME stuff about politics, and news..I mean it's very casual but he always asks me if I went to lunch yet, and today, me and another co -worker sit in the same room and while they were talking I started doing my own thing typing my other friend on the computer, and he stood behind me and kept hitting my chair...and I'm thinking why does he keep doing that, and then he asks me if I know of a good church, because he hasnt been to one...'s been herein the city for almost eight years ...I'm confused as to why he's playing dumb and being nosey.. Well anyhow what do you think

2007-09-05 17:33:37 · 6 answers · asked by Peaches N'Creme 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i met this girl at my homie's party and we kinda talked and we hung out for a bit but didnt really get to know each other but she seem pretty chill and shes great looking, when i left she put her # in my phone, so the next day i txt her but she didnt reply. she lives about 1:20 hr drive from me and im really interested in this girl. what should i do?

2007-09-05 17:33:24 · 30 answers · asked by George 2 in Singles & Dating

I really admired the old couples that took their wedding vows seriously and would marry till "death do us part". I discussed this with my girlfriend and we both don't understand what is wrong with modern society. We both admire the muslim countries for having such low divorce rates and their strict morals.

In marriage couples are promising to always love one another no matter what, but it seems they rarely follow through anymore.

I feel unless the husband is doing something so wrong like beating up his wife or molesting his children that the wife shouldn't leave him and vice versa. My girlfriend and I both feel girls these days are spoiled too much and allowed to get away with way too much. That could be partly do to the mans fault spoiling his wife; they should look to arab women as the ideal household wife.

2007-09-05 17:31:35 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i dunno why, but my mom is so damn over protective lately. i know she cares about me, but its starting to piss me off. she thinks everywhere i go, ill be doing drugs, and having sex. i havent done anything bad at all. now i wanna go to a dance at another school, were gonna sneak in. i didnt tell my mom were sneaking in so she calls the school and asks if another school is allowed there. now i cant go. she sits there when im doing homework now and it gives me too much pressure. how can i make her back off and get some freedom. dont give me any of the "she loves you" crap. i know that already

2007-09-05 17:31:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-09-05 17:29:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I have a nes sex partner. We had sex this weekend. I couldn't really get into it because his mustache felt like it was giving me brush burns. Since then my "cookie" has been sore and dry. I want to make sure it doesn't happen again. How do I tell him it hurt, without being harsh?

2007-09-05 17:23:05 · 3 answers · asked by Phoenix 2 in Singles & Dating

Ever since I turned 18, everything has gone to hell and it all has to do with my older sister. I used to live with her, and in turn for me being able to stay, I watched her kids. Welln I went to go visit some of my friends one day who lived about an hour and a half away. I then got a phone call from one of my family members who also lived in the area saying that my sister did not want me to come back-as in ever. So with that being said-where was I supposed to stay? I asked my (who I thought were caring adoptive parents) if I counld stay with them until I could find myself an apartment. Their answer? No. So I asked some of my friends if I could spend the night at their house every now and then. Their answer? Sure-but only when it was convenient for them as well(which was absolutely fine by me). Most of the time tho-I spent living out of my car (in my parents driveway). I recieved an email later, from my sister, saying how shes enjoying laughing in my face because of how miserable I am.

2007-09-05 17:20:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm not very social but want to meet someone. For various reasons, there are places I refuse to go looking for someone and places I've given up on.

Bars - I don't drink and don't want to meet people who do.

Clubs - I HATE dancing!

Party - I don't drink, dance, and am not a social butterfly.

Sports events/functions

Church/Religious functions - I'm not religious.

Volunteer/Community events - I don't/won't volunteer.

College/School related functions - I'm out of school and won't go back. Most girls are back in school so I won't meet them at my usual hang outs and I don't want to get involved with a girl who will be a world away 9 months a year.

Places I frequent or have tried meeting girls are:

Mall/Stores: The girls who show are always in groups or with a BF/GF.

On-line - It's expensive, competitive, and unrewarding.

Work: I hate pursuing girls I work with. It always turns out badly, and they are often the girls I don't want to meet (why I avoid places).

2007-09-05 17:20:10 · 22 answers · asked by crabdog62482 1 in Singles & Dating

Today, when I talked online to my boyfriend, i asked the usual, how are you, and today he said "in pain" well, come to find out, he got cut deep and got 3 stitches in his thumb. Well, naturally, I said "are you all right??" (to which he replied "no") and then i asked "how did you cut yourself?" he replied, "can't tell you that, it's a secret" and I said "i wont tell" and he said "i cant f***in' tell you!!!!" why wont he say??? what do u think it could be that makes him not say???

2007-09-05 17:19:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Since my first love broke up with me after 3 years, i just cant seen to understand what being happy is anymore.I tried getting back with my ex but i only found out **** about that she didn't really love me and it was all a lie and i lost it and i hit her and now i'm going ot jail.I used to be that really nice kid, going to college and never getting into trouble but now becuase of this pain that i have i seen to want to use drugsand i'm alway sad,angry and deppresed.I'm always thinking about killing myself or killing her for this pain she is cuasing me .I did so much for her and sacrifice and stood by her side but at the end nothing matter .What can i do to get help or is their help for what i'm going through or is it just going away cuase its been six months since this she left me and i'm going ot jail next month.Please Help Me?Anyone .I'm scared that i will be a drug user or worse a murder.

2007-09-05 17:16:57 · 12 answers · asked by jake 1 in Singles & Dating