I'm not very social but want to meet someone. For various reasons, there are places I refuse to go looking for someone and places I've given up on.
Bars - I don't drink and don't want to meet people who do.
Clubs - I HATE dancing!
Party - I don't drink, dance, and am not a social butterfly.
Sports events/functions
Church/Religious functions - I'm not religious.
Volunteer/Community events - I don't/won't volunteer.
College/School related functions - I'm out of school and won't go back. Most girls are back in school so I won't meet them at my usual hang outs and I don't want to get involved with a girl who will be a world away 9 months a year.
Places I frequent or have tried meeting girls are:
Mall/Stores: The girls who show are always in groups or with a BF/GF.
On-line - It's expensive, competitive, and unrewarding.
Work: I hate pursuing girls I work with. It always turns out badly, and they are often the girls I don't want to meet (why I avoid places).
2007-09-05 17:20:10 · 22 answers · asked by crabdog62482 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do people treat me like I'm worse than Hitler for hating to dance and not wanting to end up with a lush? Talk about a F'ed up society.
Things I enjoy are either loner activities or seldom draw female crowds.
Examples: I use to play Paintball every year. It drew few girls, and they were an unappealing bunch (the types of girls who are one of the boys), as well as mostly taken and brought by a BF. I like Movies (talking during a movie = bad, after a movie = impossible). Video games and music aren't group activities (I don't go to concerts). I play a card game, but it draws a non-existant female base.
The only thing I did wrong is have a lot of hobbies girls don't like. I can't help it if a modern girl's idea of fun is: get wasted, talk non-stop in her social circle, or dance the night away. If you're going to give me crap for disliking big crowds and having limited interests, share that love with girls who have equally limited interests but expect guys to share theirs.
2007-09-05 19:19:02 · update #1
Try the library!
2007-09-05 17:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lula 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sound like you need to work on your self because everything you do not do is a part of life Work on comeing out of your shell Pursue takeing a dance class because most women love to dance You can go to parties without drinking (An art gallery opening or some other social event) (You sound like you might have a social anxiety disorder that could be helped by counseling) Many people are effected by this and recieve help for it It is a fear of social situations Research it You need to pursue what makes you happy and what motivates you Try an art class or yoga class something that will bring the inner you out You sound very shy and in you is a person waiteing to be explored and brought out then and only then can you expect to bring some one else into the picture
2007-09-05 17:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by chameleon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys meeting a girls parents. I don't mean to sound biased because I'm a guy, so I'll explain it. When a girl meets a guy's parents, they look for these things: She doesn't show too much skin, not a ditz, is generally enjoyable company. If the girl can even just say relatively quiet they would probably just take her as shy and therefore not a bimbo. Now when a guy meets a girl's parents, generally, the father is the problem. He knows good and well what high school guys are interested in. Everything that comes out of that guys mouth will sound like "I'm just trying to look civilized in front of you so I can bang your daughter."
2016-04-03 05:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, where is here in your case?
The book "Mars And Venus On A Date" says, you should go places, you have no interest in going to. Personally, I think you should go to community events. You hate doing the persuing? Why? YOu might never meet women in whom you have an interest, unless the women persue you. And that, comrad, might never happen. SO I suggest you make that one little change, in yourself. Good luck! By the way, you're mistaken about one thing- online dating isn't expensive, you just haven't been to the more affordable sites. Shot By Cupid is worth your time and effort. If you don't have a paying membership, you can earn points and get a temporary regular membership with 150 points. But you have to keep earning them, until you hook a lady, and cancel.
2007-09-05 17:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, especially when you're an adult. It suck's. Start walking in a park, lot's of people.Try to change your state of mind, it's holding you back. You keep saying "i don't" "I won't" "I hate".Say YES to thing's you haven't done. Go to an inexpensive restaurant where you can sit at the Counter on a regular basis. Have some consistency with this so people can get to know you.You can't meet someone sitting at home every night.Go to a place where you will be for a duration.Schedual an oil change during a busy time, talk, try.
2007-09-13 13:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are girls that would love to meet you i am sure. you should really great other then being loner but then again you are that way cause you have not found the person for you and when you do watch out. i would think maybe grocery store or soemthign like that. malls would be good and i know they are together but that is chance you have to take no girls go alone any more to places for fear they will get hurt so maybe try there and you find someone good luck
2007-09-12 17:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't social...you'll probably have a hard time meeting someone. You've given yourself hardly any options. Do you like music? Maybe you can go to a concert. But if you hate that too then your only option is to go back online since it seems you never want to leave the house.
I hate being approached at the mall. I'm there to shop...not hear cheesy lines from guys lol.
2007-09-05 17:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine Queen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well DAMN . You just eliminated all possibilities.
If it was really ment to be, u will probably run into a girl at the most unexpected time and place. Try the park! Buy a dog!
And you will love dancing when you find the right partner. Honestly though, any girl is good! Its just dancing!
2007-09-05 17:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never meet a girl you are compatible with doing things that don't interest you.What do you like to do?Stick to what interest you and when you are doing them chances are you will at least meet a girl with similar interests.
Find out what you like and do it. Life will follow you. You are following life and this needs to change
2007-09-05 17:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by WDOUI 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being a girl myself, i know how clingy girls are in groups but trust me, there are a lot of girls looking for single guys. however, you really need to keep trying and not give up hope after trying once. if you're serious, you just need to give it time and things will eventually look up.
places to try:
-coffee shops
-walks in the park
-connections from your friends
-at the gym
just keep trying!! good luck !!
2007-09-05 17:31:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
interesting question. but honestly you have many answers. choose one and work on it. the short answer you have to try "all" whichever feels OK with you. if you like to hang around in book stores do so until you meet. if you do not like bars do not go there. the chances of meeting will increase where you feel comfortable not "them". hope it helps.
2007-09-05 17:27:16 · answer #11 · answered by s t 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋