I am 19...(well, I will be in 12 days) and I have already found the love of my life.
I am not a dorky girl that is in Puppy love with some jerk that she thinks is the best guy alive.
He is fantastic and so wonderful. We have our differences and we have fights not often at all, but we are practically perfect for eachother.
My mother thinks I am stupid. She called me a slut and said there was NO way I could no what love is at 19. She said I have to be 35 at least, until I know what love is.
Why do parents think its impossible for a teenager to really love someone.
My best freind found love when she was 16...And her parents said it was puppy love.
She has been with him for 3 years, he is a really kool guy and they are getting married.
Sometimes I feel like telling people:
Just because its taken you forever to even finda person that LIKES you, doesn't mean we all have that problem!!!
(But I cant say that to my mom, cause she would freak out, lmao)
2007-09-05 18:04:16 · 19 answers · asked by Megan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My daughter found her true love when she was 17. She is almost 19 now. We went to a restaurant, she had a cold, baggy jeans and a shirt with a rip. She told me she wanted to "order the waiter" . She had never had a serious boyfriend. They just celebrated their 1 year dating anniversary. I call him son-in-law. Because of finances, they can't get married until she finishes college because of my husbands veterans benefits. I believe your mom should reconsider, especially if your boyfriend has the same values as you. Many teens encounter abusers. You are fortunate. Keep him.
2007-09-05 18:26:14 · answer #1 · answered by gerlawgoody1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its not because it takes forever to find someone. Because its a given some people can just pick up any man or woman off the street. I mean they are out there and waiting. But if you trully don't do anything meaningful with your life other than just be in love with such a wonderful and amazing guy then what have you accomplished? Absolutely nothing. I mean love is one thing, but it doesn't feed you, it doesn't make you feel real achievement. And seriously over time you will get a real ephiany one of these days and realize your mom was right.
2007-09-06 01:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As parents, we all typically like to think we know what's best for our kids. But realistically, we don't always know what's best and we need to accept that fact and allow our kids to be who they are, as long as they're not endangering themselves or anyone else. True, you might be better prepared to determine what real love is when you're older, but there's also a very good chance that you've already found the love of your life right now. Everyone is different; what works for your mom might not come close to working for you. Maybe your mom is looking back over her life at things that she thinks were mistakes and trying to keep you from making the same ones. I wish you the best of luck; try having a serious, calm conversation with her about her concerns to clear the air and get both of your opinions out for discussion. She's got to know that, at age 19, you are going to make your own decisions.
2007-09-06 01:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by classic1957gal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's too early to say you have found the love of your life - maybe after you have been together for about 5 years and you have been through some tough times and survived the relationship you can say that. It may "feel" like you have but things do change as time goes along. Just take things slow and let time work things out.
2007-09-06 01:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by flip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, love takes time. How long have you known him?
You stated that you have differences and fights, though not often.. sometimes couples do argue, but the one thing you need to have in a relationship is trust. If you can trust him, and he can trust you to, then you should have a healthy relationship.
I think your Mom means well, but she shouldn't call you names. And no you don't have to be 35 to know what love is. Look we have boys and girls going to foregin lands at 18 to help our country...(but that's another story)..God bless em.
Get to know this guy, take it slow your young.. Take care.
2007-09-06 01:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by Rudy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
parents find it real hard to accept that there kid (especially daughters) is growing up.although most of the time its true that at 19,not many people actually fall in love,your case might be a LITTLE different.but always be careful.being in love at 19 is like consciously curtailing your adulthood freedoms.so flirt around a little and make sure that he is the guy for you.let all doubts be cleared--and then you should have no problem defending your views.
2007-09-06 01:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey I'm no mom but I am 24 and I've been there. I've been 19 and I've been in "love". yes its real, I'm not suggesting that what you feel isn't love or that you two aren't great together.
But you MUST unerstand that you just do not have the experience to be able to foresee the consequences and responsibilities of being in a committed relationship. Experience teaches you what you like and dislike in others, allows you to discover qualities in yourself, shows you that not everyone is quite how they seem.
I was in love in highschool and dated a guy for 3 years. my mom hated him but I thought he was passionate and so in love with me and treated me like the most important person in the world.
It was not until I found someone who was a real man to show me what I was missing in a relationship.
I found out that my sweet high school boyfriend had been having sex with someone we worked with for 4 months behind my back.
It was devastating but taught me a lot
just keep your head clear and be responsible. that is all your mom wants for you.
my mom could see warning signs in my relationship that I could not. Mom's are really smart sometimes ;)
I hope your bf treats you good :) good luck!
explain to your mom that you're ready to deal with grown up things and that you will be mature about it...talk to her about your relationship and maybe she will feel a little more secure about it.
2007-09-06 01:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a parent like your mom, yes old. probably what she is trying to say is from experience you know the lack of experience you have. I would like to ask you if you really know what it means to commit to someone. Now maybe you don't mind being like most who are not really going to worry about sticking to there marriage vows. Those vows are very strong obligation and in fact if you sit down and discuss them with someone you would probably find that they are impossible to keep. Just ask as many divorce women why they left there husbands and you ask yourself if you would under the circumstances. You see you will probably say your husband is going to be different from all the rest but the reality is he isn't so ask yourself are you prepared to stick to your wedding vows because most women don't.
2007-09-06 01:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just wanted to say congrats! I'm 19 and would be absolutely thrilled to find love at this age. Some people are just too jealous to appreciate the good thing you and your guy have. Don't worry about them, live your life. :)
2007-09-06 01:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's probably don't wanna accept the fact that little girl is growing into a women! relax, she loves you, she only wants you to make the right choices!!! believe me I'm 23 yrs. old and been with my soul mate since we were 16 and 17!! my mom said the same! talk with her too!!!
2007-09-06 02:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋