Family & Relationships - 5 September 2007

Ok pretty long story but will try to keep it short. We are both in our twenties, been together for 4 years...hes never physically cheated on me, im sure of that, but he has previously joined a swinger site (with a very explicit homepage about himself), i found loads of email correspondence with other women, talking very sexually, one arranging to meet a couple for a threesome (he told me he only done that for a joke and wouldnt have gone through with it), i caught him masturbating online with another girl via msn, calling sex lines etc etc.

He always apologises and says hes sorry and he would never physically cheat on me. Its driven me to the point of crazyness, i check his phone, email etc (and normally find something!!) though not for the past 8 months or so. Im so paranoid that I dont even want him looking at other women, this is not a healthy relationship but I love him so much and dont want to lose him and believe that he loves me too. Does he have a sexual problem?!

2007-09-05 23:55:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Weve been together for nealy a year and he asked if we should get engaged, he even talked about it with one of his mates, i hesitated, do u think it might be real??? BUT, now hes called us off all together, well, he just wants a break, ssooooo........... Should i ask him to marry me???

2007-09-05 23:54:37 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i met my ex since we were in 8th grade i had a crush on him since and we dated in my 11th and 12th grade i loved him but at the end it didn't work now i've been married almost a yrs and i still have dream with him and find myself thinking of him but i love my husband so why do i still think of him?????please help

2007-09-05 23:50:41 · 8 answers · asked by rosalinda 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-05 23:48:39 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-05 23:46:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well i found out my ex bf...got i new girl..
I can not take it nomore.
we still talk every night ,well he still calls me every night.
but i know he still loves me cause he tells me all the time.
like a few day ago h called my friend to talk about me.
he told her he was kinda using the other girl to forget about me.
we were together for about 1 year n have broke up lik 4month ago.
i try to get over him and everything but i just cant let him go.
when i lived by him everything was great..it couldnt be any bettter...but now the long distace is killing both of us.i mean we are like 1687.44 miles away:[
welll i talk to him seriusly like yesturday...and told him how i still felt and he told me to.
he said he had to think everything over .
sooo what if he says we should get back together ..what should i do???
what if he says this cant be nomore..am i soppouto stop talkin to him..
he is such a great guy but he is too insecure of himself.
helppp what should i do??

2007-09-05 23:30:27 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm the tech geek in my family. When we get some new harware, i spend all my time learning all its features. That puts me in a bit of a dillema...
My dad knows enough about tech to get by... but my mum knows nothing. So whenever she wants something done, she makes me do it... wherever i am, whatever i may be doing. She screams her head off to get me to start a DVD for her (or something of the sort which would be simple if you just read the user manual). This has been going on for 2-3 years now.
At the start i politely told her to read the manual, but she never did (for ANY appliance). then i said i would teach her, but either she doent want to learn, or she forgets (and she has a good memory).

I had to log her on to her email for 3 years before she learnt how to. So you get the gist of my tantrum. and she doent care if im talking to a friend or anything, i MUST do it. she never asks my dad either, and he knows how to as well.

(cont'd)

2007-09-05 23:28:24 · 8 answers · asked by Rastafarianhobo 4 in Family

I went to meet my ex boyfriend of 3 years, whom i am very much in love with lastnight, and he was telling me about the girl that we split up over, that he is gutted as he is in love with her but she told him that she was seeing someone else and all that he was to her was a bit of fun. it was hard to sit there and hear his feelings for her especially when i love him. I dont know what to do, he knows how much i love him. i am heartbroken

2007-09-05 23:26:39 · 13 answers · asked by nc 3 in Singles & Dating

can someone please give me some advice on what to do here. her dad left when she was five was never seen him again her step dad has never treated her like a daughter her mom loves her but they are not that close every other boyfreind she has had has used her and mentally and verbally abused her and her ex husband did the same always yelled at her never said he loved her always slept on the couch wouldnt come home for days when he did coem home he was always drunk. her heart has hardened over the years because of the abuse. how do i soften her heart again. how do i show her im not like the other. i have tried everything i can think of but it doesnt seem to be working. she told me lastnight that i was going way to fast that she wasnt ready for all i had to offer. she ssaid she feels smothered but she acknowledges that i haven't done anything to smother her. she doesn't go out with her so called freinds anymore because of me.-what do i do

2007-09-05 23:23:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How come when it comes to r'ship or family problems majority of you would think of Divorce or Separation...isnt there any other solutions to settle the prblm?? no offence... just curious..

Isnt divorce a pain process to all of the individuals involved?? including the innocent children

2007-09-05 23:20:12 · 17 answers · asked by SexyPrincess 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Match.com likes to change the profile you create. Yahoo takes too long to approve updates. And eHarmony has this gawd awful questionnaire to go thru and some don't even make the cut after all that effort.
Besides that, it's like Forrest Gump says; never know what your gonna get.
Think I will go back to the bar...

2007-09-05 23:20:11 · 1 answers · asked by Kari 4 in Singles & Dating

I am 14 year old guy and my 22 year old cousin ( girl ) came to stay with us last month.

She is a very outgoing girl who shares my bedroom with me...she is a tom-boy - 5 11 in height and well built.
She moves around my room in her underwear all the time and that turns me on....i think she might have even noticed my hard on once...
The other day she walked into the room when i was in the shower and she wanted to use the shower...she was in a hurry, i asked her to wait for 10 mins...but she barged into the shower when i was totally naked....she was in her bra and panties...and forced me out of the shower...

She then put her hands under my buttocks and carried in on her shoulders and threw me in the bedroom and carried on with her shower....when she was carrying me she had her hands on my d. i . c. k as well

i am abt 5 8 in height and so she likes to carry me around and dominate me sexually and tease me.
I do not know how to handle her...what if she rapes me because shes stronger? HELP

2007-09-05 23:17:57 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hi,

As we see in porn movie that a man can penetrate the vagina for 30 minute or for more time span.
How it can be possible?
i see my boyfriend cannot stay in that position even for 4 minute continuously.
we take generally 5 minute in forplay, then 2-3 minute in real penetration then 4 minute in afterplay.

it that all normal? or we should meet doctor?

Plz tell me without taking any drugs in normal condition, how much time a man can spend in veginal intercourse. plz exclude the time of foreplay and afterplay.

plz the performance of man as well as ur expectations of women.

Thanks in advance to all answers.

2007-09-05 22:58:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Some body fall in love with me .He is a very good boy in many character that iagree & believe them for getting married.Advantages that he has:good moral/behavior/so active/so happy/doesnt waste his time /adventurous..etc . I think he is ready to get married, but he doesnt want now.I agree with him in some cases and i give him 60%mark .He said its soon for us to get married. he say his word indirectly &it bother me alittle.He shows his feeling toward me but doesnt say it directly.what should i do?im in dobt.i dont know exactly that i love him too.i prefer not to show my feeling.maybe i will have better situation in the future.im in dobt.i think about his words & behavior but i cant get a absolute decision.

2007-09-05 22:52:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Adult married children of a couple repeated ask of their mother to attend family get-togethers where her former husband and new wife are to attend. The Wife was abused ( emotional /spousal raped etc) by him. had protection order on him once.They blame her for NOT forgiving him, yet don't believe her, & say he has changed..? The Ex lied regarding the mother , children believe him. She is remarried, the new husband is very compassionate and respects her. He too doesn't want to be around the EX, who in court got a religious leader to breach confidentiality to harm her, with a lie ex told of her. There's proof of his actions, but no one wants to believe, tapes and his handwritten threats.. She is ill, they don't care. She has had to separate from them and her mother, to protect herself emotionally . She wants resolve, be close to grandchildren. they think they are right.. it 's not who's right or wrong, it's about doing what's right. telling the truth.. she said. shes so depressed..

2007-09-05 22:51:51 · 5 answers · asked by miladyfaire 4 in Family

2007-09-05 22:45:30 · 6 answers · asked by smart_sweet43 1 in Friends

I know this girl that I was into when we first met, and she never knew about. But it's been like four years and we've both been doing our own thing, I just got out of a long relationship a few months ago, and she just broke up with her boyfriend about a week ago, they were together for over a year and a half, and so was I with my girlfriend. But now that we're both single I'm starting to wonder if maybe theres a chance of us getting together. How soon is to soon to start anything like this? How much time should I give her before even letting her know I'm interested?

2007-09-05 22:44:42 · 6 answers · asked by Dan R 1 in Singles & Dating

If my husband has been looking what would be the best way to approach him?

When I saw the website I decided to sms my husband but was afraid to confront him because I had not at that stage confirmed if the site was a porn site because his laptop was offline & I needed to double check.

So I pretended to send him an sms by "mistake". Saying"lol! have you been looking at dodgy websites again ;) He replied and said "No why?". I smsed back & said I had meant to send the sms to my friend because someone at her work was looking at porn & it got sent in emails to clients. (Which is true, it really did happen, just a few weeks ago though).

The next day I typed in the site I had written down and found it be a porn site. So that means if he has been looking at porn he lied on top of it.

I know its best to have open communication but I don't want to accuse him if he hasn't done anything or it wasnt his fault if it really was a pop up. Should I write him an email?

2007-09-05 22:44:38 · 5 answers · asked by withlove 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Im currently inrolled in a charter skool, and its a very strict skool. im an 11th grader reading at a college level and im at a senior level in math. im qualified but im finding it hard 2 focus. im pregnant and im finding it hard 2 balance morning sickness with 30 hours of homework a week plus studying. i went through a long process 2 get into thiz skool but i really want 2 go 2 a diff. 1 that i kno is a little bit easier and i know they will work with me. the thing is im liveing wit my bfs mom[the grandma of the baby] and she went thru a lot 2 get me in the skool and im afraid she will b upset i dont wanna go. i just feel so overwhelmed and stressed!! u c if i miss 1 assignment in any subject twice....they will kick me out of that subject and take away drivers ed....plz help, i dont kno wat 2 do!!!

N PLZ PPL....JUS CUZ I WRITE LIKE THIZ DOES NOT MEAN IM NOT WRITING A COLLEGE LEVEL CUZ I AM.
IM ONLY 16 N MOST TEENS WRITE LIKE THIZ.

2007-09-05 22:43:57 · 5 answers · asked by Mrz.Ghost 1 in Friends

My good friend sent me an e-mail saying i should describe her with only one word an one word only. Now i know you will say i'm the only one knowing this, but i would like some suggestions, some unusuall, meaningful, not everyday-like words. I'm having i hard time thinking about this.

Thank you in advance!

2007-09-05 22:33:46 · 15 answers · asked by nickname 1 in Friends

later on after a month i found out that he has a son and married )cant confirm if they are living together but he said he has a wife or sumthin, regardless of that, i avoid him but still bugs me to have sex with him but the problem is that I gave my virginity to him and it will be hard for me to forget him that easily. we've known each other for 2 months already. help guys, i need a very realistic and effective and serious advice to this problem of mine.

2007-09-05 22:30:05 · 6 answers · asked by armyleen r 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Not that I'm planning to say it to anyone... Just having a debate with my friend last night on it, and wondered what other peoples experiences were?

2007-09-05 22:23:42 · 24 answers · asked by rollacoasta 3 in Singles & Dating

I went on birth control pills, and then I started throwing up constantly.
I threw out everything for two three days, and could not eat, and
threw out with gastric juices, and acid burned my tract, and my mouth and even my lips. I can hardly stand, and I am dizzy, I have fervour and headache.
At night I though that I was going to God, it was so bad.
And he hopes that I would cook, wash, clean, please him in bed and go to work to pay his bills, while taking it! All because he wants "pleasure" and "to feel it?" I do not understand how men can be so selfish! I would not wish it on the bitterest ex, the less so on a person who looks after you day and night! And after seeing me, all green, thin, with my lips patched the desire for "feeling pleasure" is so high, that he tells me to go on with this pill, or try another!
I am never putting this nasty thing into me ever in my life. Not this one, not any other one, not a different doze, nothing.

2007-09-05 22:21:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

What does it mean when a person who is already married for 5 yrs and is in constant touch with a married woman only over email and not seen each other and knows many of the problems of the woman's married life (if only the man has seen her photo ) and says that he misses her a lot , I always think of you etc.

2007-09-05 22:17:10 · 9 answers · asked by janu 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

but my problem is he is not understand my feelings, som times he used to talk harsly,hurts me. aft that i i'm upset,he come and tel me tat i just kid u dear.i think that he is not loving me and no affectionate to me.From his office he'll come at 7.30pm. i have just 2 hrs to spend time with him. in that mean while i used to talk (abt my family,frnz and his family). we used to go out aft 8.30 to 9. but he is not interested to hear me. offen saying that i'm talking more, and not interested to hear other peoples problem. just 2-3hrs v r being together aft that v used to sleep. in that 2-3 hrs he like to talk abt something abt sex. i'm so upset in his behavier, this makes me to feel sad, i dont no wat to make him to feel happy? plz tel me how to get his love&affection.

note:v r in abroad, not with my mother-in-law,father-in-law

2007-09-05 22:15:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-09-05 22:09:15 · 15 answers · asked by mohammed Tariq q 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My best friend is getting married in Febuary and she has asked me to find out!
Any website addresses would be very helpful!

Thank you in advance for all your help!

2007-09-05 22:01:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

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2007-09-05 21:58:49 · 8 answers · asked by aman g 1 in Friends

I have been married a year. It was good but a few months after I do the passion was gone.He is military and I don't know if it is because of the trauma of war or it's me.He complains all the time about me.Mainly he wants me to change my breast size and I would rather not.I tell him I wont and he insults me and looks at other women.We are not intimate as much as we should and he claims its all my fault and I know it's both of ours.He complains if I hug, hold, or try to get close to him. I try and try and I get pushed away. He checks my e mails and messages to see if I am cheating. If a guy talks to me like a friends and I mean converstations like hi how are you he gets jelouse.He blocks me from getting on his computer and his e mails and I think it's not fair.We currently relocated to a different base and I don't know if I should try and work things out for a few months see if anything changes or just say screw it and leave. We have no kids at all. I just want to know what yall think?

2007-09-05 21:58:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

1. How would your members of your family react including yourself about this even knowing that your neighbor is right?

2. Would your family admit the wrong doing or would you protect and insist on the innocence of your kin? Why?

2007-09-05 21:56:37 · 6 answers · asked by cindy_two 1 in Family