I went to meet my ex boyfriend of 3 years, whom i am very much in love with lastnight, and he was telling me about the girl that we split up over, that he is gutted as he is in love with her but she told him that she was seeing someone else and all that he was to her was a bit of fun. it was hard to sit there and hear his feelings for her especially when i love him. I dont know what to do, he knows how much i love him. i am heartbroken
2007-09-05 23:26:39 · 13 answers · asked by nc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on. Nothing good come out of unrequited love.
2007-09-05 23:30:25 · answer #1 · answered by Scampi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my sympathy, it must have been incredibly hard to sit and listen to him pouring his heart out to you and you must be a very caring person to want to be there for him. But, you have to think of yourself now, he is not being at all considerate of your feelings is he, he knows you are in love with him but thinks its ok to use you as a shoulder to cry on. Its not, and its time to sever all contact with him, you are heartbroken and its the worst feeling in the world, but it doesn't last forever, time heals and you will heal a lot quicker if you don't see him again. Move on, find new interests to take your mind off things, make some new friends, eventually you will meet somebody else who is so right for you that you won't give your ex another thought. Take care of you.
2007-09-06 00:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleybumple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that this guy should not enter Mr. Sensitivity anytime soon! He's crying to you about being treated in the very same way that he treated you!! Please make yourself unavailable to him, he will lean on you for comfort and support and then when you have helped him get over this girl he will find another, he left you because he didn't want you, he's split up from this girl and he doesn't want you, and when he gets over wanting her he will not want you. If you don't go now you could spend the best years of your life patiently waiting in the wings.... for someone who does not want you. I am sorry if this hurts you but sometimes there is no easy way to say things like this.. Good Luck
2007-09-05 23:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by patlynn2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to have forgotten that you are not one of his 'mates' that he can sit and discuss his feelings with you are the EX. It is quite typical of a man to forget that he needs to think about what he is laying on you.
Try and get over last night and put it down to experience. If you see him again and he starts bringing up any of that stuff then just stop him and tell him that you are not really the right person to be sharing his thoughts with on that subject.
I know it hurts but you will move on and it will probably be a lot quicker if you don't bog your life down with this rubbish.
Good luck
2007-09-05 23:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by sal-your pal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there girl... and obviously so has your ex-boyfriend. He is feeling the same way about his current gal, as you do him. If you can see yourself rekindeling with him (which i advise is a no-no, but the heart has little common sense, i can attest!) then why don't you ask him? If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out, and hopefully you will find a way to move on. And the first step to moving on, if that is the path you choose... you cannot see him any more. Even just for a "drink", trust me, it will kill you inside.
Good Luck.
2007-09-05 23:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by Jewls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its called karma, he left you for someone else then she left him for someone else. now he knows how you feel and you've both got someone in common. BUT he made his bed he lies on it, dont let him con you into getting back with him, theres too much baggage and he betrayed you first time. If you want to be there for someone who hurt you then fine but Im not sure how long you've been not together, different people get over exes differently. All you can be is a friend to him if you think he deserves that.
2007-09-05 23:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by a beautiful lie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look u love him nah? then u must b happy coz he's happy wiv dat gal. dont try 2 get him back coz he may start hating u. Besides to love doesnt mean to posess. if he's destined 2 b urs, he'll return 2 u. But if not, then live wiv his memories for the rest of ur life n with the idea that ur love is happy werever he's. Rite now he needs comfort, so always b here for him. who knos maybe after dat he may realise his love for u?!
2007-09-05 23:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what an evil man to expect you to listen to that when he knows how much you care about him!! How increadilby selfish and inconsiderate!
You will get over this, I had that with an ex a coupek of years ago, was all over his new girlfreind when I saw him adn then was all devistated when she broke up with him as she coulsn't cope with a long distance relationship (same reason he had broken up with me, then moved to the city I lived in!!) I just stopped seeing him as I couldn't belive he thought I could cope with that
2007-09-05 23:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by Jody W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have told him 'what goes around comes around' sounds like he got his just desserts! i wouldn't have sat there and listened to him drone on no matter how much i loved him. how would you feel if he did get back with you but you knew all along that he was really in love with the other girl still? if i were you id move on and enjoy being single x
2007-09-05 23:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by Ottilie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb, i learned you have to love and be loved. get someone who will be in love with you too. he is not worth it what if the other girls relationship does not work out then she going back to your guy and he leaves you for her. he just keeping you till she split up with the other guy.
2007-09-06 00:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by leo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋