If my husband has been looking what would be the best way to approach him?
When I saw the website I decided to sms my husband but was afraid to confront him because I had not at that stage confirmed if the site was a porn site because his laptop was offline & I needed to double check.
So I pretended to send him an sms by "mistake". Saying"lol! have you been looking at dodgy websites again ;) He replied and said "No why?". I smsed back & said I had meant to send the sms to my friend because someone at her work was looking at porn & it got sent in emails to clients. (Which is true, it really did happen, just a few weeks ago though).
The next day I typed in the site I had written down and found it be a porn site. So that means if he has been looking at porn he lied on top of it.
I know its best to have open communication but I don't want to accuse him if he hasn't done anything or it wasnt his fault if it really was a pop up. Should I write him an email?
2007-09-05 22:44:38 · 5 answers · asked by withlove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd leave it and see if the site gets visited often - check computer history in about a week!!!! It could well be a pop up and you could end up having a horrid arguement over nothing.
Take care.
2007-09-05 22:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sal*UK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't ask him about this, it will eat you alive. Be open and honest. Just don't be harsh and judgmental when you ask. Try to approach it delicately. If I were in your position, I would probably send an email. That way you will remain calm and can get your thoughts in order before you speak to him. I read your other questions and if this is something that the two of you agreed on, then you're right. He shouldn't have been doing it and you need to know if he did. Have you thought about what you're going to do when you find out the truth? Be prepared. Don't ask questions that you don't really want to know the answer to. Trust me on that.
2007-09-06 08:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you may be making a problem out of nothing here. Basically guys look at porn, its something you are going to have to deal with. Its not that he is trying to replace you or anything he is just using it to jack off.
Its just like a woman using a vibrator or other sex toys.
My advice is stop worrying about, ignore it and dont create a needless argument.
2007-09-06 05:59:18 · answer #3 · answered by regaloid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a problem if your husband tried to look at some porn materials. It's natural with men so don't treat it as a big deal with regards to your relationship. Give him some air to breath. Don't check everything he is doing, give him some space.
2007-09-06 06:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by Gem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does it matter if he is watcjhing porn... so what he is masturbating to ppl on a comp screen its not like he is going out and cheating, having sex with real ppl... which im sure would b alot worst.... mayb u should buy a dvd and watch it together it might make everything easier to talk about and he want feel like he has to hide it
2007-09-06 07:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by angelz@princess265 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋