I have been married a year. It was good but a few months after I do the passion was gone.He is military and I don't know if it is because of the trauma of war or it's me.He complains all the time about me.Mainly he wants me to change my breast size and I would rather not.I tell him I wont and he insults me and looks at other women.We are not intimate as much as we should and he claims its all my fault and I know it's both of ours.He complains if I hug, hold, or try to get close to him. I try and try and I get pushed away. He checks my e mails and messages to see if I am cheating. If a guy talks to me like a friends and I mean converstations like hi how are you he gets jelouse.He blocks me from getting on his computer and his e mails and I think it's not fair.We currently relocated to a different base and I don't know if I should try and work things out for a few months see if anything changes or just say screw it and leave. We have no kids at all. I just want to know what yall think?
2007-09-05 21:58:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think your guy is full of himself, selfish, unreasonable, inconsiderate, and doesn't know how to treat a woman. Honestly, it's hard to tell someone to divorce their significant other through yahoo answers, but I think you should definitly consider confrontation (like serious confrontation where you are like hey come here I need to talk to you). I was going to suggest couple's therapy, but since he's so full of himself, I don't think that would work because he obviously doesn't think there is anything wrong with him.
2007-09-05 22:07:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to do whats right for you. Have you asked him about getting some counseling? I mean he was happy hen he married you wasn't he? So what has changed? He sounds a bit controlling which is not a good thing.
2007-09-05 22:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do u know the afrikaans saying" julle moet sewe sakke sout saam opeet!" it means that to be able to eat seven bags of salt together u can not do it in one year!!! for better and worse, thru thik and thin en al daai ander goed. It will get better with time, everything does.
2007-09-05 22:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop his punkass! He's messing around as well.
This is classic behaviour from today's young military members. Sorry to be blunt, and brutally honest, but you seem like a nice gal and I have no reason to lie to you.
2007-09-05 22:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Yulik MahBaht 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is no way to treat a wife, i think he is hiding something and is taking it out on you... if u have no ties to him walk away before u get so down trodden u can not leave.. good luck u must be hurting, believe me it is not a life u have at the moment, it is an abusive life
2007-09-05 22:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by thing 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seek marriage counseling. I believe that military bases have counselors that are available to spouses of the enlisted. try counseling first.
2007-09-05 22:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by sumfin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your marriage is already doomed. Get out before you get pregnant. He should not be treating you like that. If he is doing that now, what else will he do to you later?
2007-09-05 22:25:37 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's better to divorce. couples should respect each other in a marriage. Respect and trust are essential in a marriage. Without respect and trust in a marriage, the marriage is dead.
2007-09-05 22:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by sophie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately divorse. You are more than a sex toy and should not be treated kike that.
2007-09-05 22:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by Vegas Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two need serious counseling and grow up
2007-09-05 23:39:33 · answer #10 · answered by deb a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋