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Adult married children of a couple repeated ask of their mother to attend family get-togethers where her former husband and new wife are to attend. The Wife was abused ( emotional /spousal raped etc) by him. had protection order on him once.They blame her for NOT forgiving him, yet don't believe her, & say he has changed..? The Ex lied regarding the mother , children believe him. She is remarried, the new husband is very compassionate and respects her. He too doesn't want to be around the EX, who in court got a religious leader to breach confidentiality to harm her, with a lie ex told of her. There's proof of his actions, but no one wants to believe, tapes and his handwritten threats.. She is ill, they don't care. She has had to separate from them and her mother, to protect herself emotionally . She wants resolve, be close to grandchildren. they think they are right.. it 's not who's right or wrong, it's about doing what's right. telling the truth.. she said. shes so depressed..

2007-09-05 22:51:51 · 5 answers · asked by miladyfaire 4 in Family & Relationships Family

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protect and put yourself first. you are the important one in this family matter. YOU are more important, than your children and your grandchildren. you been through an ordeal. they don't believe you. let them believe what they want and take care of yourself. don't be depressed, you have a compassionate husband, who will stand by you, be content in having him and enjoy your world with him. maybe, in time your children will realize what happened, but, don't put the burden on your shoulders, it's not your fault.

2007-09-06 00:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0 0

Why does it matter that he is there, you are with your new husband, and have moved on. No matter what, what he did to you has nothing to do with his relationship with his kids. They have all moved on and that chapter is over in their life, and since you are remarried, it is over for you also. Not that you forget the things that happened to you, but you don't stop living because of it. Why are you letting the past govern your future? You are the one stopping a relationship with your grandkids, because you want to control how someone else feels toward him, and they will never feel this way, because it didn't happen to them.

2007-09-06 08:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0 0

The mother needs to stick to her decision to not be around the ex and her children need to watch out, someday the same thing may happen to them.

2007-09-06 07:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Send Christmas & birthday gifts to the grandchildren ONLY! Send the children bibles -- it's actually the best gift you could give them. With any luck, they may read them.

2007-09-06 08:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

if u r a religious kinda person-it actually supports n sustains u when u feel down.

2007-09-06 06:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

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