3 months back i got married. he is a nice person,gud type.wat ever i ask him he'll buy it for me.?

Question

but my problem is he is not understand my feelings, som times he used to talk harsly,hurts me. aft that i i'm upset,he come and tel me tat i just kid u dear.i think that he is not loving me and no affectionate to me.From his office he'll come at 7.30pm. i have just 2 hrs to spend time with him. in that mean while i used to talk (abt my family,frnz and his family). we used to go out aft 8.30 to 9. but he is not interested to hear me. offen saying that i'm talking more, and not interested to hear other peoples problem. just 2-3hrs v r being together aft that v used to sleep. in that 2-3 hrs he like to talk abt something abt sex. i'm so upset in his behavier, this makes me to feel sad, i dont no wat to make him to feel happy? plz tel me how to get his love&affection.

note:v r in abroad, not with my mother-in-law,father-in-law

Answer 1

where in abroad are you, ithink its better that you dont say too much about the family and instead ask him more of how his day was, maybe he had stress at work, you are newly married so give it some time it will be all ok.. but be firm about your feelings and tell him that you want to be his friend and not just his wife... life can be hard abroad, i know i live in the usa....
let me know, you can email me from my profile...
good luck..

Answer 2

Maybe the first step would be to listen first and talk less about things, which are obviously not interesting at all for him.
I just imagine myself, if I had to listen to somebody telling me 2 hours things about other peoples life........ I would stand up and go out of the house, just to escape from such nonsense gossip.
Wake up! You are with your husband and not with a chatty neighbour woman!
Why do you feel no interest for HIM and his work?
You feel embarrassed talking about sex? Well, then, you shouldn´t have married anybody.
Learn to listen first and stop acting like a innocent and little girl, as you are a married woman now!!
Maybe you should get a job, so you would understand your husband a little better..... and you would not be so bored and having talk about silly gossip...

Answer 3

see its not so easy but really not so difficult job to do.
u say he talks about sex all the time you ppl have been recently married, this is but ofcourse he is gonna do so.
now the problem is that you want all affection too.
when ever he talks to you about sex, you must give him your 100%, you have to converse with him, what ever is the topic, you got to be an extremely good listner. just feel everything he says as you move in conversation, slowly stamp in your topics, very slowly (atleast not in the couplea few days). am sure he will take intrest in all what you speak.
as things get going good you may proceed him telling all your feelings, everything in ur mind, do not demand time for yourself but make him feel that he should give you time, whenever neccsart provide him with his space, ask him about office , not all guys are good listners you got to make them spoeak and speak more, try to talk about his intrests, all you got to do is make him speak and slowly you will get your turn, also its just the start of your life, things will get normal with time.
if possible try increasing you social circle out there. this will help you stay calm..

all da very best for life.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

...Hi....I agreed with "MAYA"...the one who answered your question...somehow you have to make him understand your problem.....
1. Write all your expectations from your husband.,
2. Write what you wanted to tell your husband...like...the time you require to talk as a wife....
3. My dear you are absolutely right...by talking / discussing to each other you could clear or you could take lots of decisions about your future and about the present..by talking you can understand what is he / she...etc...make him understand this to him...or ask your / his very close relatives / friends help for the same.

Answer 6

TI think u r indian lady, very typicle,In fact I think u dont understand him!in begining of marraige life its very natural that he wants to talk abt sex, & enjoy sex! whats rong in it?after all the soul purpose of marraige is that, to get safe sex, & through sex attained MOXA. U should learn to listen him in begining, not he,If u start taking interest in his wishes, he'll inturn listen to u. U cant expect man to change 1st,Its woman who has to change!try it out!!!!!!!

Answer 7

well i think u r not understanding his needs, u just give imporatance to yr self that this happened... & expect a tired person to listen to u., but u r newly married so he has his feelings of sex , but u dont understnad that. 1st yr mutual relationship comes then otherthings,

Answer 8

then u do one thing my friend!!!! just accept wat ever he says and accompany him when he is not happy {office torture's} as u said earlier only 3 months back u got married so its nature of an male to be interested in sex ........if he prolonged the same just mail me in personal i have a psycology doctor as my friend....

Answer 9

maybe its his work, & try to talk less about familys, friends & all, your married so there nothing to worry, if he desn't like to talk then don't talk & after few days he will come to you & ask you whats going on why a'nt you talking to me lol

Answer 10

Try to understand him and act accordingly