i met my ex since we were in 8th grade i had a crush on him since and we dated in my 11th and 12th grade i loved him but at the end it didn't work now i've been married almost a yrs and i still have dream with him and find myself thinking of him but i love my husband so why do i still think of him?????please help
2007-09-05 23:50:41 · 8 answers · asked by rosalinda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We never forget our first love...when dreaming we use our subconscious mind.
As long as you're not constantly thinking of him while you're awake or fantasizing about him when making love to your husband, I wouldn't worry.
2007-09-06 00:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by sadie_oyes 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don´t feel alone, I´ve been married for a year and every now and then I still dream of my ex. Even though he was such an @sshole and I never really loved him.
I love my husband more than anything, but can´t explain why I still dream of the @sshole. I´ve learned to ignore it and just put everything into my marriage !!!
2007-09-06 08:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ladybird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your ex was your first. I think everyone has a special place in their heart for their first. It may be that your ex represents something to you that you're missing, not necessarily that it's him you're missing.
What is it about your ex that you miss? Is it something he did? The way he made you feel? Complimented you? You need to figure that out and then try to put whatever it is you're missing into your marriage.
2007-09-06 07:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by Bowling chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are feeling unfulfilled and it has nothing to do with either your ex or your husband.
Get a grip! See a counselor, get a hobby, make new female friends, spend time with your children, or go back to school. Do something creative.
Ex's always seem better in hindsight than they really were....
2007-09-06 06:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well firstly its only normal to have a soft spot for the your first love and secondly as time passes its easy to fanticise about how good things were but in reality there weren't that good as he is your ex for a reason. In time you will think less about him esp if you are in love with your husband...
2007-09-06 07:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by misstth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep dreaming, i do it's harmless. But thinking of him most of the day is, so start going out abit, check out some new guys who live next to you and start dreaming...only dream..lol
2007-09-06 06:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter what you dream as long as you know how you feel and what you want when you're awake. we dream things all the time and wonder why we dream them. i've had dreams of being with a female but i love men and wouldnt dare go that way. we dream weird, our mind wonders!
2007-09-06 06:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by acaia20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you never have completely gotten over him. Also if he's the one that broke up with you maybe you didn't get the closure you needed.
2007-09-06 06:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋