i dunno why, but my mom is so damn over protective lately. i know she cares about me, but its starting to piss me off. she thinks everywhere i go, ill be doing drugs, and having sex. i havent done anything bad at all. now i wanna go to a dance at another school, were gonna sneak in. i didnt tell my mom were sneaking in so she calls the school and asks if another school is allowed there. now i cant go. she sits there when im doing homework now and it gives me too much pressure. how can i make her back off and get some freedom. dont give me any of the "she loves you" crap. i know that already
2007-09-05 17:31:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As a Mom, I know what you are talking about. I too was an over protective Mom.
You just have to understand , and you won't until you have your own little one to raise, that is hard for us to let go and let you go out into a dangerous and uncertain world. We know from our own mistakes what kind of trouble waits for you.
Yes, you older and can handle your own lives, but it is never easy to just sit and watch you do things we don't want you to.
We gave birth to you, raised you, and you are the best of what we are, we don't want to lose you, and maybe by trying to stop you from doing something might save your life.
My babies are 29 and 30 now and it is still hard, but I have to bite my tongue, they are grown, but my love and concern follows them every where.
I know the love you crap you don't want to hear, but it is the only love you will have for a life time.
From another Mom who loves to much.
2007-09-06 00:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by ladyhawk8141 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just left me a nice comment, so I am going to give you one.
I would advise you to sit you mom down and talk to her.
Unless you are one of those guys that will get beaten if you are slightly rude to your mom....
If your NOT, then try:
"Mom...I know you love me. YOu love me very much. And You dont want me to get hurt...But if you dont start to let go...then things are going to be bad. You keep assuming that I am doing all of these things, and checking up on me when it isn't nessicary, you never trust me and you hover over me 24/7...and sooner or later I am going to get frustrated to the point that I am actually going to start DOING these things! I am sick of getting accused of things that I am not doing, I might as well DO them so at least THEN i will feel like I am being treated fairly".......And you can go from there.
But if you are the kind of guy that would get grounded till the end of time for saying something like that.
....Just do it.
For only a little while, dont do your homework...
Sneak out one night.
And when she asks why
Say "I figured if I am going to be accused for these things, I should actually start doing them"
2007-09-06 01:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by Megan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well watching you do homework is kind of harsh, but what's wrong with her not letting you break the rules? Why should she let you sneak into a dance you aren't allowed into? you said that you don't do bad things, well why do you think that is? because your mom protects you! if she didn't act that way, you WOULD be out there doing bad things.
2007-09-06 00:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should suggest seeing a counselor with her. It is obvious that you will always have to communicate with her at times and maybe this way you two can learn to do that without arguing. Maybe she will learn to listen to you and your feelings better this way. Some parents have to have a little help learning to let go and trust. Maybe you can also try writing a letter to let her know how you really feel without the two of you getting upset. I know communication can be really hard between teens and parents. Good luck!
2007-09-06 02:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by Southern Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is afraid of you making mistakes and growing up. Pretty much sounds like she is like every mom out their. Grin and bear it at least you have a mom that cares and not some crack head who gives you drugs for a parent..seriously think about it.
2007-09-06 00:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by MiMi ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you watch the news? Surf the Internet? Read a newspaper? It's a big, bad, nasty world out there.
I'm sure she has her reasons for wanting to protect you. Now go to bed, you have school in the morning.
2007-09-06 00:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by FRANKFUSS 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some parents are like that. You are very lucky to have a parent that cares about you. It sounds like she wants to be apart of your life. Don't puss your parents away some day you will wish you didn't. Patches.
2007-09-06 00:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask a close relative to talk to her, just wait till u become a MOM
2007-09-06 00:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by swati_chhavi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's just moms for u! enjoy that love!
2007-09-06 02:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is her job. You will understand when you have children of your own!!
2007-09-06 00:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋