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I have a best friend that I have been with for four or five years. I met her through my now demon ex girlfriend and we became friends and stayed that way after. So she went through a guy she was with for 2 years and he hurt her so that was that. Then she was with another guy for another year in which we didn't talk. He beat her, verbally and physically, and raped her all the time. She called me, I helped her, a year later she's closed to accomplishing her career than ever. Not much detail but hey. So we did stuff you know but within our friendship not relationship. Agree or not, it helped us get over our pasts. Then after this long, she does something to me so unbelievably horrible, it makes me question to ever see her, talk to her, be there for her, or take care care of her again. Things will not be the same, but what would you do, put yourself in a situation of your own details no matter how different and try to feel the same way. I need advice (Ex; do I stick with her?)

I have a best friend I have been with for four or five years I met her through my now demon ex girlfriend and we became friends and stayed that way after.So she went through a guy she was with for 2 years and he hurt her so that was that.Then she was with another guy for another year in which we didn't talk. He beat her,verbally and physically,and raped her all the time.She called me, I helped her,a year later she's closed to accomplishing her career than ever.Not much detail but I can only write so much.We did stuff you know but within our friendship not relationship.Agree or not,it helped us get over our pasts.Then after this long,she does something to me so unbelievably horrible,it makes me question to ever see her,talk to her,be there for her,or take care care of her again.Things will not be the same,but what would you do,put yourself in a situation of your own details no matter how different and try to feel the same way.Yahoo IM noscreename2000
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Sorry to those fustrated over me not having much detail in my question. I did not know you could add more details. When I was typing the paragraph above it only let me write so much. I appreciated your answers. Those of you who are going to anser, in short terms, what she did was bring out the worst in me by doing what hurts me the most, and imitating who caused the hurt in my past. Not appreciating my friendship the way any should, the list can go on but unless you truly speak to me in depth it would be hard to understand the level of hurt I am feeling from her. That's why I said try to imagine feeling the way I do. Hopeless, but confused because we have so much history. Hard to walk away, and hard to fix it. My yahoo IM is "noscreenname2000". Message me on there is you wish to further anything. Thank you.

Sorry to those fustrated over me not having much detail in my question. I did not know you could add more details. When I was typing the paragraph above it only let me write so much. I appreciated your answers. Those of you who are going to anser, in short terms, what she did was bring out the worst in me by doing what hurts me the most, and imitating who caused the hurt in my past. Not appreciating my friendship the way any should, the list can go on but unless you truly speak to me in depth it would be hard to understand the level of hurt I am feeling from her. That's why I said try to imagine feeling the way I do. Hopeless, but confused because we have so much history. Hard to walk away, and hard to fix it. My yahoo IM is "noscreenname2000". Message me on there is you wish to further anything. Thank you

Answer 1

Sorry, can't answer unless you tell me what the horrible thing was that she did.

Answer 2

I had a similar incident with an ex-friend. She did something so horrible and compltely out of character, I didn't think I could ever forgive her. This incident made me so mad. I thought "how could she do this?"...well, after being pissed off at her for a month, I finally forgave her but I kept a close eye and I swore if she ever did anything like that to me again, or anything I didn't feel was right, I could cut her out of my life completely. Well, she fuc ked up again, so I cut tied with her. I just chose not to keep contact wither her, even though her information is still on my phone and facebook etc. Hum...I've thought about explaining to her what a friend is* and if she even cares and what not, but I feel like it would just be a waste of breath and time, as it has been since December since I have not spoken to her, and I know if she truly cared* she would reach back. So, enough* Follow what I did. But I'll tell you, after that I never saw her the way I did before and thats where the friendship started to fall...and now it's dust, *it could happen to you, but it depends on the both of you.




*tell me what she did and I'll tell you what an -ex-friend did to me*

Answer 3

It doesn't really matter what the thing was that she did. If it's enough to get under your skin, that's all that matters. Walk away. There are plenty of other fish in the sea that won't screw you over or sell you out. And, if she tries to get back into your life give her nothing but silence. It hurts for a while, but fades and becomes nothing more than memories. Just remember "That which does not kill me, makes me stronger."

Answer 4

It's hard to be objective without knowing what she "did".
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Okay, with your additional info it's still hard to decipher what happened but I'm guessing the pain is pretty raw. From my understanding you can't really explain it as one incident, it was more like a series of betrayals over a period of time.

Only you can make the call on whether to cut her out or not. Only you know whether you will be able to see her, speak to her, or be there for her whilst the hurt is still in your heart. Is it really good for you to remain friends with her, or will you just keep getting trampled? Sometimes these are the hardest calls to make - the magnetic attraction to that person keeps us going back time after time & yet the heartache we endure due to that person seems unparalelled to any other.

Incase you hadn't guessed I've had the same scenario. I've known this guy for 18yrs and I recently said goodbye. It broke my heart but I knew it was for the best - I had to make the call to protect myself...my heart. It's been nearly 12 months & I've finally been able to give my heart to someone else, someone who truelly deserves it.

Do yourself a favour. Good luck.

Answer 5

I guess it depends what the situation is. If it is something that you feel was a personal attack on you...something that a real friend would never do...then I would kick her to the curb. However, if you feel that it is something that over time will heal...something that someday could be looked back upon and thought of as petty and stupid...maybe the best thing to do is talk it out. Follow your heart....as well as guard your heart...it is essentially the only thing we (humans) have.

Answer 6

Though I don't know what horrible thing she did to you, I suggest you stick with her for good because God wants man and woman to be working and living together and you know that God also blesses us not only in ways we desire or like but also in ways we do not approve or dislike. No one is perfect and that's why we should understand and condone each other's weakness. Without this understanding how can a man survive every strait of life? You be always at God's guidance. Thanks.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

If it is something that you think you will not be able to ever look at her and not see it every time you see her, then I would not consider anything romantic of any sorts with her again.

friendship on the other hand is different. I think it is easier to move on in a friendship, unless this horrible thing was out right disrespect, in that case, I would terminate my involvement with her, and move on....

fool me once shame on you,
fool me twice, shame on me.....

Answer 9

I agree, depends on your perspective of what a "horrible" thing is.

If something totally disrespectful, you owe it to yourselft to talk to her about it, find out what might have motivated her. If your not satisfied with the answer, then you are probably going to benefit yourself and your sanity by moving on without her in your life.

I can guarantee you, if she is of value, she will return to you in the future.

Take care,

Answer 10

Dude it's clear to me that she is really messed up so I hate to break it to you but you gotta let her go. From what you have given me is that although what she went through wasn't her fault, she will bring your morale and your mental well being down. So my advice just let her go. I know it hurts man, but better safe than sorry.

Answer 11

It honestly depends on what she did. If it's so horrible that you can't imagine seeing her again--then that's your choice. But, it's really hard to answer a question without the one detail that would determine how we were to answer it.