Family & Relationships - 30 August 2007

I am 14 years old and i dont really listen to a thing that my mother tells me and i dont even obey almost ALL the rules that she tells me to follow. I know i am out of control and i love my mother i cant explain why i act the way i do to her. I think it might be because of my anxiety disorder and it makes me want to lash out on her. I really dont know. Can somebody please help me??

2007-08-30 07:04:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

was 8 months we have been living together up until a month ago. lies drama and mental and verbal abuse has been constant but we both contributed to the problems. some more than others but we cant even have one conversation without arguing and yelling, and its just been a big mess and im tired of being passive then getting the short end of the stick everytime and continuously be accused of lying and him promising things for our daughter and then when things doesnt happen it's my fault We both have alot to work on but stupid me i really love and want to work it out with him but its stressing me out to the point im breaking out headaches etc. he says i act to nonchalant aboout things and he knows i have another man. But im not telling him anything about what ive been doing and now he's like making things super hard for me. either he really loves me and is trying to uet me b'c hes hurt or ....?

2007-08-30 06:59:24 · 2 answers · asked by ALLTHEWAYREEL 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

As her father is in jail for theft of property, Drugs, Failure to pay fine and all sorts of other things. But this little 4 year old lives at my sons house with my sons sister in law. And all of a sudden she is cussing her mother, me, and any other adults she is around that she hates her mother wishes she was dead. Threw a butter knife at her Tuesday morning asked my 8 year old grandson if she stabbed him with a Knife if he would Die So she can watch Him Flop around Because it would be Neat. And yesterday she was upstairs was stomping my granddaughters dolls and telling it die bit** die. Asked my 3 year old grandaughter if she Knocked her down the stairs if she would die. I made her come downstairs and would not even let her play with the Kids. My sister was watching them for a few minutes and she untied her shoe she told my sister to tie it or DIE. We are at wits end my grandchildren are scared to death of her Even her own mother told me she is scared to go to sleep with the child .

2007-08-30 06:58:44 · 7 answers · asked by bjwill72961 2 in Family

They are either taken, single and dont want a relationship or gay? Please help me as keep getting hurt.

2007-08-30 06:58:40 · 9 answers · asked by stardu5t7 3 in Singles & Dating

Hi all,

As you know I been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now. We had a bad arguement a few days back but managed to resolve a few things.

Anyhow BEFORE his relationship with me my boyfriend was with a woman for 7 years who had a son from a previous relationship.

When we first got together he was in contact with her and she was threatening me and everything and told him she was going to move away and that she hated us and all that.

Anyhow 2/3 weeks ago we went on holiday to Cornwall and had a fantastic time.

Anyhow about an hour ago he told me that when we were away he saw his ex's son and it has freaked him out and he been having bad dreams and everything...

Why would he mention this to me and why now? Do you think this means he may be thinking about his past relationship with his ex and want her back or am I being stupid reading too much into it?

2007-08-30 06:56:13 · 11 answers · asked by SunshineApple 6 in Singles & Dating

How long is too long to wait for him to purpose?
Fact: Your body only gives off love hormones for the first two years you are with someone. After that you have just decided that you are going to be with them and no love hormones are secreted.

Been dating for five years, we don't even live together at this point. We break up often (At the longest for three weeks at a time) Usually I break-up with him because he says or does something to piss me off. Sometimes he will say that he will hang out with me the next day and then he will say that he's gonna hang out with his buddy all night when I call him that day. How long is too long to wait? I understand that when you get married that you want everything to be perfectly stable. I have talked to him about it and he says I am perfectly commited to you any way and why should we get married when we fight like we do? Which I understand completely. Now we are living together for 1 month and the fighting hasnt changed except we see eachother.

2007-08-30 06:54:59 · 19 answers · asked by juniper555 5 in Singles & Dating

ok i took one of my roomates 3 eggs and uesd some milk from one of her milk jugg because i was starving and had no food i feel bad for it so im going to by her a carton of eggs and some milk and bread

2007-08-30 06:54:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

...and I'm worried I'll do something stupid?
Me and my exgirlfriend are still friends but we didn't really make plans for the holidays cos she was spending time with her new boyfriend on the last day of school and I've missed her so much.
Me and my ex have been together twice and the second time she dumped me it was because some one had given her proof that I'd betrayed her trust when I hadn't and she said because of it she never wanted to go out with me again. I admit the first I betrayed her trust and she found out but the second time I didn't but she found out from the same source and he had proof that I'd betrayed her trust both times and I haven't really told her that she'd been lied to cos I didn't want to make feel stupid.
Yesterday I rang her bestfriend cos we hang about together alot and she's really the reason me and ex got together both times and I told her the true story cos she's been tellin me to back off from my ex lakely and she said to tell her the truth but I'm...

2007-08-30 06:53:26 · 6 answers · asked by Lily R 6 in Singles & Dating

I tried posting this in travel & didn't get many responses. I figure there are other couples that have been that could read this and give advice.

I would like to have a nice anniversary weekend with my husband in mid October in a cabin or hotel or maybe a B&B that is closer to nature in Galinburg but still accessible to some decent restaraunts. I need a package that is budget minded around $350 if possible. A very clean, simple is place is fine. A jacuzzi would be a plus but it's not a neccessity. A comfortable mattress is a must.

The last time we spent most of our time hiking in the park and never even set foot in the touristy junk shops. I am hoping to go back and enjoy some of the fall colors, and relax. I'd prefer reccomendations of some places you have personally stayed in. My husband always is doing nice things for me I want to surprise him with something special this year. He really loves fall scenic views

2007-08-30 06:52:53 · 10 answers · asked by sophiasgr8 4 in Marriage & Divorce

please help me.........

2007-08-30 06:50:33 · 22 answers · asked by attractive boy 1 in Singles & Dating

Our health insurance is asking for verification of the children listed on the policy. My husband has a child from a previous marriage that he has to carry insurance on. The divorce decree has everything correct except one word. It incorrectly stated plaintiff instead of defendant (my husband was def) We called the courts to find out what has to be done for correction, and were told to contact the attorney- the attorney shot himself a few years ago, so we were going to try to contact the ex-wifes attorney, he has been disbarred. Does anyone know of any way to have this corrected? Divorce was final 14 years ago.

2007-08-30 06:49:50 · 15 answers · asked by Julie S 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I recently saw a text message that came in from a girl i have never met on my boyfriend's cell phone. It said "The week is almost over, and kitten wants to play..." Is he cheating on me or planning to? I can't help but think that the text can't mean anything except that. I mean...what else could she be referring to? He has never lied to me. He's not perfect - but neither am I. What should I do?

2007-08-30 06:49:13 · 14 answers · asked by bksg22 1 in Singles & Dating

1.) I knew since the beginning that we cannot be together that why I have been avoided you. I suppose we are just not meant for each other.

2.) Before my graduation in 2006, I just wanted to say “Good Bye” because I knew you care about me. (We never talked, but I just knew you care ^_^) However, after I left Edinboro, I was very upset and depressed because I missed you. I decided I am going to forget about you. But with god wills I found your Myspace and able read your poem (The longing---how amazing and wonderful that is!!) .You took my breath away with your poem.

3.) “The longing” poem is a fantasy. Here is a reality---we stay in touch as friends, but we still cannot figure out how to open our mind. I am sure we cannot make a relationship last more than a day.

4.) I am happy to get to know you. I think you are a great person. I love you very much, but I don’t want you as a boyfriend. (We are not made for each others)

5.) In the past year, I didn’t want to move on because I afraid you still like and wait for me. Since I hurt your feelings in the past when I was in Edinboro, My focus is to make sure that you are moving on and happy with life.

2007-08-30 06:48:55 · 12 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ive only been with my boyfriend for about 2 months, hes great when we are together but every time he is supposed to stay over he finds an excuse and leaves, the times that he has done this he doesnt reply to my texts or my phones calls, then out the blue he will turn up at my work to pick me up and act like nothing has happened. Just recently he made his excuses and left when he was supposed to stay over, i didnt hear a word from in 3 days till he eventually replied to a text i sent threatening to break it off with him but all it said was "Been a bit ill wasnt up 4 talking much" Wot should i do?

2007-08-30 06:47:37 · 13 answers · asked by Fiona M 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband's exwife likes to control every situtation & if she can't she yells & B-thces until she gets her way. She doesn't want me to go w/ when we drop off the child at our meeting spot. She will text & call us for at least an hour saying that she doesn't want me there. Or she wants my husband to take her all the way home & to leave me home b/c she doesn't want me to know where she lives. My husband won't stand up to her & I don't know what to do about it. We are always getting into fights over the ex, b/c he rather have me yell at him then the exwife. It's gotten to where I don't want to see my step daughter & I don't want that. What is the best way to handle this? I know she's going to be here for the rest of my life and I knew going into this marriage that I was going to have to deal with her. I alsoknow that I can't control what her actions are going to be. I just need to know what can I do to make my life a little easier? What can my husband do to make thing easier?

2007-08-30 06:44:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband has another child by someone else. She recently started kinder and she will not tell him what school she is going to and he is probably not listed as a contact person either. In their court order it says that he has a right to receive any information regarding the education of the child and is to be listed as an emergency contact person. What will happen since she is not following the court orders...she only follows the court order when it is convient for her!

2007-08-30 06:43:27 · 7 answers · asked by D L 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My divorce was just finalized on August 7th. Since then I moved into a new house. My ex is refusing to bring my daughter home to me per the court order. I have told him that he cannot disobey the law forever and his response is, "Watch me. I will never come to your house."
I could care less if he ever sees her. It is his responsibility to pick her up and bring her home, not mine. He picks her up from daycare on the days and weekends that he has her so that isn't a problem but when it comes time for him to bring her home, he makes me meet him 25 minutes from where I live and refuses to come to our house. How can I make him abide by the court order when law inforcement doesn't seem to care? Please help.
Also there is an injunction in the orders that state he is not supposed to bad mouth me around my daughter. She came home yesterday from his house and called me a B***h and by my first name. I asked her who said that and she said Daddy. She is only two! She repeated it.

2007-08-30 06:41:57 · 9 answers · asked by newmommy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm just curious. I don't have any children yet.

2007-08-30 06:35:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

really need help to make it work from home

2007-08-30 06:34:32 · 5 answers · asked by lovtohelpall 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Our health insurance is asking for verification of the children listed on the policy. My husband has a child from a previous marriage that he has to carry insurance on. The divorce decree has everything correct except one word. It incorrectly stated plaintiff instead of defendant (my husband was def) We called the courts to find out what has to be done for correction, and were told to contact the attorney- the attorney shot himself a few years ago, so we were going to try to contact the ex-wifes attorney, he has been disbarred. Does anyone know of any way to have this corrected? Divorce was final 14 years ago.

2007-08-30 06:34:20 · 3 answers · asked by Julie S 2 in Marriage & Divorce

When you and your spouse are always fighting, and unhappy and not sleeping together or communicating, why stay married for the sake of the kids. Do you not think the kids will benefit moreso from happier parents even if it means you are not in one unit. Is it fear of lonliness or realizing that after you leave you are still going to be miserable? I see this time and time again-Why do people use this excuse?

2007-08-30 06:34:02 · 7 answers · asked by Yummy♥Mummy 6 in Marriage & Divorce

i have a friend who is J.W and she is always asking for things from me and when she visits my home she is always taking stuff as well and at first i really did not have n e problem but it has just hit me that it is going on for 14 years now. she basically receives more than she gives and it should be vice versa. esp. if you call youself a J.W. when i travel she is asking for me to make sure that i carry back something for her, but actions speaks louder than words so i did not carry back n e thing for her. it is irritaitng me now.
tell me what do you think?
thanks

2007-08-30 06:32:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-08-30 06:30:01 · 11 answers · asked by YD 4 in Weddings

I've been in love with this guy for awhile and he love me. He has told me many times and we talk a lot about how strong of a connection we have. The problem is that he won't leave his with. He is really good friends with his wife and is afraid that if he got a divorce, she would hate him.

So not willing to wait around, I have been dating another guy and we are engaged. I love him, but not as much as the married guy. I can't stop thinking about the married guy and I want to be with him more than anything, but I don't want to be one of those girls who just waits around for a guy to get divorced. What can I do to either forget him and move on or make it so we can be together?

And don't give me all the I'm obviously young and I'll grow out of it and it is just a crush. I'm 27 and I've been married before and everything and have experienced most things and this one I'm just stuck on what to do.

2007-08-30 06:28:52 · 21 answers · asked by Sara H 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been married for 20 yrs now. My husband is an alcoholic with Bipolar disorder, we have had our share of problems and i have been faithful just unhappy. I met a man who is also unhappily married and we talked at first and then kissed. I know this is wrong but he treated me so good and we just connected. We have decided to continue talking for now and see where it leads. Am I crazy? What should I do?

2007-08-30 06:28:26 · 3 answers · asked by cme4ins 1 in Marriage & Divorce

...if it turns out the person they are kissing is the same sex as your partner.

(if you replied to the earlier questions, would this new information change your reaction, or make it worse?)

2007-08-30 06:25:48 · 38 answers · asked by Dave H 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

A few days ago my husband walked into the room and told me that after a discussion with his sisters he had decided to retire, sell our home and move back home to where his family is. I was very hurt by this decision.. I knew at some point that we would have to move back to his home cos he is sick. I just am very hurt that such a big decision was made in my absence. Am i being paranoid.. I shud also mention that this is not the first time that this is happening.. me not being included in decision making matters.

2007-08-30 06:25:33 · 16 answers · asked by tamrastic 3 in Marriage & Divorce

About 2 months ago, my gf and I broke up after 3 years. We had a lot of fights but really loved each other. I hurt her and she couldn’t get past it. She moved on with someone within 10 days of breaking up. I kept wondering why? And how could she not give us another chance? I wanted to be the man that would give his all to make it work, I wanted to marry her and spend my life together with her and her kids. When I look back now, I realize how I treated her and how different I should have been. Theres so much that I regret now. After a lot of thinking and reflection, I remember all the conversations we had of her past.
As a teenager, she was raped. Went through seeing her parents whom she thought were the fairytale couple, go through a divorce and the mom cheated on the dad. The mom even took her with her when she went to meet the man (how tragic that must have been) She went from one relationship to another looking for someone to love her. She went on dates where guys introduced her as this is the girl I’m having sex with (total jerks)

2007-08-30 06:22:52 · 6 answers · asked by The Wižard 5 in Marriage & Divorce

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2007-08-30 06:22:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We have 12 people standing up for us in the wedding party.. Do I have to invite everyone's boyfriend/girlfriends to the rehearsal dinner? My parents are paying for this.. (not his..) and with there being already about 20 people, I didn't want to add on 15 more for boyfriends and girlfriends. How do I word that on the invite???

2007-08-30 06:20:21 · 14 answers · asked by ChicagoGirl 2 in Weddings