How can I get my ex to follow the court orders concerning child custody & visitation?

Question

My divorce was just finalized on August 7th. Since then I moved into a new house. My ex is refusing to bring my daughter home to me per the court order. I have told him that he cannot disobey the law forever and his response is, "Watch me. I will never come to your house."
I could care less if he ever sees her. It is his responsibility to pick her up and bring her home, not mine. He picks her up from daycare on the days and weekends that he has her so that isn't a problem but when it comes time for him to bring her home, he makes me meet him 25 minutes from where I live and refuses to come to our house. How can I make him abide by the court order when law inforcement doesn't seem to care? Please help.
Also there is an injunction in the orders that state he is not supposed to bad mouth me around my daughter. She came home yesterday from his house and called me a B***h and by my first name. I asked her who said that and she said Daddy. She is only two! She repeated it.

I feel as though since he can not control me like he did when we were married that this is his way of punishing me. When we were married he beat me with our daughter in his arms. So, I don't feel like meeting him half way for anything! He doesn't think that he did anything wrong..

Thank you for all of your answers. I wish I could chose more than just one BEST answer!

Answer 1

honey, people told me this many years ago and i wish i had listened. record everything. make it brief. doesn't need to be a disertation and don't be emotional. just state the facts. one day u'll go to court and have that in hand. u'll be glad u did. always take a family member/friend with u.

best wishes

Answer 2

Whats so wrong with meeting him half way to pick up your daughter? If the 20 minutes is not half way, then suggest another place that is to your ex. The courts cannot demand that the man come to your house. Be glad that he is even spending time with his daughter as allot of people on Y/A from what I see totally abandon the children all together. Your divorce was just granted on the 7th of this month and your ex is still feeling the pains involved as a reprocussion. Let him have some time to get used to his family being gone. Things will more than likely calm down a bit later on.

Answer 3

Go to your lawyer, explain what is happening. Also each state has a family type counselor who deals with this type of stuff. Even though your daughter is only two she can go...and explain and document every time you have to do something because of his refusal to follow the court order. Also his demeaning of your character around his daughter is abusive. The courts don't like to see children used this way. If you can get this stuff documented...His "rights" will soon become non-existent.
Your lawyer will explain that he can loose his visitation rights if he continues. If that happens he may end up with supervised visitation rights instead. That means you can tell him where, when, and how. If he doesn't follow it...that's fine..then you tell him he has lost that particular days visitiation. Parents who think they are above the custody issues tend to lose out on them ALL.
See your lawyer. He has all your answers.

Answer 4

The only thing you can do is wait to see if he has the balls to file a petition for custody. I can tell you right now that he will NOT be able to obtain custody while he's active duty. You need to keep of log of the days and time that he does and doesn't pick up the kids as this will be useful information to a judge should he ever decide to fight you.

Answer 5

Go back to court and ask for full custody. He's being a jerk and it's obvious his pride is hurt. Keep on with your life and keep your head up. Record that conversation your daughter gave you with notes, and ask whoever babysits her while you are at work to record any incidents too with sleeping, eating, what is said in passing, and present a copy of it at court when you apply for full custody. If he can't play nice, then then he will learn the hard way. Do not get into battles with him, that's what lawyers are for.

Answer 6

if the court order specifically states that he is responsible to return the child to your residence at the end of visitation, then call the police. i say again...CALL THE POLICE. do not let them talk you out of filing a report. don't let them walk away until you have a report number and can pick up your copy later. they will call him...tell him he is violating the court order, they may or may not talk him in to bringing the child back. but push it!!! and keep pushing it. anything your daughter says....document it. i have to do the same thing with my 9 and 5 year old. then file an OSC with the court again to report his behavior for contempt. he can be fined or the judge can throw him in jail.

Answer 7

What's wrong with meeting the man half way? Can't you see that he's still hurting? Stop looking for trouble and arrange to meet him half way to pick up your daughter. Your daughter is 2 years old. Tell her not to repeat such garbage and she won't (If she said this at all). You're creating problems where there don't have to be any and you need to stop it.

Answer 8

talk to your lawyer. i know that in some cases you he to wait 6 mos before you can take him back for this its him not doing what court wants if he keeps it up write down dates and times and stuff what he s doing and then give to the lawyer but do call him and see what can be done.

Answer 9

You can't do anything, you have to let, the court handle it and if he doesn't follow, the court orders, they will issue, an arrest warrant and he'll go straight to jail!