Hi all,
As you know I been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now. We had a bad arguement a few days back but managed to resolve a few things.
Anyhow BEFORE his relationship with me my boyfriend was with a woman for 7 years who had a son from a previous relationship.
When we first got together he was in contact with her and she was threatening me and everything and told him she was going to move away and that she hated us and all that.
Anyhow 2/3 weeks ago we went on holiday to Cornwall and had a fantastic time.
Anyhow about an hour ago he told me that when we were away he saw his ex's son and it has freaked him out and he been having bad dreams and everything...
Why would he mention this to me and why now? Do you think this means he may be thinking about his past relationship with his ex and want her back or am I being stupid reading too much into it?
2007-08-30 06:56:13 · 11 answers · asked by SunshineApple 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you all so much!
I know I been stupid and paranoid! I jut needed to sit back and reflect and stop being a 'typical' woman and realise how much he loves me and wants to be with me.
We had a chat and I going to help him through the bad dreams so thanks all!
2007-08-30 09:43:47 · update #1
I'm guessing that he didn't mention it because he didn't want you to over-react. He was still evaluating how he felt about it and didn't want to add possibly making you insecure to that.
You had a great time, don't let this make you question your great trip. Try to separate her from her son and remember that he had a separate bond with him and it has to hurt to have him completely cut out of his life. This doesn't have to have any impact on how he feels about you. And remember, the dreams were bad, it would probably be something to worry about if he were having dreams where he remembered all the good stuff about his past instead of the bad break-up.
2007-08-30 07:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by Breanna C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it brought back bad memories of his relationship with his ex, seeing the son. Perhaps it brought back some guilt he may subconsciously feel he did the boy wrong.
Either way, he felt the urge to confide in you so I would take that as a good thing, as far as your relationship goes.
Don't assume he wants to get back with her.
Assume he loves and wants to be with you- he obviously trusts you.
Paranoia and mistrust eat away at the best relationships. Don't let that happen x
2007-08-30 14:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by cara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A seven year relationship brought him and the son pretty close. I bet he feels like that is his son too, and he misses him. He probably doesn't want his Ex back, but feels bad for putting the child through a breakup.
2007-08-30 14:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure i would have similar feelings as you describe.
The main thing is that he is being honest with you, he didnt let seeing his ex's son ruin your holiday.
However if he spent 7 yrs in this relationship its understandable he felt awkward seeing his ex's son, try not to read too much into it.
2007-08-30 14:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by sammie77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hang on stop being a typical insecure woman for a minute. he's told you coz he obviously thinks he can trust you but looks like he was wrong. Its not nice having bad dreams and i guess he wanted to tell someone just think yourself lucky he told you and not someone else. goes to show you are his number one and yes you are reading to much into it..
2007-08-30 14:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he shared it with you because he values your thoughts, opinions, and wants to just share things with you. Dont read too much into this. People have strange dreams all the time.
2007-08-30 14:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's having a hard time and just needs you to be there for him... he's trying to be open and honest. That is a good thing. Maybe he needs your love and affection to help him get through this.
2007-08-30 14:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is thinking about her, and his subconscious mind misses her. Just keep a close watch on him
2007-08-30 14:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by yogurlmsbunny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's sharing~ I think he's interested in you sharing his life which includes his son
2007-08-30 15:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he 's been so sincere wid u , i guess u r lucky otherwise he wouldnt hav told u
2007-08-30 14:05:08 · answer #10 · answered by zephyr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋