Family & Relationships - 30 August 2007

help! im 15 & i hear about the gynecologist. my mom never told me about this. my grandma wants me to go. i know what goes on there! they look at you down there and they shove their hands up you! help! im so freaked out! i heard they put a speculum up you. how would that fit in your vagina? wont it hurt? i cant even handle tampons. how am i going to handle a speculum inside me? im not going. i know some people who never went in their life and they are okay. so im never going to go. i prolly dont have anything wrong with me.

2007-08-30 07:52:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Your child found out the hard way to the point that, he would later developed POST TRUMATIC STRESS, and now get violent every time he sees you, what would you do?

I now have been stripped of my visitation rights and can't see my child without court approval, as a mother that really hurts.

The court order was issued, that informs me I have to abstain form any sexual contact all together for a period of 18 months and has an secretion test done every 2 months that will cost me $40 a month to get done.

The JUDGE (a woman) said I was a misguided woman/mother and view my sexuality as a primary need. I was informed "SHE COULD NOT STOP ME FROM HAVING SEX", but she could prevent, and even throw me in jail, PRESS CHARGES for violating a court order!

I'M GOING TO COMPLY WITH THE ORDER AND ABSTAIN FROM SEX SO I CAN HAVE VISITATION RIGHTS.
Why can't I be a sexual person with multiple partners if I want?

SO LET ME ASK YOU WOULD YOU GIVE THE LIFESTYLE UP TOTALLY FOR YOUR CHILD?

2007-08-30 07:52:51 · 25 answers · asked by April Snow 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my good friend was wit her partner for 4 years they separated but started seeing each other again in march...shes only recently found out he's got another girl pregnant,and is now with her. but my m8 has already got a 4 yr old little girl wiv this guy,has to still see him,for her daughter's sake, but is finding it really difficult to accept he's with this girl (who she knew as a friend) shes coping very well with it (better than i would) but id like to give her a bit of advice can anyone help me out??

2007-08-30 07:52:34 · 4 answers · asked by nikki 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Since you never want to tell me the truth, I am going to tell you the truth.

1.) I have been waiting for you to approach me.
• In Edinboro, I wanted you to talk to me or just ask me out ^-^
• Your sweet poems are wonderful, but I need you to tell me directly ^-^

2.) I liked you a lot, but I was shy. I never have a boyfriend so I did not know how to act around guys. ^-^

3.) I just afraid that we cannot be together so I have been avoid you. I just don’t want us to be heart-broken.

4.) Before my graduation in 2006, I just wanted to say “Good Bye” because I knew you care about me. (We never talked, but I just knew you care ^_^)

5.) After I left Edinboro, I was very upset and depressed because I missed you. I decided I am going to forget about you. But with god wills I found your Myspace and able read your poem (The longing---how amazing and wonderful that is!!) .You took my breath away with your poem.

2007-08-30 07:50:42 · 14 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend and i have been going out for eight months going on nine. so we were having phone sex and he told me he wants to make love to me. i know he wanted to tell me that before but i kind of knew he was scared to say that to me because he didn't know what i would say. so i told him when he said i want to make love to u that i wasn't ready to do that yet and i asked him if he was ok with that and he said yes why wouldn't i be.

2007-08-30 07:47:40 · 34 answers · asked by leiandra p 1 in Singles & Dating

not enough fish in the sea for ya girl leave the married man alone or are you so insucure you can't do that it is so sad when women have to go after something already taken who agrees with me on this

2007-08-30 07:45:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If you don't you better know what it is because it affects your sexuality.

2007-08-30 07:41:21 · 1 answers · asked by Don S 5 in Singles & Dating

Have you ever had a family member come across a picture of you on the internet and in that picture you are wearing little or no clothes and may or may not be doing "things" with other people or yourself?

I have intentionally worded this so as to not offend anyone but I believe we all understand what I'm referring to here.

How did you explain the pictures? How did that change your relationship with them? What about friend reactions? or employers?



And.. for those of you that are going to respond with "yeah.. and then I did them" or "you get what you deserve" or are thinking about just leaving some rude comment or name calling... or some other lame answer please.. just move on.

this is a serious question and I'd like answers from those who have seriously gone through this.

2007-08-30 07:39:05 · 11 answers · asked by .... 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

I don't know why, but it infuriates me!! My husband has this "Thing" for kirsten dunst. He says he does these little things to piss me off!! I don't think so. He owns like all her movies and catches interviews and things like that that she is in. He is not obssesive...but if he knows it bothers me that much, why does he pull this crap. I feel like I deal with his BS day in and day out, take care of the kids, clean the house, do wifely duties when I do and when I don't feel like...why in the hell is there another woman on his phone! IT PISSES ME OFF!!

2007-08-30 07:31:37 · 29 answers · asked by Rebecca44 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Let me try n romanticise u a guy said it 2 me what the hell does it mean!

2007-08-30 07:30:41 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My mother is moving out tomorrow and my dad completely objects to this. He is in financial trouble with major debt and a failing business and he cannot secure payments on the house alone. My mom is fed up with him and wants to leave because my dad is never home. Mind you my dad has back and leg problems and is working from 7am-late evenings and comes home exhausted. He wears second hand clothes and gives us money to buy good clothes until recently(My mom works now so she does most of that) He usually pays the bills but he can't do it alone and he has the idea that the family needs to stay together. He wants 50/50 payment and knows if we leave he'll wind up on the street, he cannot afford the mortgage alone and cannot pay for rent at the same time while selling the house. My dad does not want the house signed over to him like my mom said she would and wants her to take the bad credit as he will. My mom's moving date is tomorrow and I really don't want my dad out on the street.

2007-08-30 07:29:07 · 5 answers · asked by Zayd 1 in Family

OK so I met this guy on dating site. After some emails, texts and calls, we went on 2 amazing dates. We have so much in commons. After 2nd date he wanted to have sex, we finally did it on the 3rd date. After that things just went down hill. I mean he still nice and everything but he is no longer romantically interested. He treated me more like a buddy. No more opening car door for me, no holding hands, no small kisses...none of those in just 2 dates!! He never ask me to hang out with him. Everytime we did hang out, I know we will going to have sex. Which I don't mind it really.. but what's up with the change of attitude though... Was he really interested in me romantically in the first oplace then think less of me just because I gave in on the 3rd date? Or he was just a prick who pretend to like me just to have sex with me. One kicker though he is a very handsome guy with a hot body. If he only wants sex.. pretty much he could have it easily with any woman he desires.

2007-08-30 07:28:58 · 12 answers · asked by flirtalicious 2 in Singles & Dating

My dear friend and I were planning our weddings at the same time. During the process, she has wanted to use my wedding colors, floral ideas, photographer, and party favors. I tried helping her select her own invitations and waited until she ordered certain things pertaining to her wedding before answering any questions about my personal plans. Now that my wedding has passed (and yes she was in it) it has gotten worse! She wants to borrow my tiara, use the music I played in the ceremony, the location where I had my bridal shower, etc!!!! I worked my behind off to plan my own beautiful occasion. I am in her upcoming wedding. I've told her that she needs to use her own special touch but she's not getting it.

How do I tell her to use her own creativity without causing tension?

2007-08-30 07:27:36 · 40 answers · asked by wrtrchk 5 in Weddings

2007-08-30 07:25:53 · 15 answers · asked by bluebird 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My previous roommate left us at the beginning of the summer and chose her replacement so she could leave asap. The new girl even said she was going to find a place at the end of the summer. Now that we have found people we actually like to move in, the "replacement" wont leave because her plans changed. What about our plans? No one offerred for her to stay longer either.

2007-08-30 07:24:47 · 24 answers · asked by cb 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

my dad gets mad of every little thing
i dont even give him a good reason too he just does.
what can i do about that?

2007-08-30 07:22:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

There is this girl whom I know. I admit that I do have a crush on her and I have had it for the past 4 months. I like everything about her but she does have two kids ages 1 and 3. So for the most part I have not pursued anything probably because of that and the fact the she's a coworker. But she is beautiful inside and out! Her smile brightens up the room and she always does nice things for me like bringing me home cooked meals for lunch, She has a nurturing nature that I am very attracted to and shes cute. Lately Ive been having dreams about her and its really starting to get to me. What does it all mean? She told another coworker that I was cute but the thing is If I pursue her Im not sure if Im ready for 1 kid let alone 2. Insight anyone?

2007-08-30 07:21:07 · 16 answers · asked by AspiringLovDoctor 2 in Singles & Dating

I want to stop texting and calling this guy. He's a nice guy and we are only friends. However, Now I find myself thinking about him and miss him a lot. gosh! That worries the h3ll out of me.

We are living in different states. no way.. we are just not meant to be. I need to stop contacting him.

Everytime I took out my cell and wanted to text him, I would tell myself.. nay! Again, days went by, when I start to think about him again, I'd text him and I was like.. "last one".
Aww.. I really need to stop. I wish I could just delete his number but... I couldn't. It's already been stored in my mind.

Help me. One magical way to stop contact him and let him do the work if he's meant for me.

2007-08-30 07:19:14 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I live in a small town and my family owns a funeral home..just recently my father hired a new guy to drive our hearse..hes not very sensitive when it comes to the deceased recently i noticed him dropping the casket out of the hearse and the women sort of slipped out..he then very angrily shoved her back in..then i noticed him stealing money from one of the deceased..he took the jewerly off of the elderly woman and put it in his pocket.then he slapped her across her face.laughed and did it again.this time even harder.. it seemed unreal.i tried to tell my mom to watch him but she thinks im dreaming it all up.i mean those are just a few things ive saw.who knows what i havent seen..i would hate for him to do something worse nextime.how could he be such a coward.these are innocent people hes harming..should i tell my dad so he can be fired.

2007-08-30 07:18:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-08-30 07:17:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

testerday i saw from the window of my house my g/f in the next house in 'standup on a chair' position. i first thought she was doing something then when i looked carefully i realised that she was being in punished posture.. i also saw her private tutor sitting beside her with a rular in hand. its so embarassing for both of us as we noticed each other. we yet to meet after that.how can i make it easy for both of us.

2007-08-30 07:15:11 · 2 answers · asked by hjhafhag 1 in Friends

My fiancee and I have been engaged for 3 years. But we have been together for 5 years. I finally started planning the wedding and have started thinking. Right before we were engaged I ran into a child hood friend on vacation with my family and kissed him. I know my fiancee would consider this cheating. And he says that if I ever cheated he would leave me. I don't want to walk into this covanent with this mistruth (my own interpretation of it), at the same time I don't want to loose him. Will I ever forget? He will never find out the gentleman has since passed.

2007-08-30 07:15:04 · 28 answers · asked by Tara C 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I am in trouble. I met my baby's father when I was 15 lost my virginity to him and by 18 I had a child with him. I'm 21 now and I have a good well paying job w/ benefits just bought my first house. Well my baby's daddy was leaving me to pay all the bills and care for our child. He left me at home crying everynight for the last 2 years of our relationship. And he isolated me from all my friends and I wasn't aloud to go anywhere or do anything. I was very week and didn't have the courage to leave until his best friend started putting some sense in my head and I left. I left and bought my home and didn't plan it but moved his best friend in cause we fell in love. Well, recently I was having second thoughts about if I did the right thing cause my baby's father said he changed and wanted me back. I fell for it and dreamed for us to be a happy family. Although I do love his friend so much I broke things off and he was suicidal over it. My baby's father still treats me the same.

2007-08-30 07:14:45 · 7 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-08-30 07:13:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I have 3 bridesmaids, a junior bridesmaid and a flower girl. The problem is my fiance so far has his brother as the best man and no one else. He doesn't really have any close guy friends that he hangs out with alot. I asked him if it would be okay if my cousin was in it since him and I are really close. He had no problem with this. But what to do about the other 3 spots?

2007-08-30 07:13:06 · 13 answers · asked by farmergyrl23 4 in Weddings

She recently started back talking and hanging out with her ex (her first sex partner), and ever since then she has seemed distant. I ask her if she wants him, she says no, I ask her if she wants to have sex with him, she says yes, but she won't because she is with me. They haven't seen each other in a few years, and ever since they started back talking, he has his own ringtone in her phone. She teels me that it's nothing to worry about because nothing will happen. He has expressed interest in her, but she hasn't in him (she tells me. What do I make of this situation?

2007-08-30 07:12:56 · 12 answers · asked by john s 1 in Singles & Dating

i think thats how you spell it but i want to know how to read the manga free in english but i want to read the part were natsume kisses mika i know its in 50-55 but i cant find a site that has that chapter in english where can i read it??

2007-08-30 07:11:51 · 4 answers · asked by lex 1 in Singles & Dating

that u love an he loves u but we fight all the time well not all the time but when he get home from work. I start in on him by yelling @ him an i dont want 2 do that anymore, I love him an he is so sick of me fighting with him he broke up with me bec of my anger problems but he took me back, bec im on meds now but I still fight wit him how can I stop fighting wit him over every little thing, an show him I do love him ??? ,what r some things I could do so i dont yell @ him an love him .an please dont b mean 2 me

2007-08-30 07:09:36 · 11 answers · asked by Kimberly 1 in Singles & Dating

I am at my friends house and my boyfriend is driving his daughter home an 1 1/2 hour drive away. He called and his battery is dead, my friend offers to pick him up and bring him here. ( my car is in the shop today)
I just recieved a call from HIM on her cell phone telling me that they are driving all the way to take his daughter back. This means that they will be in the car together the whole way back. I am not okay with this and I told him. He is going anyway.
Am I over reacting? I am furious!

2007-08-30 07:08:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I am currently engaged to a wonderful guy. However, my mother is intent on ruining my wedding. In the past she has ruined my birthday and even my baby shower by trying to pick fights with me as well as other people. She has already informed me that she is going to do something at my wedding. I love her but I'm not sure that I want her at my wedding. I want the day to go as smoothly as possible but how can it? I've been told that I should just get married at the courthouse but that's not the wedding that I want. What should I do?

2007-08-30 07:06:07 · 39 answers · asked by I'm a Mom :) 1 in Weddings