OK so I met this guy on dating site. After some emails, texts and calls, we went on 2 amazing dates. We have so much in commons. After 2nd date he wanted to have sex, we finally did it on the 3rd date. After that things just went down hill. I mean he still nice and everything but he is no longer romantically interested. He treated me more like a buddy. No more opening car door for me, no holding hands, no small kisses...none of those in just 2 dates!! He never ask me to hang out with him. Everytime we did hang out, I know we will going to have sex. Which I don't mind it really.. but what's up with the change of attitude though... Was he really interested in me romantically in the first oplace then think less of me just because I gave in on the 3rd date? Or he was just a prick who pretend to like me just to have sex with me. One kicker though he is a very handsome guy with a hot body. If he only wants sex.. pretty much he could have it easily with any woman he desires.
2007-08-30 07:28:58 · 12 answers · asked by flirtalicious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we haven't know each other for that long.. we started keep in touch in mid july and 1st date was july 25th. i recently just got divorce so no.. i'm not looking for a husband or anything remotely close to that. I just want someone who I could have fun with (beside the sex), talk to and a little romance woudln't hurt..
I forgot how ridiculous the dating game is and am not really into head games. so I "broke up" with him 2 days ago. but I miss him so much I literally stalk his myspace everyday hahaha.. -not funny really :( (sigh...) i still like him a lot and wish that we could be in a different situation.
if i totally cut all ties with him for let's say 3 months and try to "re-connect" again later.. will it work? He has not call me since I broke it off..
2007-08-30 09:19:29 · update #1
He just wanted sex and he did the typical "Play nice till she gives in" routine.
2007-08-30 07:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by fallen_angel_0_2 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes sex changes things and it might not even be intentional. Sex is a big thing in a relationship and if you have it too soon it may spoil what could have been a great relationship and it just turns into a "friends with benefits" situation. I told one of my friends to compare it to a movie, if the climax of the movie happens too soon the movie suffers because all the components to making a good movie haven't been built up yet. In your situation all the things that make a relationship probably hadn't materialized yet. All hope isn't lost though, what you can do is try to go out on dates and talk. Even if he gets some after you still will have some getting-to-know-you time and that might bring the newness back to your current situation.
2007-08-30 07:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by cmack45 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two possibilities: he just wanted sex, or the relationship is evolving naturally towards a friendship mode rather than an intense romance. The fact that he didn't walk away indicates the latter. Some whirlwind romances do tend to dampen over the long run. The emotions are too high to be sustained over the long run. But it doesn't mean that their isn't a romantic involvement, just that it is less intense.
And yes, now that he "has" you, he is a little more casual. Is that all bad?
2007-08-30 07:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello!! Actually it he is not the only one guilty in this situation, you are as guilty as him for not respecting your limits as well. First of all, are you looking for a husband or a nice person to hang out and then do the thing? You said he is so hot and a great body and basically he could have any girl he desires; I guess he desired you and ask for it and you gave in, not his fault only but yours too. Sex is meant to be within marriage only, otherwise situations like the one just happened to you occur. Do things right, find you a good man and get married, don't lower your price. You deserve nothing but the best. I hope you are not offended. Blessings!!
2007-08-30 07:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by new MAC-er 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably only wanted sex in the first place or a "sex-budy" or he might have just wanted "the thrill of the chase": getting to know a woman and finally getting her into bed is like a challenge whether you succeed or fail.
He could have seen you as recently divorced and decided in his own mind that maybe all you wanted was the sex too, or a few casual nights, so once that was over he backed off.
Hope it helps!
2007-09-07 02:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by Patron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im going to let you in on a secret that really isnt a secret. everyone especially guys. especially me. want what thye cant have then when they get it...it doesn;t matter anymore. the truth is that you can't give it up on the third date if you want something serious. you have to play with his head. i love it when i get toyed with cus i know i have the better game =P. but the point is for next time. dangle the bait long enough to make him want to beg for that peice of meat then when you have him. keep him needing more even after the lay.
gluck miss
2007-08-30 07:47:15 · answer #6 · answered by reveuR87 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quick decisions do not work.Only within a month or two,you reached to extreme in dating.It takes longer time to understand ones behaviour,thoughts and beliefs.It is better to broke.You can search some other good and sincere friend.
2007-09-07 01:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by KC G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate that you "gave" yourself on the 3rd date. You didn't even "truly know" the guy.
You let your emotions get tangled up in sex.
If the "respect" and "courteousness" isn't there, than you've been played. Move on. Next time don't be so quick to jump into bed. Respect yourself first.
2007-09-07 01:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by hugskisses4707 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he was more or less after the challenge of getting to sleep with you. Once he did so...the challenge was no longer there. You're going to have to find some new way to challenge him in order to keep him around. Then again...there are other guys you can go for that will want you more for you anyways. Your decision.
2007-08-30 07:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by Class 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the guy was interested in having only a sexual relationship. He got what he wanted and now he's not very hot about you.
2007-08-30 07:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by Klm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋