help! im 15 & i hear about the gynecologist. my mom never told me about this. my grandma wants me to go. i know what goes on there! they look at you down there and they shove their hands up you! help! im so freaked out! i heard they put a speculum up you. how would that fit in your vagina? wont it hurt? i cant even handle tampons. how am i going to handle a speculum inside me? im not going. i know some people who never went in their life and they are okay. so im never going to go. i prolly dont have anything wrong with me.
2007-08-30 07:52:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, talk to your mom about it. Why does your G-ma want you to go? B/c unless you have female health issues, or you're sexually active (it doesn't sound like you are) I see no reason for you to go b/f at least 18.
I didn't go until I was already having sex, so it wasn't so scary about the thought of "something" being in there.
It's not too scary, if you get a good gyno, who knows you haven't done this b/f, she'll walk you through it slowly, and it's not supposed to hurt. You feel pressure, which feels weird, like a small pinch, but the concept is much scarier than the actual execution of actions!
2007-08-30 08:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Dj 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I remember this... I feared the daln gyne till I lost my virginity last year, 21 now. lol It doesnt hurt, its just uncomfortable because you're never had anyone in that area.... then suddenly you gotta spread em and let someone look and poke and prod.
They dont shove their hands inside you honey... common fear. And the speculum is something that stretches the vaginal walls, just a tad, you dont feel it really, so they can view your cervix and make sure things are normal. Its totally healthy, and though weird its perfectly fine.
The worst part, other than how weird you feel having a doctor in that area (and get a woman, you'll be much more comfortable) is that the damn speculum is soo... cold. So tell em to rinse it off a bit in warm water. Never use the plastic ones... not sanitary. I too had problems with tampons, only the lites felt ok, till I had sex for the first time last year. Its totally weird, its all weird, but when you're older and do make love for the first time, you will look back and laugh. I do. :)
I think G-Ma wants you to go, cause she thinks ur active... By the way you sound, I dont think you are. I felt the same way before I lost my virginity last year.... hmmm.. try talkin to your mom honey.
2007-08-30 08:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. I didn't go to one till I was 18 and getting ready to get on the pill. I was a few months away from marriage. I had never had sex and was terrified, because nothing had been "there", not even a tampon. I was very open with my Gyno and told her how nervous I was. She was very gentle. The key word to remember is RELAX. If you are scared, your muscles tighten and it will make it difficult. They don't shove their hands up in you. If you have a good, well trained dr. they know how to deal with you gently. Talk with some of your friends and find out who they go to and if they are comfortable with them. You might be more at ease with a female doctor. At 15, I don't see the need in going to a gyno, unless you are sexually active or having problems in that area. I would give it a few more years. Don't worry, millions of us gals have been doing this for a lot of years. I'm 53, have had 2 C-section babies and still get "nervous" when it's time for my yearly pap test. When it's all over, you will wonder why you were so nervous:-)
2007-08-30 08:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by janice 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's no big deal, just relax. You do need to go get checked out and it's not a horrid (just a bit awkward) experience.
Nobody's hand goes up you, and the speculum is small and slides in easily so they can get some cells from inside your cervix for testing.
It's part of becoming a woman sugar, and needs to be done yearly. You'll see it's not the horror you've made it out to be.
2007-08-30 07:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Part of growing up is taking responsibility for your body. At 15, why are you going ? If you've had sex, you can handle a speculum. Their hands do not go up in you, most likely a finger, if that, or a q-tip. Its not as bad as you think.......
2007-08-30 08:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless something is wrong in there there is no need to go. If you do, the doc knows what to do. A good one warms the speculum first.
2007-08-30 08:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I'm not a woman, but look at it this way. I don't think anyone in the world likes to go to the doctor, we all feel self conscious. but getting a regular check up is very important for anyone. how would you like to live in some poor country that doesn't offer you the great health care that you can get in our country. the doctor isn't going to see anything that he or she has not seen a million times before. so just go in there and get it over with and you will feel much better about yourself, it is all part of growning up....you can do it......rock on
2007-08-30 07:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen its not that bad. yes they have something to hold you open it does not hurt and they hve to see. they scape you there with a thing so to find out if you have cancer and its good to check. they can save you if they find it early that is why you need to go. its not worth it to die over something that can be cured. you are scared for no reason i wish i could talk to you. they will not hurt you and a nurse will be present. its for you own good. i guess you must have something wrong maybe infection let them check you i have had 4 sons and it never is easy but its for your own good. its the outside opened up that stretch you abit. not the inside parts of your vagina. you will be ok take care.
2007-09-02 15:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You better go cause thats the only way you will know if you have any problems with you. Problems dont always occur on the outside of your virgina, you could have cervical cancer which can prevent you from having kids and if you dont go let them do what they have to do than it will mess you up. Once you go the first time you will get used to it and someone penis is larger than what they have to put in you. so give it a try you wont regret it.
2007-08-30 08:01:31 · answer #9 · answered by krazyrenee91606 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you are too young to go to the gyno. Wait until your 20's or after you first had sexual intercourse, which i hope isn't until your 20s anyways. SO don't listen to your grandma. Wait till your older. i went my first time when i was 23 or so. And yeah it does hurt at first but its not too bad. It really is good to go. Women's sexual organs are so delicate that it needs to be monitored to know that everything is working well. So wait till your older then go....
2007-08-30 07:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by 2legit2quit 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋