I am in trouble. I met my baby's father when I was 15 lost my virginity to him and by 18 I had a child with him. I'm 21 now and I have a good well paying job w/ benefits just bought my first house. Well my baby's daddy was leaving me to pay all the bills and care for our child. He left me at home crying everynight for the last 2 years of our relationship. And he isolated me from all my friends and I wasn't aloud to go anywhere or do anything. I was very week and didn't have the courage to leave until his best friend started putting some sense in my head and I left. I left and bought my home and didn't plan it but moved his best friend in cause we fell in love. Well, recently I was having second thoughts about if I did the right thing cause my baby's father said he changed and wanted me back. I fell for it and dreamed for us to be a happy family. Although I do love his friend so much I broke things off and he was suicidal over it. My baby's father still treats me the same.
2007-08-30 07:14:45 · 7 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Treats you the same as when he left you, isolated you from society and ruled your life like a caged animal?
Or treats you the same as 'the new improved prince on a white horse'?
I made the mistake several times of believing in the whole "I'm a changed man" routine. They falter every time. I feel sorry for you that you probably threw away real love for a head game. They quickly prove how changed they are then in no time you'll be just as dictated as you were before. You'll see.
Notice how he wasn't a changed man until you were standing on your own two feet with the securities of a house and such? Amazing!
I'd beg you to open your eyes to this. You ditched the one who put you on your own feet for the very guy that tore you down, abandoned you and made sure you had nobody.
2007-08-30 07:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on girl ,what's wrong with you ?????? cant you hear your self??????????????????????????? even if he was the father of your child ,he is a bad person even though you seems so much in love with him. look at your self in the mirror have the brave to say i don't want him in my life. i have to build my future for me and my baby away of him for your own good and your baby's. know well that a person like that even if he said 100 he'll change he wont , and because he was your first you will never forget him and your heart will always go back to him . i would say one thing to you either now or you will never be able to do that again so do it now.
2007-08-30 07:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by viny616 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU didn't plan it, but I can assure you the best friend planned and schemed for quite some time..it wasn't an accident from his point of view. Guaranteed!
Get rid of both of them.
2007-08-30 07:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by zanthus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the father will treat you the same way again and it will happen you should stay with the friend ehs the one that is your true love.
2007-09-02 15:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all listen to yourself. Ask yourself. You also hav to talk to him. You are the only person who knows wat yu hav gone thru. IT dosnt matter wat we say you hav to leav wit this person for the rest of ur life. And u also hav to consider his the father of ur baby. Do u wan ur baby to leave without his father. i thk if his a gud guy go for him
2007-08-30 07:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by priti d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave them both you don't need that drama with a kid at home to take care of.
2007-08-30 07:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to his friend if you really love him, go where it makes you the happiest.
2007-08-30 07:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by clairelington 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋