my boyfriend and i have been going out for eight months going on nine. so we were having phone sex and he told me he wants to make love to me. i know he wanted to tell me that before but i kind of knew he was scared to say that to me because he didn't know what i would say. so i told him when he said i want to make love to u that i wasn't ready to do that yet and i asked him if he was ok with that and he said yes why wouldn't i be.
2007-08-30 07:47:40 · 34 answers · asked by leiandra p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
8 months going on 9, and you haven't had sex yet? If you guys are getting yourself off over the phone, then why haven't you gone ahead and had real sex? No way would almost any guy hang around that long without getting anything out of it. Why are you holding back? How old are you, and are you a virgin?
2007-08-30 07:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by The Ball Coach 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think that the reason why you are not ready to make love to him is because you are not ready and you are not ready to get your feelings hurt or disappoint him if you do something wrong. you can never do something wrong all he wants to do is show you how much he loves you and wants to be there for you no matter what happens to the relationship. If you do not feel that his intentions are true you have to make yourself clear and ask him questions to ease your mind for you to be more comfortable with your decision. We all have to get hurt sometimes even though we do not want to. But that is apart of life and we have to go through things that hurt us for us to be stronger and to help us grow up as adults. If we constantly become afraid of everything in the world we wil never know what we are capable of doing in our lives without trying. Take your time and do not rush your decision and do not make him rush you but I can tell you that if you find love that is true and you want to be with him we have to take chances and deal with them as they come. Some men feel that if you do not put out that they can find someone else that will and you will be left hurt and alone anyway. If you do not want him to go to another take that chance and not just him can hurt you but you can urt him and decide that you can find someone better. we have the power and we as woman need to know how to use it to keep our men in line and let them know that they are not the only one that can use someone.
2007-08-30 08:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This means that he doesnt want to just have sex with you he wants to make love to you, and have some meaning to it, other than just sex.
This guy is obviously a good guy, since he didnt mind and understood that you weren't ready, alot of guys put up a grude and say you dont want me, you dont love me, etc. This guy sounds like he loves you, hes a keeper.
Good luck!
2007-08-30 07:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jgiggy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...You're too young to have sex.
And every guy will tell you it's okay, it's what we do. And he's wanted to have sex with you since day one, it sounds rude and blunt, but it's the truth, that's how we guys work.
If you say otherwise you're gay or a liar.
It's niether bad nor good, it's just coming of age, perfectly normal. Maybe you could comprimise and do something of a ...lesser degree? That's still up on the base-line if you know what I mean ;)
2007-08-30 07:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by knightofyourmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready to make love you shouldn't have phone sex because that's just going to get him in the mood to make love.
2007-08-30 07:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are goodfriends for a long time so you really know each other for a bit long time like you meet each other almost every day and you are toghether for about a month and you think you know him then why not go for it.bUT BE AWARE tell him to use condoms even if he wants to do something anal because then he could get diseases.
2007-08-30 07:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by TheHumanist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your not ready maybe you are a little be scared of what might happen, its good that he respects you.....so when u are ready to take it on the next level, go ahead....meanwhile do you phone and cyber sex thing,,,,,its quite healty
2007-08-30 08:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by Xiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its a bad thing, especially since he was ok with you not being ready. If he starts pressuring you, though, that is a bad thing. Don't have sex until you feel totally ready.
2007-08-30 07:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by the first deodorant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready....NO! he waited this long, he can wait longer. If he really cares about you, he'll stick it out. But you kind of led him on by the phone sex thing. Poor guy has the bluest balls ever I bet.
2007-08-30 07:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can be bad and good because he may just be telling you that to get in those jeans or he could really mean it and he is telling you that to let you know he is committed to you and no one else. So before you do stop and think because he may not be the one for you.
2007-08-30 07:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by Lil Steph 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋