Family & Relationships - 26 August 2007

My wife (ex)? and I have been split up for the past month now, the marriage has really been rocky for the past 3 years, here is why. I volunteered for duty in Iraq. The entire time I was there she wrote me 5 letters, I was there for a year. While I was gone she cheated, and became pregnant, my decision (rite or wrong) was for her to either loose the kid, or me, she chose to abort the child. I found an email in July on myspace of her talking with her bestfriends brother, flirting and "why didnt we have sex the night that we kissed". She never paid bills, causing us to declare bankruptcy, ruining my credit. She says I treat her like s**t but I tell her it's the effect, of her cause. Now that we're seperated she's "talking" to another guy from her old work, but they're just friends. When I found her email we ended up in a huge fight, yes I lost it, yes I hit her. Im not proud of it. I did get in trouble with the law. I've seen alot in Iraq, and stress from her. Help, what should I do?

2007-08-26 23:54:17 · 20 answers · asked by stevo52979 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Was it something you had carefully planned in advance (i.e. date, location) or did you just do it "on the spot"?

2007-08-26 23:52:37 · 14 answers · asked by louloute 1 in Weddings

im 28 years old girl.my parents torture me frm last 8 years.now its too much. im self dependent.is there any legal procedure or law by which i can leave their home.plz suggest

2007-08-26 23:52:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-26 23:48:22 · 10 answers · asked by stardu5t7 3 in Singles & Dating

I really fancy this guy at work (leaving in a month though) but don't think he likes me. We chat about music and have lent him cd's. It is hard to talk at work coz of people listening in the staff room etc.. I bumped into him in a shop where he was buying his birthday wine to drink a glass of on his OWN, he didn't ask me along, I was hoping he would ask me, so I don't think he fancies me. My friend at work let it slip that I quite like him, but he still chats to me, doesn't seem uncomfertable. He mentioned to my friend that he bumped into me in the shop, if he didn't like me, he wouldn't have been talking about me would he?? Should I do anything else or just leave it. I'm worried that if I do anything else I will look like a stalker!!! He knows I like him, have chatted and flirted loads with him, now what else to do??!!! He sometimes seems in a rush to get away from me though but in the shop we chatted for a long time. Is he just shy or not interested??

2007-08-26 23:30:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am an attractive 28 yr-old woman, married for 2 years. Due to my husband's health, he can't have sex with me. I am dying inside as I love having sex alot even more than once a day. But we haven't had it for almost one year, and before that it was once every month. This problem is killing me, I have a very high libido, and I just can't take it anymore. He has consulted with a doctor and he is due to have an operation in the next 6 months. His problem is Sleep Apnea, where he can't take enough sleep, always tired, sleepy, and he can't breat through his nose. His breathing also stops for a few moments during sleep evey 10 minutes. It's very dangerous, but he is not helping it either. He is very obese and also smokes. He says because he is always tired, he can't even do any excercise. I am still not sure if Sleep Apnea can make you disable to have sex, as I think with the right libido, you can motivate yourself even if you're tired. What do you think?

2007-08-26 23:26:21 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I wish we wouldn´t have rented a tux-we should have taken that $95 rental fee and invested it in a suit. The best man wore a suit, my Dad wore a suit, and we should have either bought my husband to be a nice suit, or just bought him a really nice white shirt and a tie instead of renting a tux.

I just wanted to post this so other people would follow our advice-100s of other guys had worn that same tux, and we should have had my husband wear something he could have kept the rest of his life.

2007-08-26 23:23:33 · 12 answers · asked by Learning is fun! 4 in Weddings

I think my heart is breaking I need advice! I went out with a guy for seven months and when we broke up we hardly spoke but lately we've been really good friends again, for the past month and he's been acting like he used to when we dated. The other night we were staying at a friend's and we stayed together, and he was saying things to me all night, like really sweet things and the next day he asked if we were going to make anything out of it and I said I wasn't sure but I'd like to and he said he thought we shouldn't and I said if I'd known this I wouldn't have done it the other night, because I thought it was more than it was, and he got mad he was like '**** you stop messing with my head' and all this and he only started speaking to me again this morning and he's just been horrible and saying it's complicated and he can't explain it and I just don't understand I really don't. I've been crying since four yesterday afternoon and I said that and he said 'Don't give me that ****.'

2007-08-26 23:20:17 · 18 answers · asked by jsfkil 1 in Singles & Dating

What do you look for in a girl/boy?
Appearance and personality-wise.

I'm not looking to change myself...I simply am interested in what you have to say.

2007-08-26 23:19:14 · 5 answers · asked by Bri 3 in Singles & Dating

My husband wanted me to entertain his sister, husband & 2 kids in a studio apt (I pay bills). Keep in mind that his sister's husband ripped my mom off $5,000 on her household repairs he partially/poorly started leaving incomplete & still wanting another $500 to complete his mess (he told her off on the phone). My mom demanded for them to not stay in my home. My husband told his sister they were denied access and now he is lashing out to me and his sisters about my mom(he lived with my mom rent free with cooked meals for 6yrs). It is funny because my mom had problems with her ex-husbands sister and things were never the same. My mom is now putting all types of ideas in my head encouraging me to leave him. Before this mess I didn't have problems with his family or him since he has started working. What must I do? Still communicate to his in-laws when they visit? Stick around when he has a hissy fit about my mom and speaks badly? I told him I am leaving him - he's been silent since

2007-08-26 23:03:33 · 8 answers · asked by TVStar! 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-08-26 23:01:02 · 15 answers · asked by angel 1 in Singles & Dating

And how many of you ? Do you guys enjoy it ?
Specially for the girl, do you get bored if just spend time at home all the time ? Are you Ok with it, i mean do you complain to your bf/gf to ask you to go out ?

2007-08-26 22:57:26 · 16 answers · asked by AL 1 in Singles & Dating

I can't find my decree nisci ( divorce papers). What do I do?

2007-08-26 22:53:18 · 4 answers · asked by barbara r 1 in Marriage & Divorce

a ladys other set of lips which turn briter and fill with blood when excited....

therefore lipstick makes women look as though they are sexually excited to the opposite sex

2007-08-26 22:43:04 · 9 answers · asked by Learner 1 in Singles & Dating

I apologized and sort of laughed that I was pathetic cause I didn't want her to think that I was always that terrible. I fought the urge but it just felt to good. She said not to worry about it. I still feel very akward about it.. Any advice?

2007-08-26 22:29:09 · 32 answers · asked by Terry A 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-08-26 22:28:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

to have a girl who gives you a kiss to wake you up every morning, have breakfast together in bed, sometimes make love in morning if have mood, kisses you before you go to work, keep the house clean & tidy, looks after the kids (if you want to have kids), prepare dinners for you, have a cup of coffee & watch TV together or have a walk after dinner, have great sex with you, never ask you to buy anything for her, what she wanted is your love.

She is a pretty & lovely virgin and has good personality. She has a good job but is willing to quit the job and stay at home if you want.

Is there anything you don't like or think not enough?

2007-08-26 22:07:10 · 18 answers · asked by Littlestar 3 in Singles & Dating

I have been having steady relationship with my gf for the past 2 years. A few days back, I told her that sometimes I masturbate. She got a bit irritated and started calling me cheater. When I tell her its comman, she says she does not do nor her friends do it. I am confused. I don't like hiding things from my near dear ones and also there has been absolutely no problem in our relationship due to this.
Why should she behave like this ? How do I deal with this?

2007-08-26 21:49:25 · 41 answers · asked by Saket S 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

i am between 12 and 15 is that good or not

2007-08-26 21:42:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Three year ago I had girl friend but she decided to marry some other person and since I love her very much and I though the guy will assist and care her (financialy) in all her life I gave to them my blessing and she married him and two year later she gave birth.But one day she calls me and told me that she devorce him and she is being alone with her one year baby .........Since then I felt sad for her and I started to interest on her because I am still loveing her very much. tell me may I ask her to be my friend again? if I do so do you think she will belive me because I know she so loved me very much when she decided to marry that person and now she feels guilty.

2007-08-26 21:41:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

IF some woman / man HIDES from their would be husband / wife that once he / she had sex with his / her college mate before marriage ;
then after marriage can she / he get jail for CHEATING husband / wife by hiding the fact about
his / her virginity at the time of engagement???

Can that husband / wife apply for divorce because of that cause(India)????

2007-08-26 21:40:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Let's try this agian, Im reasking this question because I didnt seem to make myself direct or clear in any way at all.

I love myself, and Im amazingly self assured and know i can do just about anything. My parents dont support my dreams or goals so i do it myself, My friends say Im concieded, but not because i look at myself alot because i don't. They say it because Im completely sure that I can get any guy I want. Not that its hard, all a girl has to do is try. People ask If Im selfish, like could care less about anyone and everyone, but if i say what i want to do with my hard earned cash I sound fake, because i'd seriously love to help get some homeless off the streets, and help the cancer society. Why? Because I had cancer when I was 11, I had hodgkins. Why the homeless? Because Im tired of seeing them on the streets, its sad, and unsanitary, Im not lil miss princess, who wants to be perfect. But I'd like to make a name for myself, Im bent on making a name for myself

2007-08-26 21:30:57 · 6 answers · asked by ahblazamayes001 2 in Singles & Dating

Basically I have an odd fetish in that I like to smell girls farts. Before I got into a relationship I would pay a woman to sit on my face and fart away.

Now I have a girlfriend it is more difficult as I don't want to cheat on her. I tried to compromise by entering the toilet after she had used it but I can't smell anything just air freshener...

To me it is the fact I find her attractive makes me want to sniff her farts I don't want to sniff anywomans butt gas you know. How can I approach asking her to do this? she wouldn't even need to sit on my face just let a few go in bed..... Thoughts?

2007-08-26 21:30:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

they are truly dumb?

2007-08-26 21:27:59 · 7 answers · asked by truth set free 1 in Singles & Dating

I was seeing a guy who I would go down for the weekend to visit. I loved him and he knew it. He suggested we be friends as he couldn't stand my nagging and complaining....which I believe wasn't that bad. Anyway, I'd told him about a guy who came up to see me for the weekend, and told him that he took me shopping and for dinner etc.... A month later, which was a few days ago, he called me up and whilst we were on the phone he told me about an irish woman who came to see him over the weekend, whom he met on a weekend away. He was telling me that she didn't nag or complain and when he'd went upstairs for a nap, she would follow him up there and they would nap together - but I would complain at him napping for 3 hours whilst I was downstairs watching boring s***t on TV. Also he was stressing that she paid for her travel to go see him saying that shes an 'independent woman' - hence the fact that I got him to pay for my travel......what do you think he's playing at? telling me bout her?.....

2007-08-26 21:20:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

get mad its cute.i mean we get fustrated at them then they start laughing!

2007-08-26 21:17:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was watching the The good, the bad, and the ugly and the wife stands in front of the wide screen and wants to talk. Normally I have no problem talking to her but........ It’s the end and the three are facing off in the cemetery. What should be the punishment for disrupting the total pay off?

2007-08-26 21:09:13 · 14 answers · asked by Dr Phil 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Every time my bf asks me to go to the beach with him he invites his brother and his friends.

He would say "come to the beach with me" and i would agree.. then later on he would say "oh by the way my brother and his friend r comin too"

Yesterday we went to see a movie and he msged his brother to see if he wnated to come along.

It annoys the hell out of me. I want to spend time with my bf without his brother or whoeever else there.

Am i overreacting? I don't really want to say anything to him.. I don't want to feel like I'm making him choose between me and his friends...
We have plenty of alone time togehter.. I would just like to be able to share things like movies and the beach with him aswell..

Am i being stupid?

2007-08-26 21:03:07 · 23 answers · asked by jeska102 1 in Singles & Dating

Can love be measured and compared - he loves me more than I love him, kind of deal?

If so, what are the measurements? What qualifies as more or less love?

People leave relationships because they "fell out of love" - does this have to do with quantity or quality?

2007-08-26 21:02:31 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-08-26 20:49:24 · 6 answers · asked by Rose 1 in Singles & Dating