2007-08-26 20:49:24 · 6 answers · asked by Rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wasnt sure if anybody would pay attention or not but since u all are here to help, il give a few details.I met this guy A through another guy B. A n B are good friends A n I got involved n somehow B developed something against me for no particular reason,so he starting bad mouthing me in front of all our common friends especially in front of A,things kept fluctuating between me n A.We seem to feel a lot for each other,we fought a lot in the initial stages of "being with each other" its been 6 months since i met him but we still havent publically announced that we have feelings for each other even though its pretty obvious n i know its obvious coz our common friends have bluntly asked me if we r our we'r not in a relationship......
The problem is he is extremely warm for a few days n then becomes cold n then when i ignore him he becomes all lovey dovey again it just annoys me. Why cant he be consistent with his feelings? Are all men like that? What am i supposed to do? :(
2007-08-27 17:54:25 · update #1
Yes I'm lost and my arm is bent the wrong way; due to genetic forces I can't ask for directions or change the toilet paper rolls. (what can I say-- I have my limitations).
Did you ever think that GUY B was just letting you meet Guy A as a way of letting you meet his friends----not date them. He's hurt because he wanted you to go out with him---and not his friend. So this is the way he gets back at you both for going behind his back.
now that you put in the details it is a lot easier then just "men problems". First of all any man that doesn't stand up for the one he cares about or a friend is not a man. The person who you care about is a boy--he is more worried about what his playmates say. He is too immature or has a mental condition to have a relationship of this type. I would put his relationship mental age at 8 years old. Just step away--there really is no point in dragging yourself into this--you can't fix him, you can't teach him----men are not a fixer-up at this point--you need to start with a good foundation, and this guy can't even support his own thoughts and desires.
Second you are doing the same thing by ignoring and acting warm the next day--- you need to be constant too.
next time use made up names (BoB, Dave, Jim) it is difficult to figure out the A-B relationship thing for a guy--I though I was putting furniture together from IKEA
2007-08-27 10:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by redrepair 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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okay..now we have details, much easier. also as mentioned below fake names would be A LOT easier to follow then that whole A & B thing. Kinda hurt my brain...
So I would def. say guy B liked you all along. Now he is hurt because you and A obviously have feelings for each other. They both sound really immature to me...Anyway, he is lashing out by talking badly of you to A, who seems to like you, but yet is ashamed of the situation or something. A sounds like he has issues, and I doubt if he hasn't been able to handle this properly in 6 months, he ever will. It sucks, but you should prob. move on and find a guy who is proud to be with you!
2007-08-26 21:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by hb kitten 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes most men are like that, cold one day, warm the next.
I think you and Mr. A need to sit down and decide whether or not it is a relationship. I know you may feel a little uncomfortable about having such a serious conversation, but if you want a serious relationship, there are always going to be serious conversations involved....
Get cracking sister, pull your man into line!!!!!
Good luck hunny!!!!!!
2007-09-03 19:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by thashez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, NOT ALL guys are jerks, (not intended to be offensive). What you need to do is talk to him; say,"listen, it's obvious you like me, k but what I don't understand is why you treat me like crap! So here's how it's going to work, you can talk to me, but in a respectful way,second of all, YOU WILL RESPECT ME! Third of all if you ever want to date me (YOU) the way you approach me is totally disrespectful, and so childish, so please honey, if you ever want a piece of this, you need to grow up, because I don't have time for games, you see, most girls would play your games, but see, I'm not a girl, I'm a woman, & I don't play NO games!" One you have said something like that, he will RESPECT you, because honey, men LOVE a feisty woman who don't take NO BULL.
2014-01-22 16:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly.
But by all means - do explain a bit more.
Maybe that will help.
2007-08-26 20:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by U_S_S_Enterprise 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you black? This sounds like a black person question
2016-01-21 15:18:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋