Every time my bf asks me to go to the beach with him he invites his brother and his friends.
He would say "come to the beach with me" and i would agree.. then later on he would say "oh by the way my brother and his friend r comin too"
Yesterday we went to see a movie and he msged his brother to see if he wnated to come along.
It annoys the hell out of me. I want to spend time with my bf without his brother or whoeever else there.
Am i overreacting? I don't really want to say anything to him.. I don't want to feel like I'm making him choose between me and his friends...
We have plenty of alone time togehter.. I would just like to be able to share things like movies and the beach with him aswell..
Am i being stupid?
2007-08-26 21:03:07 · 23 answers · asked by jeska102 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No,you're not over reacting.You're going out with him,not his brother and his friends.Tell him that you want the two of you to be by yourself sometimes.Make sure you do this carefully-you shouldn't make him feel as if he has to choose between you and his friends.
2007-08-26 22:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not being stupid! He is your bf and you want to have "special" times at the movies and beach and you should without a brother or friend tagging along.
You are not overreacting but I do think you should talk to him or maybe you should ask him to go to these places with you, instead of him asking. When you ask, if he mentions his brother, politely say, "you would like it to be just the two of you for the day".
2007-08-27 04:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by Atropabelladonna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not stupid, maybe just a little clingy..If he is spending plenty of alone time with you, then whats the big deal? BUT if it seems he is inviting other people along only at the times you two might have some..Um..Special moments which could be the beach and movies..then you might be on to something..But I wouldn't say anything..either way.. Just pull him off the the side somewhere...
2007-08-27 04:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by Shonda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dear You are not stupid, You have the right to ask for some privacy with your Boyfriend, Maybe he is not seeing this, There's many things are meant to share in some privacy, and ofcourse bring his brother and his friend Woaa thats embarrassing, So i know you remain silent at the beach or at the cinema...
You need to tell him your point of view, and i'm sure that he will understand you completly. Good Luck :)
2007-08-27 04:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention the ages of anyone. If you're over 18, with your own jobs, places, & paying your own bills, you aren't being unreasonable to want to spend some time alone with your boyfriend. Just tell him that. Make sure you tell him that you don't want him to have to choose between you & his friends. You just want some quality time alone with him. If he is a reasonably adult male, he will understand that. Good Luck & Blessings
2007-08-27 04:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by Tail Stinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are stupid. It's ok when you wanna spend time with him without any other people. Perhaps you yourself could try to invite him somewhere. Or you could try to show him that you don't like when there is always somebody with you. Although I must confess that I have also noticed that some boys don't notice anything you try to tell them and you have to tell them directly. Good luck;)
2007-08-27 04:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it annoys you but you have to understand that is logical that he wants to spend time with his family too. I think that it is very thoughtful of him in wanting you to communicate with his brother it shows that he thinks of you as a serious relationship. Enjoy time with him but of you dont like him taking people along font be afraid to tell him but without hurting him. Talk to him =)
2007-08-27 04:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being stupid by getting annoyed instead of talking to him about it, yes. Just make sure you do not take up every minute of his spare time so he can do things with other people too.
2007-08-27 04:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make time for group hang outs and another for just you and him, next time you're together make sure if this is the first or the second..to clear things up.
2007-08-27 04:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by Larissa_Antipov 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't being stupid. You aren't talking to the right person about this though. Tell your boyfriend. Just don't expect him to exclude his family and friends all the time.
2007-08-27 04:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋