Am I Overly Confident?

Question

Let's try this agian, Im reasking this question because I didnt seem to make myself direct or clear in any way at all.

I love myself, and Im amazingly self assured and know i can do just about anything. My parents dont support my dreams or goals so i do it myself, My friends say Im concieded, but not because i look at myself alot because i don't. They say it because Im completely sure that I can get any guy I want. Not that its hard, all a girl has to do is try. People ask If Im selfish, like could care less about anyone and everyone, but if i say what i want to do with my hard earned cash I sound fake, because i'd seriously love to help get some homeless off the streets, and help the cancer society. Why? Because I had cancer when I was 11, I had hodgkins. Why the homeless? Because Im tired of seeing them on the streets, its sad, and unsanitary, Im not lil miss princess, who wants to be perfect. But I'd like to make a name for myself, Im bent on making a name for myself

When im around guys, Im self assured that they will like me, because Im fantastic, or at least I think so. Im not the hottest chick ever, Im definitley no amy lee or jessica simpson, but im not ugly. Im sure than when someone sees me theyre not seeing me, so I start talking to them, reel them in with my out going and loveable personality. People also say Im a heartbreaker, because I've never had a guy dump me I break up first, maybe im insecure because i dont want to be hurt. Maybe Im insecure for asking this question. But lets just say this now you know the facts heres my question.

DO I SCARE PEOPLE? Am I to open? am I to forward? Does it truely freak people out if you come up to them and say Hi, you look like a fun and exciting person lets hang out, is it scary when a girl makes the 1st move in a relationship? seriously?

Answer 1

Now, first things first:
There is nothing scaring in a women who confronts men. Very much the opposite: man will gladly accept that, because it's a very refreshing attitude. You are overly self confident? To cite Shakespeare: "to thine ownself always be true, and it must follow as the night the day, thou canst be false to any man." Having confidence in oneself is a great thing (and for me personally, a very lovable personality trait). But you have to accept that self-confidence is only a little step beside from arrogance. It may well be that you appear arrogant to some people. (I kind of had that problem myself. When I was younger I always had different goals and interests than my peers, and to the people who didn't know me personally, that seemed... well, arrogant. Which was true to a certain level, because of the other interests and priorities, I didn't care about their interests and their priorities - which by definition - is ignorant :)

The one thing that really got me thinking in you post was the part about you always being the first to dump a guy.
I have a friend, Anni, which I imagine (according to your post) is very similar to you. She is a very beautiful girl and knows it - so she is VERY confident of herself. But: she always falls for the same kind of guys with the same kind of behavior and it always ends in the same scenario after a couple of weeks...

To me, there is something wrong with that. If I can give you one advice today it is to think about behavior patterns. What needed to happen so you chose a guy? What needed to happen for you to dump him? Are some patterns recurring?

Answer 2

No matter what you decide to do people will always be questioning your actions because most people who want to do things to help others are not normal. Our society today everyone seems to be trying to find ways they can benefit themselves. If I were to win the lottery quite a bit of the money would go to charities which are legitimate. Too many of the so-called charities you see advertised on television spend most of the money they earn on trying to get more people to contribute. My question is when are we going to start taking care of the people in our country instead of sending all our money overseas to third world nations which the majority of the world despises America. It is nice to see that there are some people here that want to try and help people here in this country. I truly hope that you can accomplish something with your desires.

Answer 3

You go girl! For seriously knowing what you want and going after it! Don't worry what others think, how could they seriously know whats better for you then you do? People are usually intimidated by confidence when they lack it. Just go at the path your on, it seems to be working so far. And have you everthought that maybe you break up with people not because your insecure but because you know what you want in a relationship and you weren't finding it in them?

Answer 4

I think the most attractive girl is the one who has enough self-assurance and confidence in her ability to attract a guy, that she's not afraid to let the guy take the initive to approach her first and then pursue her. Most girls are so desperate to attract a guy that they go after him and then the challenge is taken away from him. He then takes them for granted and doesn't make much of an effort in regard to the relationship, cause after all, she does everything!

Answer 5

why did you have to ask the same question twice? You said it yourself...you think youre "fantastic" and when people meet you...they dont see the real you....so you "reel them in with your lovable amazing personality". Youre draining. People will never be able to get through to you, that maybe yes hun...you think too high of yourself. Your friends say it. Yet you ask strangers what they think of you. In your short story about yourself...I already know I would never want to meet you. Does that help?

Answer 6

No one knows if you are conceited or not, not knowing you personally, however........your statements about yourself appear to be conceited, and if you say the same thing in public....well, I can see where they get that idea.