My husband wanted me to entertain his sister, husband & 2 kids in a studio apt (I pay bills). Keep in mind that his sister's husband ripped my mom off $5,000 on her household repairs he partially/poorly started leaving incomplete & still wanting another $500 to complete his mess (he told her off on the phone). My mom demanded for them to not stay in my home. My husband told his sister they were denied access and now he is lashing out to me and his sisters about my mom(he lived with my mom rent free with cooked meals for 6yrs). It is funny because my mom had problems with her ex-husbands sister and things were never the same. My mom is now putting all types of ideas in my head encouraging me to leave him. Before this mess I didn't have problems with his family or him since he has started working. What must I do? Still communicate to his in-laws when they visit? Stick around when he has a hissy fit about my mom and speaks badly? I told him I am leaving him - he's been silent since
2007-08-26 23:03:33 · 8 answers · asked by TVStar! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I set up the home repair deal and his sister later called me names and her husband told off my mom and we paid in advance for these services. My husband didn't want to be caught in the middle but his attitude in defending his family and arguing about my mom - he believes she is causing us to break apart when his in-laws didn't think twice about it. Am I making the right decision?
2007-08-26 23:33:10 · update #1
We are also in another state away from the family.
2007-08-26 23:54:30 · update #2
outside influences shouldnt be tearing your marriage apart. You need to start from the center(your marriage) and work out problems within then turn away devisiveness from outside. I think you are allowing other things to have priority and not your love from each other.
2007-08-26 23:14:40 · answer #1 · answered by msqtech 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a hard situation! Yes, I think you can divorce over in-law problems. I have 2 sisters in law, one whom doesn't speak to the family anymore (thank God) and the other whom is 36 yrs old and has never worked, she just mooches money off the dad, who she lives with. I am terrified that when the dad passes away (he's already 74) that she will show up at our doorstep hoping to live with us. My husband can't stand her either but the thought is in both our minds.
Your husband should be true to you before anyone else - once you guys got married - you're his first priority - not his family who should have their own lives.
Too bad you guys can't up and move out of state, away from them!
2007-08-26 23:51:45 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you would be better if you divorced his in laws and your mother.
Never hire a relative of any form to do work for you. What ever your mom says should go in one ear and out the other. I think a lot of what you know is though hear-say. Take all of that with a grain of salt.
Do your entertainment duty and get on with your life with your hubby.
2007-08-26 23:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried counseling? Sounds like you've got serious communication issues and you could probably pretty easily work them out with a little help. Why not try saving your marriage before just throwing it away?
2007-08-27 02:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont leave over his family. if you leave, make sure it is for the right reason. my inlaws are terrible people in general, and it may have caused problems for us in the past, i do realize that my husband doesnt have control over his families actions. as much as you want to, try not to put him in the middle.
when my husband and i first started dating, his family decided that they could scare me off, and maybe he would try to work out things with his ex wife. they had me followed for months, called and harrased me, even went as far as to turn me in to social services for a bunch of lies...i was pissed! but i had to keep in mind, that he didnt do it. it wasnt his fault...the police were involved, and i had these people arrested finally...it was crazy! that was about 10 years ago, since, we have married, and he has adopted my son. i dont have any contact with them, but he does. everything worked out for the best.
2007-08-26 23:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
regardless to the confusion of this world you as the person u r deserves peace, the absence of confusion....i personally do not believe that this would work in its present form.....you could plan to rent a room for a week,but dont let him know it.you tell him that you need a break....maybe, once he see how he missed you , he will also see what it must take to keep you...
2007-08-26 23:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
had u been in his situation, wont u have expected ur wife to stand staunchly by u? what is the guarantee that ur second time u will have ur cake n eat it too?
2007-08-26 23:12:30 · answer #7 · answered by swati_chhavi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want
2007-08-26 23:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋