They are either taken, single and dont want a relationship or gay? Please help me as keep getting hurt.
2007-08-30 06:58:40 · 9 answers · asked by stardu5t7 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Id advise to set your sights higher than they are, cos obviously theyr so low at the moment that everyone is getting through!
You also have to learn to love yourself, and tell yourself that you are worth more, that you are confident that setting your sights higher will not mean that you are gonna be left on the garden wall...
Everyone has a soulmate out there somewhere, and apparently we all give off certain phibes when we are out and about... Id try looking at people observing them in their everyday life and see if you can spot who is single, looking, dating seriously, married, widowed , divorced or gay... Im sure if you were looking up these people and spotting the differences I feel that, even if you were to check out your score by asking them after you had made your decision if you were right or wrong, they would probably be intrigued, you could tell them you were doing it for a college experiment or something, and you could see if you were right... some may even ask you how you came up with the conclusion and may learn from what you are telling them how to carry themselves differently.
If you see someone with their head down and no confidence, you will automatically presume they are single, and unhappy with themselves. Other than that they may be in an abusive relationship...even that has its hanger-ons, as people who are used to being in this type of a relationship often keep jumping back in the same boat, because the bullies who prey on this type of partner will 'spot the phibe' a mile away... and so make a beeline for their next victim. (unfortunately it takes a massive amount of courage for a victim to break away from this cycle, but it can be done)
Anyway, try the little experiment, even have competitions with your friends, and see who can pick the most right, and learn by the feedback you get to find ways of changing your behaviour so that you eventually attract the 'right' one for you.... and good luck!
It will happen eventually, but dont be in too much of a hurry.... have some fun while youre still single...you dont have to sleep with everyone, try some as friends, do a bit of old fashioned courting!!!
And remember you are a beautiful person, and no-one has the right to hurt you, and they only will if you let them... You are responsible for your own thoughts and feelings, good and bad... and if it doesn't work out for you with someone, then just put it down to experience, learn from the time you had together, Each time you learn something new to take to the next relationship, and by the time you are through looking and ready for marriage, you will BOTH BE PERFECT!!! Hehe!!!
2007-08-30 07:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be coming across as too desperate. You shouldn't feel the need to seek out a guy, like that saying goes and holds true is that they will come to you when you at least expect.
Instead of worrying about a guy hurting you all the time, go out with friends with the intention of having a good time with the focus being on you. When a guy sees that you will be even more appealing.
2007-08-30 07:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by honest girl! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a copy of a book called 'Mars & Venus on a Date' by John Grey. I have bought it for several friends and without exception they have all ended up in good relationships/marriage (including me). Read it twice before you go out with anyone else and keppit hidden away to refresh your memory when you find someone new. Chuck it away the day before you get married (and then get 'Men are from Mars'. |Good luck
2007-08-30 07:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is falling for a guy who's single wrong?
2007-08-30 07:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by Franklin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe see what else all these guys have in common because maybe your subcinsious 'type' is working out for you and give someone you wouldnt normally go for a chance?
2007-08-30 07:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by Flutterbies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Persevere my dear. make yourself irresistable to them. Becaome their friend make them want you in every way possible looks and personality wise. They will soon relise they want a relationship.
2007-08-30 07:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be giving the wrong signs perhaps
2007-08-30 07:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give it time and take it easy.
2007-08-30 07:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bcz u are made to be a lesbian, lol......
2007-08-30 07:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by will u answer me 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋