We have 12 people standing up for us in the wedding party.. Do I have to invite everyone's boyfriend/girlfriends to the rehearsal dinner? My parents are paying for this.. (not his..) and with there being already about 20 people, I didn't want to add on 15 more for boyfriends and girlfriends. How do I word that on the invite???
2007-08-30 06:20:21 · 14 answers · asked by ChicagoGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We were going to throw a BBQ at my parents house to keep the cost down, however the recent storms that rolled through the Chicago area caused our basement to flood (which was finished.. had a bar, pool table, living room etc. ) So that is why my parents, recently, last minute HAD to change it. So that is why I wanted to keep the cost down for them.. b/c this was unexpected.
2007-09-01 05:22:06 · update #1
We had no dates at ours. We all ate dinner then went to the rehearsal. (Our rehearsal was at 7:00) Personally, I don't see why people think of a rehearsal as any type of date. The people who are in the wedding are there to perform a duty for you. Their SO doesn't have a role in that. As a thank you for the bridal party, you treat them to dinner before or after.
Oh and we didn't send out invites. I just contacted the girls and he contacted the guys and we said meet us at such and such place at 5:00, we'll eat, chat a little, then head over to the church.
2007-08-30 07:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they all know each other, they dont need to bring dates to the rehearsal. I never got an invitation for rehearsals, just a verbal invite, but I guess you could just write only their name on it. Or if you call them, you can just say you are keeping it to just the bridal party, you will mark down "1" for them, and you are looking forward to seeing their boyfriend/girlfriend at the wedding the next day!
2007-08-30 07:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really should plan to invite their dates. However, if it's just a one-time date or a new bf/gf, you don't need to invite them. Most weddings I've been involved in have only had serious bf/gf invited.
You could always throw a dinner at someone's house. Have a potluck or something and it'll be a lot cheaper than going to a restaurant.
2007-08-30 07:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by tink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I know, dates are always invited to the rehearsal dinner, but only those who are dating seriously. They can't just show up with some random person.
Big wedding parties equal big costs.
2007-08-30 06:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by Peace 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, find out how many you want to invite. Of course the wedding party and parents and IMO add any spouses/fiance's. IF you want add b/f or g/f's and any children.
See how much that total is and talk to your parents since they are paying for the RD. If they cannot, drop b/f's and g/f's and children. IF thats still too much, drop the spouses and fiance's.
Then, in the invite, just state that only members standing up in the wedding are invited. Or after sending out the invite let them know it is only for those standing in the wedding.
2007-08-30 06:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You really can't word it...you really need to invite their dates...More than likely, they will not come because they do not attend the rehearsal and since the dinner is right after, dates normally don't like to show up with out their significant other. Just invite them, this is the least you can do for everything that your bridal party has done for you.
2007-08-30 06:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by beach_local 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Etiquette would be that you should invite those who are co-habitating or engaged. You don't need to extend an invitation to just "a girlfriend/boyfriend". On the invitation, just put the person's name....."John"....not "John and Cindy." Be warned, though, that not everyone understands proper etiquette and even though the invitation was to "John", he may bring his girlfriend anyway!
2007-08-30 15:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you must let them bring there wifes hubbys or longtime b/f g/f! If they are single don let them bring a random friend! Just write there name on th invite but i wouldnt go to a rehearsal dinner without my fiance! So dont be surprised if they dont come! Maybe you should just do hordouves instead of a dinner may be cheaper and then you can let them bring there significant others!
2007-08-30 06:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by RedSoxRock!!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would talk to each of them and tell them that they are the only ones invited and say that your parents are paying for this and it will be outrageous if everyone brings a guest and say I hope you understand and I think that they will be fine with it!! Just be honest!!
2007-08-30 06:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by spagirl23188 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If any of these people are coming from out of town, you really need to invite their guests...what's the alternative...let them sit alone in the hotel room in a strange city while their SO is at a party? That's not right. Also, anyone in a committed realtionship really should be permitted their SO...
2007-08-30 06:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋