Parenting - March 2007

I have a 9 year old boy and a 5 year old girl. I'm wondering if they fight more than average or if what they do every day is "Normal". They fight EVERY day, just pick, pick, pick just to get on each other's nerves. They don't express their love for each other the way I'd like them to, but I don't want unrealistic expectations of them either. Please tell me I'm not the only one that has their kids fighting EVERY day?!?!

2007-03-21 04:34:03 · 9 answers · asked by thelilred_whocould 1

How have you adjusted to the change? Do you feel confident as a parent? Are you ok with your "new" life post-baby? Honest answers please!

2007-03-21 04:14:06 · 12 answers · asked by Maudie 6

My co-worker is struggling because she really wants her two older children (23 and 25) to move out and be on their own. The kids still act like young children expecting their mom to do everything. I advised her to stop doing their laundry and cooking extra meals for them. She did, but even with obvious hints i.e. "you should move out and get your own place" doesn't see to work. Both kids work and own vehicles. Any tips?

2007-03-21 03:41:24 · 28 answers · asked by Karenlee P 2

It is for a 5 year old girl

The invitation says:
No gifts not made out of natural fabrics and materials
No candy or sweets of any kind
No toys that suggest war or conflict or that will require competition to play

I believe I will skip it, My kids won't know the difference.
Is there a nicer word than anal?

2007-03-21 03:22:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

yesterday I got a call from my son's school informing me that he and one of his friends had plugged a toilet so bad with papper towl that they had to call in a plumber. I talked to him on the phone about it and then he went back to class. When I went to pick him Up I asked his teacher what his Punishment would be.She said that the fact that he had to call me and write a letter to the janitor to say sorry was good enough.I'm sorry What? So I went to talk to the principle and suggest that he do some stuff around the school to make up for it.She told me that that was to harsh and he had already been punished. And that I should not be so anry with him. So when is it not to harsh ? when he and his little buddies break a window because they think it's funny to throw rocks at them? I think his school is sending him the wrong message about this kind of behaviour. What do you as a parent think of this attitude from the school?

2007-03-21 02:38:14 · 13 answers · asked by blue_eyed_brat78 4

The order says that neither parent can have overnight guests of the opposite sex to whom he or she is not related, engaged or married when in possession of the kids. If he would just live decently, we wouldn't have needed a court order, right?
I date, and I don't have men over when the kids are there ( or not, actually). What makes that so hard?

2007-03-21 02:20:56 · 6 answers · asked by tiaburkeangry 1

i fail to understand this attitude in parents who dont care for thier children yet raise them up for using as an object of torture when they can just abort them while still in the mothers womb. Why trouble a living soul?

2007-03-21 02:01:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a friend who I think would benefit from the input of other new mothers but she speaks very little English. If anyone knows of a group specifically for Italian mothers and babies (must be loads in Edinburgh) I would be very happy to hear from you. My own daughter and her daughter gain so much from the support of other mums who are all going through similar times with their youngsters

2007-03-21 01:20:45 · 3 answers · asked by SusieB 1

My daughter attends a very nice preschool in illinois. There is a woman with a 2 year old that constantly leaves her in her van to go get her other daughter. The toddler is always unbuckeled and sometimes is even eating snacks that can easily be choked on. The toddler plays with all the cars controls and the whole situation can be potentially harmful. What is the law? The school is not a quick pick up, you wait in a line with 36 other parents and go down 2 long halls, the vehilcle isn't even in sight!

2007-03-21 00:38:43 · 17 answers · asked by roseysuzy1128 2

Today I have an appointment with the prosecuting attorneys office--it's an interview... I'm quite nervous about it, even though I really have no reason to be. I know that he is the father of my daughter, I did not have any intercourse with anyone for more than 6 months before I concieved, and have not had any since. It's just that we were broken up about 5 months in to it and he's now demanding a paternity test, even though he's the cheater. He's not asked/wanted to see her. I know this is probably primarily due to the fact that he met someone in August, got married in January. My daughter was born in November. I'm, recently, very saddened that she has no father in her life. And I have decided that if he wants to take part... or see her, I will allow it. I just want to know what has come out of situations like this for other people. Have you had this 'problem' and how did you cope? I'm so scared and my heart is breaking for my daughter.

2007-03-21 00:33:30 · 8 answers · asked by r_e_bronson 2

My 5 yr. old sisters 17 yr. male babysitter massages her nude and bathes her?
I want your alls opinions. My 5 year old sister loves to be massaged by her 17 year old (male) babysitter who I will call "Tad". He takes her clothes off (he says it is easier that way) massages her bare back and her bare butt and legs. The back and leg part I have no problem with but I do think it is inapproprite for Tad to massage her butt. He also baths her and dresses her which I see a problem with both. I told my mom my opinion but she says that Tad is a good person and would not think of sexually molesting her. I do know Tad is a good person and I really dont think Tad would do anything inapproprite to her, I just think it is inapproprite for a17 yr. teen boy to massage a 5 year olds buttocks, bath her, and dress her . What do you think?

2007-03-21 00:27:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here are mine. My parents said these.

1. If you do that again, your a$$ is mine.
2. If you do that again, your a$$ is grassed. (Whatever that means)
3. If you do that again, I'll knock your teeth down your throat.
4 If you do that again, I'll stick my boot up your A$$.
5. You are as worthless as t!t$ on a boar hog.

There's a few of them. Man I wouldnt dream saying those. What comments did your parents use?

2007-03-20 23:39:59 · 22 answers · asked by CounselorDan 4

My son who is 11 has some kind of rash or something. Its the same colour as his skin and its on her arms, legs, chest, just about everywhere besides his face. His skin feels very rough, everyhwere his skin for some reason does not have any moisture.

I have made him take hot long baths every night and then towelling him off.

Is there any past expierences or anything that if your son or daughter had and how you fixed it? If it did what was the age when they had it- It can be very important

thanks!

2007-03-20 23:37:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-03-20 22:40:37 · 2 answers · asked by ღ♥kaydens♥mommyღ♥ 3

...have a picture of a running child

2007-03-20 22:32:47 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 24.I live with my daughters(ages 9 and 3 - no fathers around).I have a boyfriend(age 29) who I constantly invite in our house(and he invites me in his).Sometimes when I get busy at work(I work half a day) he takes my 9-year-old from school and drives her home and stays with her until I come.Recently she is a bit hideous and she asks some weird questions about penises, vaginas and sperm.We don't have books about that at home and I'm not sure where has she heard all that.And she is very strange when we talk about my boyfriend and doesn't want to be with him in the afternoons.I may be a little paranoic but is there a chance he could be having sex with her or something?I asked her and she didn't tell me anything unusual but in another question she knew how long a penis is...Should I be worried?And what do I have to do?There is noone else who can look after her in the evenings if I am late.

2007-03-20 22:30:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 17 year old has overdrawn her checking account. She basically "nickled and dimed herself" as my father would say. She didn't balance her check book properly, thought she had more money. She uses her debit card for everything. $1.29 for a soda, no money in the bank equals a $22.00 service fee. All told she's overdrawn by only about $40.00 but the service fees for each transaction has brought the total to $357.00. I'm not rescuing her from this. She has to pay back every dime herself. I made her cancel her spring break trip and she asked her boss for extra hours to pay this off. Here's my question. Should I make her cancel her checking account? My idea is to have only a savings account and take out spending money every week. I think that she may not be mature enough to handle a checking account. Or should I allow her to continue having a checking account and just monitor it more closely?

2007-03-20 22:19:41 · 8 answers · asked by kgee 4

Okay, here is the situation. My husband is an older man, with four grown kids from his previous marriage. I have wanted kids my entire life. I love children, and having my own was just something that felt right. He had had a vasectomy, and when I found out, I was devastated. However, he knew how much having my own children meant to me, and so he went under the knife again to get it reversed. We now have a nine-month-old son. Here is where my question comes in: Is it selfish of me to ask him for another after our little guy is a couple years old? My husband didn't want more kids, but he sacrificed for me and now he is in love with and completely devoted to our son. He actually cries sometimes just watching him play because he says he is such a miracle. I want two children of my own, but is it my turn to sacrifice now, and accept that I will only have my one beautiful boy? What do you think? Serious answers only, please. Thanks in advance!!!!

2007-03-20 20:55:53 · 20 answers · asked by Lady Thompson 2

I know a 3 yr old child that i think is being miss treated, listen to this and i'm trying to come up with ways to self this with out having to in voule child protective services. she is stuck in a van from 9 am to 11pm with her mother and other emplyer's she has already hurt her leg the first day her mother took her back from me. she has been sick for the last month in a half to two months strait. i don't feel she is being taken care of. if you want more detail for detail before you decide you can email at llil_thang@sbcglobal.net and i will be more then glad to give you more detail on all of it.

but i want to try and do something where i don't have to invoule cps in this cause i'm scared that i won't ever see her again either and i have already lost 1 niece and 2 nephews to the state that i can't ever see again untill of age. i don't want that to happen to her i just want her in a place where she will be love and cared for the way she should be. and she will know that she is loved

2007-03-20 19:58:56 · 10 answers · asked by llil_thang 1

My 1 month baby boy sleeps less than normal. When he's awake, he moves his hands and legs, and always kicks his blanket off. He cries, yells, and moves vigorously when sensing light contacts. I always wait until he wakes up (not very long) to move him to another place, otherwise he yells out. He can already lift his head up when lying on his stomach, and tries to flip. Some references point that this is an active-type baby.

I wonder what will this type of baby be good at, later on during teens and adulthood? Sports? Being sociable? What kind of treatments that would stimulate the baby (or later on toddler) to sharpen his strength?

2007-03-20 19:44:56 · 7 answers · asked by cyberjazz 1

My daughter had been playing in the kitchen i went to the toilet ,when i came back there was flour all over the place,she had it all over her hair-as i walked into the kitchen she said it wasnt me mummy-Any body else out there with the same sort of thing where in the end you just had to laugh at them

2007-03-20 19:20:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I did not speak to his parents for 16mths. We just started talking to them again. Anyway to get to the point my husband on our first visit gave the $25 because they had no money then he gave the a further $20 then a fridge then a wasing machine. Then my car I now have a car that i do not like But then he offers to pay the registration on the car he gave them when it runs out. He is now lending them $200 to help them move house. I am all for helping people but what the we have two children to support ourselvs. I can't stand that if I say anything to him he makes me sound selfish. Are his parents taking advantage of his kindness or am i really selfish. Thanks for your honist answers.

2007-03-20 19:03:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 38 and live with my niece(age 12).She had been having sex with a boy from another state(when we were at our Christmass holiday) and she told me about that 2 days ago,because she found out she's pregnant.She is entering the 4th month and her belly has changed a bit(I thought she is just eating more).She doesn't know the boy.I told her she will go through the whole pregnancy(to punish her for having sex at 12) and now she is angry and refuses to go out of her room.Is it just a stage which will pass soon or what?I know she needs understanding etc. and I give them to her but she also has to experience the consequences of her choices.Is she angry just because of the pregnancy hormones?How should I treat her?
P.S. don't offer councelling,as her closest relative I think I can manage something like that,just give me appropriate advice.

2007-03-20 18:55:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

How many people do YOU know who died from chicken pox as children? I recently saw something on CNN that said that the vaccine was initially made for immunosuppressed people, like those going through Chemo, etc. But that the vaccine manufacturers weren't making enough money on just those people and told the doctors that they would have to put the vaccine on the routine childhood inoculation list or it would be discontinued.

Lifetime immunity is the result of catching it as a child. The vaccine immunity wears off , leaving adults to get Chicken Pox (which is worse) if they don't remember to get their booster shots. There is also evidence that it will increase the liklihood of shingles in adults.

So, isn't it better to miss a week of work and allow your child life-long immunity? What's the deal? My kids certainly not going to be getting that vaccine.

Here's just one of MANY articles....

http://www.drgreene.org/body.cfm?xyzpdqabc=0&id=21&action=detail&ref=510

2007-03-20 18:14:26 · 23 answers · asked by Addi 1

My friend is 17 and lives in Sells, Arizona. Her mom hits her and tries to kick her out, but she is homeschooled and has no friends or family to go to. Is it possible for her to get emancipated without her mom signing for it? She is scared that her mom will hurt her worse if she calls the police, and scared to end up in an even more abusive foster home. Her boyfriend is 19, so being minor, he could get in trouble if she moves in with him. Her step dad even took her bed away, and she has no phone now either. She really needs out, does anyone know what she could do???? Thanks! I would let her stay with me, but we are in different states and she has no money to get here. Plus, I dont want to get arrested for harboring a runaway or something. If you know anything, it would be very appreciated?

2007-03-20 18:13:45 · 10 answers · asked by Bomb_chele 5

I've read a lot of people answers on when the best age is to have kids and a lot of people say after 25. One person even said that people who have kids before they're 25 are ignorant and don't yet have the intelligence or financial ability to raise a child. I was 22 when I had my daughter and I think I'm a damn good mother! I'm married to the father, we have our own home, we're not loaded but we're financially stable. She's 19 months old now and extremely bright. She knows most colors, can count to 5 no problem and has counted to 8 on two occasions. She knows A B C and is working on the rest. Her pediatrician also said she is advanced in her speech. She's only been sick once with the common cold. I graduated high school and college. How am I ignorant? Just because I'm younger than 25 doesnt make me ignorant or a bad mother! My child is perfectly healthy and is growing just the way she should. I was just wondering if comments like these bother anyone else?

2007-03-20 18:12:11 · 22 answers · asked by Amanda 7

How old should your child or children be, before they stop showering with you or seeing you naked? Does this age change with the sexes too?

2007-03-20 18:04:38 · 29 answers · asked by TPAY 3

This happened to my friend on Friday night. We believe that is was the fact that her children were with her that kept her alive


Read the story online:
http://www.news24.com/News24/South_Africa/News/0,,2-7-1442_2086191,00.html

Toddler saves mom's life

He's only two years old, but Joshua Hulley-Miller ran a kilometre to his grandfather's house for help when his mom was shot by robbers.

Nelspruit - He's only two years old and a few bricks and a tickey high, but Joshua Hulley-Miller ran all the way to his grandfather's house a kilometre away to fetch help when his mom was shot by robbers.

Louise Hulley-Miller, 25, was shot seven times by robbers - it's thought there were five of them - who attacked Rodeval farm on the Lydenburg road near Nelspruit.

They shot Louise five times in the legs and once each in the chest and hand, and locked the bleeding woman into the main bedroom with her two children, Joshua and 16-month-old Lauren

2007-03-20 17:58:27 · 16 answers · asked by redhead 3

2007-03-20 17:24:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have tons of baby clothes my daughter grew out of some she never even got to wear I would like to sell them....would it be wise to do so on ebay? or does anyone know of any shops that would buy them from me or any websites that are like ebay but mainly sell baby stuff that i might make something off of....any help would be appreciated there is no one in my family having a girl so there is no one to hand down any of her stuff to. please help if you know of a place or something i could do. thanks

2007-03-20 17:24:25 · 21 answers · asked by irishcountrybabe 2