I have a 9 year old boy and a 5 year old girl. I'm wondering if they fight more than average or if what they do every day is "Normal". They fight EVERY day, just pick, pick, pick just to get on each other's nerves. They don't express their love for each other the way I'd like them to, but I don't want unrealistic expectations of them either. Please tell me I'm not the only one that has their kids fighting EVERY day?!?!
2007-03-21 04:34:03 · 9 answers · asked by thelilred_whocould 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My sister and i did. its so normal! I can guarantee they have much love 4 each other though.
2007-03-21 04:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by nishababe74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fairly normal. We have 5 kids (ages 2, 5, 7, 7 and 10). One of the 7 year old boys and the 10 year old girl fight literally every single day. The two boys fight fairly frequently as well. Most of the time it's just what you said: picking to get on one another's nerves. When I get really fed up with it I make them hug one another. That puts a stop to it for at least a little while. They don't outwardly show their love for one another but they don't let anyone else mess with their siblings either. My husband said he and his sisters fought all the time too but now they are all extremely close. Hang in there!
2007-03-21 12:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too agree that it is very normal for children to do that. I know I did w/ my big brother, and my 2 stepsons used to go at it like crazy also. You can involve them in the kitchen helping to make a specific dish by themselves, or with just a little input from you. They combine the ingredients, mix, make, bake, etc...serving it as part of your dinner. You can also plan projects and games that they have to work together in order to get through it.
When all else would fail with my stepsons, I would tell them that obviously they just had too much boring time on their hands, and would give them chores to do by themselves, apart from each other (usually cleaning their rooms or reorganizing their closets). This was in addition to usual chores of the day. What they usually figured out on their own is that if they got along they got to have a lot more fun!
2007-03-21 15:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by MrsJ S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. I was the same with my 2 brothers growing up. Fighting is what happens when you get too many personalities in the same room. They'll inflict pain, out grow it and become closer. It's just how it works. I see it in my kids, my son is 2.5 years younger than his sister yet picks and pick and picks at her. It's his way of getting attention from her I guess.
2007-03-21 14:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by C_M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom has five kids ages 15b,15g,13b,9g,24g. The twins a boy and a girl fought every single day. Me and one of the twins fought all the time. The boy twin and the 13 year old fought a lot. We all love each other to death and would do anything for each other. It's natural. At least it was in my house hold. b-boy g-girl.
2007-03-21 11:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by CHAE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only did my sister and I fight every single day, but right now my younger brother and sister fight every single day. Its just siblings do, htye fight and pick. They do love each other deep down, but they are young and they arent going to come right out and say I love you. Someday they will appreciate each other. My sister and I used to fight everyday, and then when I got ready to leave for college we really bonded, now she is like one of my best friends.
2007-03-21 11:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by coffeelover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 14 year old girl and a 12 year old boy and they are always at eachother.
Now when they fight what I do is when I'm ready to break it up I make them hug eachother and tell eachother that they love them. They hate it!
I might be easier for you because your kids are younger.
2007-03-21 12:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal I have 5 kids 13b,11b, 8g, 3b, 2b they are always fighting or picking at each other they will get over not sure when but if you find out let me know lol.
2007-03-23 17:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by sexyvagrl4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 kids and mine have fought like that since the beginning it seems like. I want to say it is "normal" but, I hate it just as much and now my kids are teenagers and they don't do it as often as they use to. I want to believe they did it out of boredom.
2007-03-22 16:37:31 · answer #9 · answered by airymom4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋