It is for a 5 year old girl
The invitation says:
No gifts not made out of natural fabrics and materials
No candy or sweets of any kind
No toys that suggest war or conflict or that will require competition to play
I believe I will skip it, My kids won't know the difference.
Is there a nicer word than anal?
2007-03-21 03:22:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would take my kids to the party, for the five year old girl! With parents like these, she needs to have as much fun as possible with her friends. Wow, that poor kid!
Get her a gift certificate so they can choose the gift themselves. Phew! What an existence!
2007-03-21 04:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by Maudie 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know that many families / parents have strong feelings about some issues - but WTF - Why not just be rude enough to say - Hey just give $ and we'll buy what we feel is good enough for our child. I would have to say - IF your children are really close to this child - best friends in school or something like that and the child would be asking about if they were going to the party or afterwards why they weren't there I'd consider letting them go . Buy something artsy or creative for them to make.
Having your kids skip it might show the parents that they are making a big mistake - but the one that will pay is their child.
I would - if the children want go - let them but I would also mention to the parents - near the end of the party- as politely as possible - that you know people have strong convictions about things but that their invitation with all its NO THIS and NO THATs really made you uncomfortable, so much so that it almost made you turn down the invitation - but because it was a party for their child you didn't want to have her miss out on a nice party.
Good Luck on what ever you decide.
2007-03-21 14:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mum of 6 - newest born 8-25-07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, has this person ever heard the phrase, It's the thought that counts. She should have said no gifts please and had a charity that you could donate to in it's place or something. I wouldn't dream of limiting what other people want to give to my child like this and still throwing a party for her. Stick to family parties if your are going to be this restrictive, don't invite just anyone. I think your right, this person is very anal. Your children probably wouldn't have any fun at the party anyway from the looks of the invitation!
2007-03-21 11:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by Daybreak 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nicer than anal. Let's see...Granola? Leftist rhetoric? Ruining a child? No, that's not nicer. But true.
Requiring competition is not a bad thing. A little healthy competition teaches some very good life lessons. No competition (we're all winners) teaches entitlement. (I shouldn't have to work hard and try hard because I'm a winner just by gracing the earth with my presence.) Moreover, war is a reality. A harsh reality, but a reality nonetheless. By being a peacenik, you're not making it go away. But Al Qaeda is happy that you're going to roll over and die, right? So maybe it will!
Yeah, skip it. Childhood is supposed to be fun. This kid sounds ridiculously oppressed.
2007-03-21 12:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First, it's bad that the mother is ASSUMING that every guest WILL bring a gift. She's almost making it a requirment that you bring a gift or don't come at all. I mean, you normally expect presents...but you don't actual verbalize that you are expecting your guests to automatically bring gifts.
Secondly, how rude and selfish is she to dictate what you can or can't buy? I'm surprised she didn't add "the gift must cost a minimum of $50 or will not be accepted" etc
She is on an extremely high horse to have ever sent out an invitation like this. No thank you, I would skip this party!
2007-03-21 11:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by LittleRoo 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
maybe the kid's got allergies? i don't know what to think of that. i think i'd skip it too but i'd feel bad for the little girl if no one showed up. i've had invites come where there were gift suggestions and i thought that was a little forward. you could call and ask but anal sounds about right.
it might be fun just to go and see what these people are like.
2007-03-21 14:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no, i wouldn't go. God forbid you make an oopsie in front of their perfect child, that has horrible effects. that child will be tramatized.
maybe the kid has many allergies and diabetes.
Edit: on second thought go, to the party. just like Aim said, with parents like these, that little girl needs to have some fun.
this will be a good way to teach your kids that everyone is different and thats okay.
2007-03-21 13:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the poster who said let your child go to celebrate her friend's birthday.I also agree that you should get a gift certificate.I'm sure you want the little girl to have a fun party and it may not be to your taste but send your daughter to have fun with her friend(s).Kids seem to have fun no matter what at a party.
2007-03-21 18:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by gussie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord. Even if I had those beliefs, I would just donate toys that I did not want my kids to play with - or even better - make a lesson with the 5-year old of donating toys to children who were less fortunate. That is rude to state that on an invitation like that. It would be better to just say, "No gifts, please!"
2007-03-21 11:27:14 · answer #9 · answered by Angie 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The last two things I understand but the first one I wouldn't have put on an invitation. On my sons invite I put no guns of any type. I don't want my son playing with guns. Why let someone waste their money on something I'm not gonna use. i can see where she's coming from. I would definitely take my child to the party.
2007-03-21 12:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by CHAE 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋